“Is he into me or is he not?”
This may well be one of the most asked questions in the dating game.
Especially for women it sometimes can seem almost impossible to tell whether a guy is interested or not.
You can spend so much time trying to figure out ‘is he or isn’t he' that the whole evening is spoiled and you still have no idea what the real answer is.
Luckily, there is something that can give you a clue whether a man likes you or not.
It's called “body language flirting.”
Body language flirting reveals all the answers you will ever want to know.
All you have to do is look for the following six signs.
They are very clear, subconscious indications of male attraction, which most men have no control over, so they are very accurate.
One on its own will be a hint in the right direction, but if you see three or more then you definitely should take note!
The first sign is something that seems to be very obvious, but it will give you a good idea of his attraction towards you:
1. Is he smiling at you?
If the answer is yes, then he is clearly interested in you.
If a man has no interest, he won’t smile or try and engage you in this way.
This sign of male body language flirting shows you that he is aware of you and wants to get to know you better.
So if you like him, the best thing to do is – of course – make sure you smile back!
2. How much preening is he doing?
This is another classic sign of body language flirting.
If he likes you, he will want to make sure he looks his best and makes that clear to you.
By smoothing his hair down and paying more attention to his appearance, he is unknowingly sending a clear signal to you.
3. Is he trying to assert his masculinity?
Men who do this by standing with their feet apart and striking a macho pose are trying to look better than every other man in the room.
Even if you only have eyes for him, he will still strike this pose to appear as the best choice of the men who are available in the room.
It might sound strange, but this is very similar to how things work in the animal kingdom too.
If he is doing everything he can to stand out from the crowd you can be sure that he likes you.
4. Where do his feet point?
When a woman sees a man and wonders whether he is attracted to her, the last thing she will probably be looking at are his feet!
But in fact, that is exactly where you should look, because it can tell you a lot about the feelings of the man.
If they are pointing towards you, this is a good sign of body language flirting because that means he is interested.
If they are pointing away from you, then you should start looking elsewhere because he has no interest at all.
That's is a little-known fact.
5. Is he making good eye contact?
Most people know about eye contact, but it is crucial to understand exactly how this works.
If a man is not attracted to you, then he will have no reason to look at you. This much makes sense.
If he is into you however, he will make more eye contact because of that attraction.
But he may also keep looking away if you catch him looking at you.
Don’t take that as a sign he isn’t interested, though; in fact, it is an excellent sign because he feels self-conscious that you caught him peeking!
Body language flirting is easier to spot in eye contact than in some of the other signs at times. So watch out for it.
6. Has he accidentally or briefly made actual bodily contact with you?
That's is a big one.
Have you ever wondered why a man is seemingly accidentally touching you?
A gentle touch on the arm, brushing past you on his way across the room …
There are many ways how a man will use body language flirting by making actual contact with you.
It's called kinesthetics (kino), and it's an obvious sign of attraction.
Conclusion:
There are body language flirting signs a man unconsciously gives that you can look for.
It will give you a pretty good picture IF a man is into you or not.
If you put several of the above signs together, and you can see them in the man you have your eye on, you could well be in store for some exciting times ahead.
But whatever you do, be sure to learn the 10 Secrets About Men as well.
Your friend,
Eddie Corbano
About eye contact: (a man that I’m interested in, made reservations at a very posh and elegant place for us) We work at the same location and he has a very important function for a very large corporation.
My question is this; he comes by randomly to chat, but he always seems to be looking off in the distance at nothing in particular. Do I intimidate him? Of course he looks at me & he seems to lean in slightly when standing next to me. Is it also concern about propriety? I just don’t understand the looking past me while talking. Thank you, good article. I’ll be sure to keep the feet thing in mind. 😊
A man could display any of these signs, but be in a relationship. How do I tell if that’s the case?
I have a coworker who comes to the floor and visits me and talks and sits with me a few times a day, He smiles at me all the time and texts me and asks me where I am when I am at work, brings me things I like to drink, eat, etc. He has a girlfriend so he can’t really like me like that. But I find myself attracted to him as well. I am just not sure his feelings for me.
There is this guy in office. We work in different departments but have to interact sometimes. Initially we have only discussed the work over the office phone. We have never met (we work in a big office). A few months back we had a meeting to discuss some work. Myself and one of my colleague went for the meeting. The guy was already there in the meeting room. My colleague entered first to the meeting room and the guy asked “are you Julia (my name)”. She said no and I introduced myself. A few weeks after I sent a mail with a work related issue. He called me and told me he can come and explain it to me. So I told him where I am seated. He came there and explained everything. Then it became a regular event. He is happy to come to my floor and explain things even when those can be discussed over phone. He looks a lot, smiles a lot sometimes stand close to me. I felt like he is attracted. Then there are days when we call I feel like he can’t wait to end the call. i am so confused. I am attracted to this guy but don’t want a heart break if he is not mutually interested. Should I do something. My colleague is saying that he may be gay coz he doesn’t have any photo in his fb with girls. I don’t know what to think.
