ATTENTION: Don’t watch the video below before you've read the following article!
One important thing to avoid, when following the so important No-Contact Rule, is to not expose yourself to things that trigger painful memories.
Like, for example, looking at photos of you and your Ex, or listening to your song, (just to name the most disruptive examples).
The danger that we could get caught up in destructive thought patterns, like the “what-if's” and “if-only's,” is simply too great. And the longer we ride this “vicious cycle of thoughts,” the harder it is to escape it.
Yet, today I invite you to watch a video that most likely will make you sad.
But unlike engaging in fruitless self-torturing as mentioned above, this one has a message.
A hidden moral that outweighs the damage it could do.
What Your Ex Left Behind
At the beginning of our break-up, we can rarely see the big picture.
All we see and feel is loss, grief, and consumptive loneliness.
In our pain, we fall for a common misunderstanding that is actually responsible for some of our suffering:
We equate the love we felt for our Ex with the person itself.
The truth is that they are, in fact, two separate things.
Our love we felt was directed towards our Ex, but it exists as an autonomous entity. And as a consequence, it is possible to detach the actual feeling of love from your Ex as a person.
What this actually means is that we can profit from the love we felt/feel and use it to fuel our recovery.
I know this sounds weird, but let me give you an example.
The following, beautiful song lyrics illustrate perfectly what I mean when I say that the power of the love you felt for your Ex, outlasts the lifetime of your relationship:
if I never felt this love
I would have no inkling of
how precious life can be
And if I never held you,
I would never have a clue
How at last I find in you,
the missing part of me.
– “If I never knew you” from Jon Sedaca
Once we have felt unconditional love towards a person – and it doesn't matter whether you've made mistakes in the actual relationship or not – once you've loved, this love doesn't get lost.
It continues to live inside of you as potential, as a sleeping giant that’s waiting to be awakened.
It is this giant that gives us strength and makes us grow as a person.
The reason that we don’t feel its presence right after a break-up is that the pain overshadows it all.
The minute it subsides, we feel it … and everything is possible again.
Realize one thing – you have loved deeply and honestly.
And that, my friends, is a splendid thing of which you should be proud of … not everyone can feel that way.
Yes, you have also experienced loss. But isn’t this much better than not having loved at all?
“Love is never lost. If not reciprocated, it will flow back and soften and purify the heart.”
– Washington Irving
Thought of You – by Ryan Woodward
Now, while you watch the following video – an extraordinary piece of art – I want you to keep this in mind:
The love you felt was not lost, but only transformed, waiting to be reborn again.[vimeo 14803194 w=610&h=343]
Wonderful, isn't it?
It is a piece of art that it allows individual interpretations.
Different perspectives will offer different views.
Depending on where you stand in your recovery at this very moment, this video, in particular, will impact you either positively or negatively.
But you have a choice here.
You can see its radiant beauty, and draw strength from it, or you can just feel the devastating loss it addresses.
I’d prefer, and wish for you, that your perspective is the former. So that you can make a stand, when “the world spins madly on.”
Please let me know what you think in the comment section below.
Your friend,
Eddie Corbano
I wish he would have smacked her in the head at the end. Sorry, but I’m not past the anger stage yet.
But thanks, it’s a nice song and lovely graphics.
I need help. I did nc for 65 days then bumped into him and it started again,
He tells me he can’t giv me a relationship but would love to be friends take it slow see what happens. I cling on too hope but I also feel like I’m on probation to see if I past the test. He flirts with me. I get mixed signals then if I pull him up on anything he reminds me we ain’t together.
I’m in such a bad place. I can’t talk to anybody as I know they will say you went back you deserve it
I wont lie i did cry it touched my heart to remember the love and what we shared no matter how it ended or what we endured we were at the wrong place and the wrong time its such a shame we didnt work out we were both always confused with, if and buts to how the other really felt clouded by my own insecurities and lack of trust at the time it ripped us apart. We would have done anything for each other as were both such loving people x
It was always complicated but as hard as it was and as much as I struggled I never meant for it to end out like it did for that woman held my heart as I did hers and for that is something I will always treasure. Thank you for your web page and those that share there experiences. it is better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all.. I cant remember who that is quoted by originally.
