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I am writing this article in spite of endangering myself of being penalized by other men for disclosing our weaknesses and leaving us defenseless. I am already hearing the shouting and seeing the torches being lit in front of my house.
On the other hand, maybe they will celebrate me, because most men want to be seduced. They pray for it. Like Jason Biggs said in American Pie
Dear Gals, you want to seduce a man and you don’t know how to? Fear not. Help is on the way, for I write this article on ways how to seduce a man only for you. Like I did in my groundbreaking article how to approach a man, I thought about things I would fall for (and have been fallen for) and additionally asked Brigitte (the man-eater) for her main techniques.
I realize that there are two common situations here: you want to seduce your man, or you want to seduce any man. Either way, the principles are the same. It really comes down to hitting that “hidden switch” that turns the man on. Unfortunately this specific switch is different to every man. Sometimes it is not even related to physicalness. It can be a word, an image in his head, an expectation. On other times you can trigger it with an simple smile, a lascivious look, a seemingly coincidental touch.
It is your job to find and explore this “secret switch” on your man.
This article will help you not only to find this hidden turn-on, but will also give you some ideas how you can win the man you want.
My male readers will discover that several of these techniques can be used to seduce a woman as well. Surprise surprise. Maybe we’re not that different after all.
So read on, here are the 10 ways how to seduce a man (use it cautiously, because with great power comes great responsibility and we men are sooo weak):
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1 Yeah, Right. I Only Get Those I'm-A-Psycho Looks From Them. « Mike Cane’s Blog // Apr 14, 2007 at 8:21 pm
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2 kathylynn // Nov 26, 2007 at 9:58 pm
Every one of these points are so true. The chase never gets old even though the times have changed. I try and teach my daughter this.
3 Eddie Corbano // Nov 27, 2007 at 12:22 pm
Thanks kathylynn,
you’re right, the main principles of human interactivity will never change. What worked for you, will also work for your daughter
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4 Mia // Dec 5, 2007 at 5:20 pm
My man love excitement, like any other one
bt these tips will certainly enhance our relationship as i know now the ways to become the mistress of my husband :P. thanks
5 Sam Morgan // Dec 14, 2007 at 2:55 am
I agree with most of the points you make in this article with the one glaring exception of the one in your conclusion: Contradict yourself, confuse him. I don’t think there is a man out there who would find this a turn on. I say this especially to guys who have already had long term relationships that didn’t work out. One of the biggest gaps between men and women is communication and how we interpret the other sex. Contradiction and confusion are usually some of the top causes of arguments in relationships. This for me raises a HUGE red flag if I see this in a woman.
6 Eddie Corbano // Dec 14, 2007 at 7:53 am
Sam, thank you for your thoughts.
I know what you mean. However, we are talking about the seduction process here, not a long term relationship (there I would agree), so normal rules do not apply.
I believe that confusion, playfulness and contradiction can be a huge turn-on at the beginning, if done in a right, intelligent way. The mission is to be different than the mass out there, to be different is always attractive… at least to me.
7 Amy // Jan 14, 2008 at 3:38 am
Question…I have a man that became interested in me at work…I have seen him a couple of times….kissed…heavy…then he quit calling…but when I see him at work he wants to talk and will call…but not for a date…I want to seduce him, but I don’t want to come on strong…..I see him mostly one day a week and I find myself going to talk to him that one day…..should I walk by or stop to talk…..last week I walked by without talking and he said I gave him a stern look….I didn’t I was actually trying to keep from smiling….I told him this and he said why didn’t I just come over to talk to him….I have done everything you have suggested …hair cut and color…great clothes…chanel Co Co and lost weight and continue to loose weight….I think this is about the hunt for me and maybe I will loose interest after he is interested…but for now how do I win?
8 Eddie Corbano // Jan 17, 2008 at 2:06 pm
Amy, relationships at work seems always to be a problem sooner or later. Many men realize that.
Apart from that you could try to completely avoid him and see how he reacts, making him a little jealous might also work.
If all this fails, you could try a confident direct approach, like an invitation to a candle light dinner.