What if he is smiling, talking, staring, touching and making excuses to interact plus joking kinda dirty and in playful way trying to scan my personality and stuff? And teases me like scares me?
people are ‘into you” when they ask and seem interested about your life and what your doing in life. If your not interested in them here is a good ole trick to play. Give the guy the phone number of your ex-boyfriend. That way guys will be calling him asking for you. That should throw some doubt into the ex’s choice to let you go.
Eddie,
I have read alot of your articles and they are some of the best on the web. No quick fixes, no sure fire ways to success. The main thing I have always grasped from you is that people may help and assist you but in the end it is you and you alone who determine how your life will be.
I know a guy who i met through a friend that does the eye contact, smiling, teases me, points his feet and body at me & talks to me but he has a girlfriend and lives with her. He is shy but when we are out in a group I always catch him looking at me and when he hugs his girlfriend he looks over to me! Does he like me? What do I do?
Hi,
I recently “locked” eyes with someone. I instantly became mesmorized and kept staring/never even flinched. Then he quickly did a “double” take and we locked eyes again. But, he never smiled. This is never how I act and if I even stare at someone briefly and notice that they see me staring, I always immediately look away. This has never happened to me before. I think it could have been soul recognition, but do you think he is indeed “interested”?
thanks
Hey Sag,
I can’t speak to soul recognition. I can tell you that dominant men are very confident. Because of this confidence they tend to hold eye contact for long amounts of time with a woman they are attracted to.
I can also tell you this. Both men and women look at what they want. We learn this from the study of Proxemics. People do not maintain eye contact with people that do not keep our interest. We do not look a second time at things or people who make us feel disgust.
Men look at what they want. From what you have said, It seems that there may very well be some attraction toward you in the guy you have spoken of. Good Luck!
been looking for this info because I have been out of the dating scene a long time. I have a gentlemen who does a lot of hair preening but wasn’t sure if it meant what I thought it did.
If a man has the option of sitting beside a woman and in front of her, what would he do, if he's interested?
He could be interested either way.
Maybe he's just shy or doesn't want to intimidate you by sitting beside you…
well all these signs were present when i met the man that im crazy about now …..but the problem is that he was the friend of a friend of mine and apperantly my friend told him no to be that close to me since this guy is in relationship already …anyway the problem now is that this guy is not talking to me anymore and i don t have any of his news anymore nd it s making me crazy ….i just wanna talk to him hear his voice …i think im fallin for him …what to do ..any ideas ???? :((((
this is a tough one for me. I seem to be oblivious when men are flirting with me sometimes….This past weekend I met a guy at a friend's group event and we were talking all night…I'm pretty sure there was some flirting going on and there was an exchange of information going on at the end of the night but I haven't really heard from since the end of the night when I left the bar. Yes, see it was a bar which makes me think okay was it just the several beers we both drank? I don't know but it's frustrating because he was a cool guy….
Very interesting. So, if a guy is constantly looking at you and making eye contact, but doesn't smile or attempt to talk to you, is he actually interested?
It's very likely that he's interested and just shy or inexperienced. I used to be like that an eternity ago.
Should we approach them then and what if that seems like no reason of an excuse for a conversation to be started ?
So, what if you know that a man was very attracted in the past, the feet, eye contact, smiling and touching were all there. But, since then he has withdrawn a bit. But I still catch him looking sometimes. Is there still a chance to hook him?
Yes, definitely.
I would say defiantly as well. I would add that there may be something to overcome first. If you said he was interested in you in the past but he has withdrawn, something has caused him to do this.
Maybe he just feels like your not interested so he has tried to move on. This means it is as easy as establishing your interest in him again.
It may be something else. There may be another girl in his life and he is conflicted, not knowing if he should go for you or her.
Whatever it is, if he is still showing you attraction body language as you say, when you overcome his hesitation, you will have your change to hook him again.
No matter how many of these I read I always learn something new…
The feet – now that is fascinating – now I need to remember ring finger and feet, ring finger and feet!!
Thanks Eddie.
I have any friend who used to drop by my desk at work and chat and we sometimes play games as part of a big group at lunch time… he accidentally kicks my feet under the table sometimes. We also do yoga at work and I catch him looking at me through reflections. Occasionally he’s walked me to my bus stop and waited with me to make sure I caught my bus. …. when I go up to other games he’s playing at work he often can’t look at me but when we play he has regular eye contact …he is also very opinionated (I here from others) but he is never like that with me…I have just split with someone and told him I liked him but he just ignored the comment and now I am so confused…