I felt to the urge to end my life and hang myself many times and managed to resist and ended up falling asleep sad and moarning the loss of the love we shared. Â it would have devastated those around me and id much rather value the love thats been shared then lose the essence that life gives us to experience it. I always felt we were as bad as each other there were so many things we kept hidden from me each other that caused our reactions and we really didnt help with the ways we reacted because of how hurt we were. I am at last concentrating on myself and working towards getting the help I need with my own mental health and issues its ranged from anxiety and panic to adha or asd I have leg and back issuses and pains which also have made me harder to be around over the years because I suffer pain and discomfort of which im working on and trying to get stronger. I have met a woman I like and that seems to like me but im still unsure as to if this is all a big game and im the loser. But I support others and love to see them happy so I keep myself away from people and women because who really wants a guy like me lol. I would love to see everyone happy and one day maybe il get another chance at being happy with the right person the right time and the right place. I need to help myself and stop trying to help others.
ive always felt selfish weak and or silly to admit or ask for help and conentrate on myself and not concern myself with others needs the word no is hard to find in my vocab as I seem to want to help those that need it I guess maybe because all I hope for is to help myself or have people around that care for me that arent scared of opening up x
im just used to brushing my problems under the carpet and trying to carry on when really ive not been well and spent time wanting to be there for the ones I cared for rather then being there for myself. I do miss my ex alot she was a wonderfull woman despite our own issues I hope she could one day forgive me and understand or least try to understand that I am sorry and that I have also struggled. No doubt after what shes been through with her own things I just wished I could have done more for her but I had to leave because I just didnt trust her nor did she me. In the end it just pushed us further and further apart.
Got to the point we wernt close because we nagged or felt offended or annoyed we were both such softies really and so jealous im not sure if she would
admit it but there were many times she exspressed it to me as I did to her only thing is I wasnt surrounded by her gfs as she was my guy friends and that was part of an underlieing issue of curiosity for me as to why what was she hiding why did she feel she couldnt share her life n be open with me there were just to many reasons as to why I didnt trust her in the first place but as I loved her I continued to look past these things least I tried to. In the end I began to become the same way to try and show her how it was for me so if she was doing something and not sharing id do the same. It wasnt the way it should be but it was like she didnt understand why we had the issues in the first place because she tried to lie and hide things so the basis of our relationship for which my heart grew for her I later discovered was a lie that broke my heart. I am an all or nothing guy so limbo never works well so things I guess were rushed as opposed to natural for her as for me I was happy to be with her and love her
I looked past it all because I loved her so much and hoped wed work it out I had all the hope and love to carry us through anything only it was one way at that time while she played the single/got a guy waiting lifestyle she wanted her cake and to eat it. I seeked council from others and spoke to women to try and understand and thats when I got sucked in and made the bad choices and mistakes I made through the thoughts and needs of others and hoped to get a better understanding of what women go through and as to if I was being played. Everyone told me to be carefull but I loved her so I dissmissed it im sure she experienced something similiar im not saying she did but that as I did I can only be fair enough to ponder the idea that she also was going through so much and more with everything she had on her plate my life was a walk in the park. Man dont appreacaite women enough for there hard work and women dont appreaciate men enough for there love and carring
even if its the simpiliest of things both sexes struggle to comprehend and or really see what each other is truely doing for one another sometimes as to where things get taken for granted. All we need is just to be happy and loved for we are and how we are. It seems im a tricky one to really understand and get along with not many woman I guess get me and can handle me its a shame but I guess I have to finally see it and admit im not quiet like norm guys?
