Anyone who has been through a tough breakup, and finally come to the realization that the only way to heal is by following the no-contact rule, have eventually come to a point where they feel trapped.
The missing, the need to see, talk, and feel your Ex again can seem so unbearable. How easy would it be to get a glimpse of the “real thing” – a peek into their actual life – by searching through their pages in Facebook, Myspace and all those social gathering places?
A new photo of him/her, what s/he has done during the weekend, if s/he still misses you – all of that seems just one click away.
But would it make you feel better?
Not for a minute, I guarantee you that.
I've done it myself many years ago.
I couldn't bear it anymore. All I wanted to see was an actual picture of her, how she looked like at that time, nothing more.
I was just curious.
But we all know that curiosity killed the cat.
I did some intense searching, (there wasn't Facebook or Myspace back then), and I finally found a little more than I had bargained for.
I found a picture of her and her new guy.
Now this is something that can destroy you in the beginning. I found myself thrown right back to the bottom of my recovery journey, with all its symptoms: panic attacks, deep despair and depression.
I took me 2 weeks to get out of that. And for what? For a short glimpse into her life?
The price was much too high.