Good hunting,
Eddie
9 Kaie // Jan 23, 2008 at 6:32 am
Amy, have you read the book, “He’s just not that into you. ” Give it up and move on. Too many men, so much time.
10 Janet // Jan 30, 2008 at 1:53 am
i am normally fine with talking to men but a guy i see around at my work place has given me a strange feeling..i am so in awe of him that i cannot even speak to him! i am madly into him and from what i have heard he sounds like a very nice man. how do i go about talking to someone i can barely look in the eye without going all ‘goey’?
Many thanks. (interesting article!)
J
11 Amy // Feb 2, 2008 at 2:08 am
I haven’t read the book “He’s Just…..”, but I have analyzed my attraction to him and I know it is because of the rejection…I haven’t experienced rejection…most of the time I have to tell the freaks to stop calling. I thought about it and I don’t even want a relationship with him…just a couple of nights.
…being totally honest about the situation. ….anyway I googled him and found out that he is married…that explains everything. Only coming over and no actual dates…not calling me very often and only from his cell at weird times…anyway…I guess he was in to me just not easy to burn the candle at both ends. I am certainly not into married men.
12 Katie // Feb 12, 2008 at 10:10 pm
There is a guy I really care about and have become close friends with. We have a deep bond and are undoubtedly attracted to each other. On 2 occasions we’ve even ‘been physical’ with one another… However I am a young widow and have a 3 year old . He is 2 or 3 years younger than me and is best friends with my cousin who is like a brother to me. I want to see where it will go and am happy to go slowly. He however is very confused and says that he really cares about me, is attracted to me but is overwhelmed by a sense of responsibility that he feels towards me. I am very independent and am not looking for a replacement husband or father for my child, but am open to seeing what will happen. what should I do? My cousin seemed to suggest that there is ’something’ missing for him… if it’s not attraction or friendship, what is it??? The chase is all I can think? I am very open and honest and have learnt the hard way that life is sh0rt and that you should seize it… But he is in a different place to me. What should I do??
13 Sensual Gyal // Feb 13, 2008 at 5:40 pm
Hi Katie,
If your friend really cared about you, he wouldn’t care how much responsibility he has, he would want to be with you. My step-dad married my mom because of the person she was in the inside and he didn’t mind taking care of “five children” that my mom have that’s not his biologically his. Men will say anything as an excuse so they won’t hurt our precious feelings. He was was honest, he would be straight up with you. You also made the mistake of giving it up to. It’s time to make men wait and put them to the test. He cared enough to get physical with you, but now what can you show for that. You will know when you found that right man. Just move on , he’s definetly checking another chica out with no baggage. Good luck
14 shar // May 14, 2008 at 8:49 pm
Well, I read this, and actually…there’s one thing missing; being yourself, and enjoy what you’re doing. Anyway…
I ACCIDENTLY seduced a guy. Well, as how it looks like, we’ve been in love for like 5 years now. There’s only this little problem.
It’s not allowed. Why? Because he’s my teacher. We haven’t done anything, and I’m about to leave this school (graduating) but yeah.. I just had to tell that. I wonder what will happen. I accidently seduced him in many, many ways.
Yet, he’s unhappily married.
I wonder. if not, then I will just go on, and see
l’ve got a whole life in front of me.
15 elaine // May 22, 2008 at 1:03 pm
Can someone please help me with my unique situation? My man and I have been seing each other about 7 months. We have had totally hot sex until now. He is very religious and says he wants to quit until we’re married. We have no date and because he’s black and I’m white, it will probably be at least 5 years from now when he sells his business (small southern town - he’s scared he’d lose his biz if we were found out). Anyway, I don’t know if I can take it that long (5 days is hell on me, much less 5 years). He is very sexual and if I can just find something incredible to seduce him with (without him knowing it) maybe he’d call this charade off. He’s a 6th degree TKD black belt and has been a martial artist for 52 years. The man has some incredible self-discipline. I need to pull out the big guns for this one. Anyone? Help???? I am to the point where I am willing to offer a reward for any advice that gets us back to where we were. I’m not sure if he’s testing me (something he loves to do) or if he’s for real about this celibacy thing, but I think he’s for real.