Im a hopeless romantic terribly thoughtfull for considerate and a gentleman only we hurt each other with our lies and we tried and tried bless us we did try and I have to be positive and thankfull for having the chance even if it didnt work out but to have that chance with her was priceless and I really really hope she finds her princes god only knows she desrves to be loved and adored we all do x id love to see her happy which is something we always told each other even if we didnt work out we only wanted to see each other happy x
During all this she had a double masectomy and we/she lost a baby 🙁 very sad and upsets me so u can only imagine how hard it must have been for her having to go through it all the way we did
Tbh im ashamed for the struggles we had they seem so petty compared to bringing a life into this world or even trying to deal with losing her woman hood to save her life. Poor girl.
il never ever take that away from her x Bless her she was and will always be a wonderfull woman I only hope that she can/could see and remember the qualities in me for which she fell in love with as I do and did her….
Thanks again #_#
My wife of 12 years told me recently that she has no feelings for me. That she would be ‘living a lie’ if she carried on with me. I am completely devastated as she was the one person I wanted to stay married to. She has found someone else and seems unconcerned that the marriage is over. I just feel like my heart has been ripped out of my body and can never be repaired. I don’t think I will ever get over this rejection and just feel like dying. I know I will never love anyone again but am terrified of dying alone. My only saviour are my 2 children who I love dearly but even they seem to have accepted the marriage is over. Why can somebody fall out of love so easily?? I know I will never give my hear away again.
I am sorry , but you are in good company. We all are the broken hearted😱
I went through a break up with my ex 3 times. 2 months ago we said goodbye for good.
It took me so long to get to this point where I can now say: I do feel the freaking radiant beauty on this video and this article fits perfect in my mind.
This is the first time after a breakup that I can finally open my eyes and see that it’s always about 2 sides… even when 1 side (in my case he did) took the decision and moved on. That you cannot love someone for 2 or 3 years after he stopped loving your because you can do better than that, but that it is ok to feel hurt and pain for a while. I’ve learned to identify every feeling and thought that go through my system from time to time.
I start to feel the peace back in my life and my mind.
It’s not exactly “the first time” of course, we broke up 3 times… but I cannot say how happy I am that I see the whole thing with brand new eyes
I see the light at the end of the tunnel, I’m not scared about the “lonely” , cold long nights, because now I can go to my bed and sleep peacefuly because one day I’ll go to bed with the person I’ll share my life with and it’ll be perfect.
For now, I know that now I have to work on my own spirit, mind, heart and soul.
I recently found this blog and it’s just perfect for this stage of “I don’t want my ex back, I want to wish him well, I want to forgive and I want to be a better version of myself” I am now.
Thanks for sharing your experience with us, thanks for existing and for trying to make us feel less alone in these kind of processes 🙂
Every break up leaves both sides devastated; it is like the war – nobody wins; but the recovery is different for some and easier for others. The article gives one point of view..yes of course we fell an agony, we can’t live without them..etc… but after you understand one thing everything clears – your ex is over you. He/she loved you, and still loves you, but passed over and moved on; this is what opens my eyes and of course I am very good at forgetting things – I just don’t think for them – at all!! That is why my ex never hurt me – I just know that this is not a tragedy and I move on.
Wow you are so strong. I wish I can be like you. My fiance dumped, cheated, strung me along. We were supposed to marry this year in October. We informed both sides of the family. Then she decides to inform me that she no longer loves me in that manner. Then she informs me that she still loves me and do not want me out of her life. She wants us to stay friends and if were meant to be then we will get back to the level of love we once were. Then she informs me she has fallen in love with someone else and wants to cut all ties with me. So yeah I am so very devastated but not destroyed. It has been 21 days since our last contact. Two ago she used one of her friend to email me. It reads ” I’m so very sorry” and that is all. My guess is she is feeling extremely very guilty for what she has done. Since seeing her email my recovery has been diminished greatly. My scar has reopened. Help me my friends.
Hey Eddie,
Thank you so much for this site its really helping. I must say its not been easy, loving someone so deeply and honestly and what do you get in return lies and cheating and more lies, she was someone I would move mountains for just to make her happy. I still think,where did it all go wrong. I really appreciate what you doing here its gives me encouragement knowing am not alone in this and knowing also I can get out of this stronger and better. Much regards my man.
Wilson.Ty
I loved my ex very much but I know he is not capable of loving me back fully in the way I deserve to be treated because he doesn’t love himself. I will save my love potential for someone who will treat me right and appreciate me.
well done Mary thats the way forward..even if it hurts fight through it..we will all win eventually.
Day 12 of breakup, day 6 of No Contact. It made me cry. I wake up in the middle of the night thinking of him and he pops into my head first thing in the morning. He is very much like a ghost who will not leave. I even know, that he was not the right guy for me, but it doesn’t really ease that stomach clenching, heart ripping pain.
Anna,
Marry her or not, there is a very high probability that he will do the same thing to the European girl. Now is your chance to have No Contact and escape from being treated like that ever again. You are totally lovable. You are good enough just the way you are right now. You deserve love right now. I am sending love to you. Forgive yourself for your reaction to this situation. You are doing the best that you can and that is good enough.
Its okay to have feelings. After some grieving, its your time for some personal growth and you will become stronger and wiser and will have a better future.
Hi!
My name is Anna and I’m 25 years old. Two months ago my boyfriend, who was in Italy for one month, called me to tell me that he met someone new…the love of his life!!!
4 days before he told me that he loved me and we even spoke about living together!! And I did not imagine that, those were his real words: “let’s live together, I love you, I miss you, I want to hold you in my arms” Can you belive it? I still don’t.
It all happened so suddenly…just a long distance call (by Skype) and puff! He vanished from my life leaving me with an awful pain that I’m still feeling.
Our relationship was complicated but somehow, I had faith and I believed in all the beautiful words that he told me the day he went away.
On the other hand, I’m not exactly an angel. I’m dealing with a lot of problems such as anxiety and low self-esteem and I know I’m not an easy person to deal with…but…anyway…was it necessary to tell me all those lies? To fill my mind with plans that were never going to happen? To break up by phone, ignoring the 3 years that we had been together? Can you love someone, make plans and 4 days later meet “the love of your life” and leave everything behind?
These two months have been hell for me. The first week I wrote him some dreadful emails but nothing else has happened since then…however I feel a terrible pain. Sometimes I feel strong but sometimes I just want to die.
I picture him with a beautiful Italian girl while I am here…in my bed, depressed and feeling as the ugliest, dumbest girl on earth!
I want to break free!! I want to feel better but sometimes I only see darkness and no future at all!
A friend of mine said “This too shall pass” but right now I feel that I everyday is a terrible battle against memories, feelings, anger and pain.
I often think that it was all my fault, that I bored him, that I am so weird (and perhaps crazy) that he just ran away as soon as he could. If this is true…(and it kills me) it would mean that I can’t be loved, that I can’t be fixed.
Today (Sunday) is a bad day! Today I miss him even when the rational Anna tells me that he does not worth it!
Today the non-rational Anna is sure about the fact that Mr. Ex is going to marry his European girl, have gorgeous babies, live in a beautiful house…while Miss Poor Anna is going to die alone…or with her 57 cats…
I hope tomorrow will be a better day!
Thank you!
Anna.
I am so sorry for the pain you are dealing with. It does get better. And one day you feel better. Just start thinking about yourself and healing. No-Contact will help. I do know how you feel and I know in time you will be your beautiful self again. Take Care
Anna –
You derserve so much better. You did everything possible to make it work … he just didn’t realize it. Kick him off the pedastal. You are far better than him. Don’t ever give up hope. Dont torture yourself … you will find someone better. Don’t your ever forget that.
I say this because I was that guy. I met a beautiful girl that I had doubts about. I left her because I felt that she deserved better than me. It was a terrible break up.
But what it came to be … she was everything that I ever wanted. The initial breakup was just too much for us to overcome. Sometimes, we, guys, just don’t know what we really want. And by the time we figure it out, it’s too late. So we need to move on. You deserve better. Screw guys like us … you can do far better. Just accept it’s over. Meet new people … and dream again. Dream about a new life. Get excited what the next chapter brings.
As for me, i don’t know if I will forgive myself for losing my chance with my true love. But I need to … live new life. I need to believe there will be a new person waiting for me. I need to dream again, forgive myself … and believe hope will triumph all.
This video depicts a beautiful disaster. Loving a person with every fibre of your being, being used to sharing your entire life with them, losing them and being left with memories of what was.
The guy I loved do dearly broke up with me and now in trying to pick up the pieces of my heart and life in general. Sad doesn’t even describe the way I’m feeling but i hope that one day I’ll find peace and understand why things happened the way they did.
thank you, Arun, for your kind words.
I know that you are right, it’s just really hard to accept that the man I love(d) is able to walk away when my life falls apart.
My mother is dying. Last night I broke NC. I wrote him how deeply I was hurt. We haven’ t spoken since January. He left me at my worst last year. And I still love him. Or this imagination in my head. Right now I’m very angry with myself. I knew that he can’t give me anything. But I’ m so heartbroken losing him and my mother at the same time. It’s killing me. No light at the end of the tunnel. Will this pain end? I thought I was stronger. I was proud of myself not contacting him for so long. What happened last night, I don’t know.
Dear Nes,
I am so sorry for your mother.
I understand you, the death of parent and suddenly this break up. It can break you completely. It happened to me last year. She broke away from me, I requested her to be with me. But nothing happened. After two months, when I strictly started to maintain NC, I lost my father after 12 day. It broke me completely, but you should ask a question here. Do you really need this person in your life anymore, when he is not with you, when you need him the most????
And definitely this pain will end. You will get stronger. Just maintain NO Contact.
Hello Edy,
Your website gave me so much help and insights to be able to face bumping into my ex and it happened 3 times in just one week, after a year of breaking up and after 7 months of no contact included in that year.
The first time it was awkward, we didnt say hi, the second time it was just as awkward but he said hi first, the third time I was with a date, at a party, kissing, flirting, dancing, and my ex saw evth. I went over and said hi with a smile and a handshake and a little how r u, before walking away to the bar with the guy, kissing.
Ever since that happened, I feel much better. Like I got my closure somehow because after the break up it was always me seeing him around other girls…and this time it was backwards.
I’m just worried about bumping into him later and he will have a date too, doing the same things I was doing with my date. Will this spiral me down again? Am I high on my ego for now or did I really get my closure? Is this the final stage of healing and moving on? Your ex seeing you happy, moving on, in the arms of someone else?
Dear Eddie,
This video was so beautiful. After a year I can watch something like this without crying. I still feel such a loss. He sincerely loved me for nine years then treated me like I was nothing as he met someone at work and wanted to be with her. This is the part I can’t get over. Being treated like a dog. I loved him with a passion but I am not needy. When I think of the hatred for me in his once loving eyes I get such a pain in my heart. I don’t agree it is better to have loved and lost. I don’t ever want to experience this again. At 53 I’ll choose to be alone and justice be there for my family.
NO CONTACT means blocking the person that has broken your heart from all sorts of contact. Block their calls, messaging, emails, and unfriend them on FATBOOK. Hope that made some of you guys laugh a little. I too am suffering such a great devastation righ now. My fiance just dumped me. She cheated on me and strung me along. It has been 21 days since she has dumped me. So yeah still many sleepless nights and the thoughts just continues to go on by themselves. I am doing better day by day with the support of family and friends.
Hi Michelle,
I have read countless posts on this site and only yours is the same situation as mines, except it was 4 1/2 year relationship as opposed to 9 years. I just found out about his cheating with his co-worker last week. He has been seeing her for about 6 months, which explained so many of the changes in his behaviors. I immediately broke all contact with him after I found out. Right now, I am dying inside.
How are you coping now? Has the pain subsided?
Dearest Vanessa,
Thank you for your reply. I occasionally check the this site to reread what I posted and when I think of him. I am truly sorry for your loss and know the pain you feel. Your breakup is relatively new and the holidays were probably torture for you. Please know I feel your pain. It takes every effort you can muster to get out of bed and go about your day and try to control the crying and the rage. Please continue to stay out of contact with him. I made the mistake of begging and harassing him (just fuels his ego). Then one day I got tired of it and just forced myself to stop. This helped me regain my dignity.
I got depressed briefly Christmas day thinking of him with her again. Second Christmas without him. I moved into his house and set up a life with him. I deserved a happy ending but someone else has it. I felt him changing and couldn’t believe it was happening. He basically threw me out of his house. I had to move again. He was so rude to me for months.
I feel better now as time has passed. I don’t think very much of him or his character now. He was a coward. It will always hurt Vanessa but less so. I was off the deep end before claiming that I would never love again. I think I will but this time with caution. The new love of my life is my new grandson. I also grew so much closer to the rest of my family.
Reach out to your family if you can, after a while just being with other people is just enough without even talking about him. You will find courage to go on. Just getting through this heartbreak will show how strong you are. It may take you another year or two and you will go back and forth between the different stages of grief. You will get there. Take care of yourself in the meantime. You are worth being loved. Don’t think because you were deceived that there is something wrong with you.
I gave him my heart, body and soul but love is infinite. Like God’s perfect love for us, we have it in ourselves to continue to let love flourish in so many ways.
I wish the best for you. Love yourself and give yourself to others who need you. This really helps to get out of the mindset all of us who are brokenhearted feel. I find it very cathartic that I can advise you. I am well and you will be to. Take comfort that I am thinking of you and wishing you well.
Hi guys,
Today I came to clear things out of my chest….It’s my 4th month breakup from a 7 year relationship… After the breakup and during NC my ex bf kept trying to be in touch but I never responded. Then I felt like I needed to clarify few things and actually make him see how much he hurt me after all. The past 2 months I decided I should just focus on myself and if possible forgive him in my own way by not trying to argue fight or even care whatever he does with his life. Problem is, I sense he has been trying to get closer and somehow reconnect with me because he claims I’m still very important to him (and I do believe he does love me still); even if things didn’t work out as we and especially him planned…
To my disappointment he’s still with that rebound girl and makes sure to emphasize that he is very clear on his decisions and choices, making me sad because he doesn’t let me move on, sends signals that misses me and eventually if we sort the long distance things would be better, but in the end he says he’s “interested” in someone else.
HONESTLY someone HELP ME understand a man’s mind! I’m just re-starting NC because even though I feel much stable than initially, I must confess this all corrodes me inside out still, and it’s very hard to fight against your feelings and accept the fact that you have been swapped like an item in a store :S
Any constructive thoughts and ideas are more than welcome to just help me MOVE ON FOR GOOD – and be happy again!
Advice….Listen to it loud!!!!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=m02-RHN_hQE
hugs, Annie
Hannah,
I wish I know how to help you move on, I think restarting NC is a very brave step. My ex is having a birthday in a few days, and this week I have gotten messages from some mutual friends( who I also have avoided in NC) that he is in a very bad self destructive phase. He ended our 7 year relationship with no explanation or goodbye. Now I have been wrestling with breaking NC to text him on his bday. I would be 4 days short of the 60 days!! After reading your post, I don’t think I am going to do it. So maybe helping me and anyone else who reads this, you can help yourself find the strengh to move on. Maybe that is why we all have found our way to this web site. Hang in there!!
Hi,
I totally understand your sympathy but that’s right there’s no point being there when they need or miss you because this kind of people only got used to use our feelings to make them feel better.
Since my last post, will be almost a month tomorrow I have kept the NC again, and tbh I don’t intend to get in touch at all. Therefore I keep receiving messages calls and emails from him… asking how I’m doing (like he cares – honestly he doesn’t otherwise he wouldn’t have ended the way he did especally cheated on me..)
Since I remained quiet after an email yesterday, he felt like he should upload a photo taken by his mistress and this came to my attention thanks to common friends… I honestly hate when those common friends just try “help” by telling you ur exes updates on social networks.
So this is actually funny as he clearly keeps playing mind games, clearly isn’t settled and as happy with the girl that he cheated on me with…But most importantly he’s feeling neglected which irritates him. Again, I’ve reached such a level of pain and sadness that I don’t mean to sound mean, but couldn’t careless about his life, it just frustrates me that he still thinks he can carry manipulating me and not let me go for good, because I have been giving him all space and more… I look back and i just regret the time I spent with such manipulative, immature and selfish person..I’m just putting the energy on my personal progress and avoid these memories as they still manage to change my mood.
So stay strong because we all deserve better things and they will eventually come, just be faithful and let it go. I find hard letting it all go, I have flashbacks, dreams which bring back memories..And then I realize he opted someone else instead of me and never kept to his promises…So screw him, I’m not making time to reply his messages, calls, emails…I don’t have time for him anymore as our lives stopped sync from the moment he showed the jerk on him!
Be in touch!
Eddie do you have any suggestions?
Sup Eddie!
I just recently got out of a break up, it’s inly been a couple of days and it’s been hard. My ex and I were best friends before all of it and so happen to fall for each other, it’s really hard losing someone you have known for so long, wanting to just fix it but sometimes it is beyond repair. I know that if we truly love each other like we say we do we will want what’s best for each other. And at this particular moment it’s just best to move on. In the end “if you love something let it go . If it comes back it’s yours. If not if never was. ” thanks for all you do. You give me the strength I know that there’s so much out there for me. And I’m right were I’m supposed to be. it hurts like hell right now. Your articles let me know. One day it’s gonna be alright. This moment will be a beautiful memory. Thanks Eddie
my breakup is still new,, (about two months- 5 year relationship) so this video left me feeling so incredibly empty.. my heart is shattered by this breakup- but i have hope that in time this will pass and i might see this beautiful video in a different light. for now i wish there was an eternal sunshine of the spotless mind. some way to delete the memories. thank you for all the advise and encouragement…. keeping positive.
Eddie – I only just stumbled onto your site during one of my hundreds of online searches for answers. As you well know, holidays are so very difficult for those experiencing relationship anguish and loss of any kind…I want to tell you in only 10 minutes of exploring your articles, and enjoying this video, I have had a major new reveal that nothing, no one, over the last three months has been able to provide. Not only are your insights spot on and delivered expertly, it has hit me like a frying pan to the skull that there really are people, in particular, men like you that are evolved and possess great depth of character and the drive to look outside themselves with courage and deep concern for others. You have a gift, you know this, you have found the sweet spot between helping yourself by helping others, and I hope parlaying a successful career out of it to boot. I so admire that balance you’ve found! Thank you for sharing your gift, you have proven to me that love doesn’t go away, it can find new channels like water finds equilibrium, if you let go and allow it. Thank you for chipping out the first heavy block from the dam of resistance I’ve been holding back for a very long time. I will try to carry the lightness of these messages and share them too rather than spend much more time holding onto the burden of what just needs me to let it floooow 🙂
Dear Anne, thank you so much for your kind words, they truly are appreciated. It’s feedback like this that reminds me why I do what I do… and I’m always trying to give my very best each day to direct you into the right direction and make your life easier :).
Again, thank you so much for taking the time to write those wonderful words to me.
Your friend,
Eddie
Eddie-
You are most welcome! I’m kind of marveling right now at the power of the Internet to bring like minded people together for good, given there are also so many ways the online environment can also be used for ugly purposes. Isn’t it wonderful when it’s good? I will continue to be a resource via this feed for your other subscribers as I can and hope to follow your lead in sharing lessons learned for healing.
Inspired and hats off to you for your leadership;)
Annie