16 sunnie // Jun 2, 2008 at 11:43 pm
I have a friend who has been very dear to me for the last couple of years. I have been finding myself extremely attracted to him but not sure how to seduce him since he’s the type who likes making the first move. I am aware that he is at least sexually attracted (his “friend” pops up when we’re together). I don’t want a sex buddy so how do I get him to make “the first move”?
17 esther wachira // Jul 21, 2008 at 1:33 pm
youre an awesome inspiration!
18 MommaSita // Aug 12, 2008 at 9:45 pm
Awwww, man! I thought this would help with my and my husband’s baby making for tonight!
I guess I will just set the mood with candles and Enya’s relaxing music and then a full back rub - we are way past seduction after 20 years together…ha! I would love to see my husband’s face if I tried flirting with him - he’d laugh his head off and think I’d lost my mind (then scratch his butt and ask what’s for dinner!!).
19 Eddie Corbano // Aug 13, 2008 at 8:14 am
@MommaSita
I would try it anyway
.
Arrange a meeting in a bar, come late and pull of the seductive-bar-woman-routine.
This WILL spice up your marriage, I guarantee!
20 Lauren // Oct 13, 2008 at 1:23 am
hi i’m 19 my significant other is 23 and we’ve been together for 2 years and been living together for almost a year and a half now and our sex life isnt colese to what it use to be we used to do it every time we had the chance now we only do it once a week IF im lucky maybe once every 2 weeks and i miss doing it with out having to plan it nows its are we gonna do it tonight or not and most the time he says no(if u havent figured it out yet im like the guy in the relationship)(im the one that always wants it!!) i tryed dressing up nice fixing my hair wearing a SKIRT(i never wear skirts)and i had diner ready for him when he got home nice candles lit the works but when i started trying he just said i dont feel like it i dont understand he says that we dont do it as much anymore cause i gained weight since we’ve been together i went up 3pant sizes but dont look like it at all and i tell him i need someone there making me loose the weight but he wont try and help and we cant afford a gym member ship so i have know idie how to put the ummph back in it i’ve tryed my best any one have any ideas on what i can do>?
21 The Shadow // Oct 14, 2008 at 1:19 am
ok where to start
The type of seduction you must take will depend on the prize you want to have , i mean the relation you want to have with this man ( a long term , couple of weeks or a quick fling )
the difference is that your selection process will be somewhat different .
men tend to fall in two major categories
you have the alpha male type ( you will instantly know when one of these comes along , he will be direct , has what you will describe as a sexual aura around him , usually ignore you even when you know that you are stunning in the looks department and is really confident about himself and everything he does .
the alpha male is what each and every women dreams of . unfortunatly these men are hard to come by and when they do come they tend to be short lived, the reason behind this is very simple these men are used to getting women on a regular basis usually are in the mindset of ” why should i stick with one when i can have as much as i like ” so what i can say is when you do find a man like this treasure him as much as you can cause usually they are like two week vacations , lots of fun but its soon over unless you are lucky and find yourself one that is retiring from the seduction game and is looking for a more serious relation
the second type which constitutes the other 95% of the male population is the average frustrated chump , this guy unfortunately doesn’t have the natural ability to attract women on a regular basis , in fact when he gets a women usually it means that he got lucky . this guy is very shy and self conscious and usually thinks he is not good enough or looks ugly even though he is really good looking, these type of men tend to be very sentimental and romantic once you get to know them ( these are the type which organize candlelit romantic dinners , compose poems and treat you like a queen , the reason being these men dont see p*ssy very often so once they find some they tend to treasure it as long as they can and will give their best efforts to keep you around ) unfortunately their women socialising skills are not up to standard and will need a bit of nudging from your side . altough you have to be careful with that as they are scared off easily .
any other type of men tend to fall in between these two distinctions
so now let me give my insight and perspective as a man and someone who took years to learn the art of approaching and seducing women
1. choose the battlefield well
i agree a lot with the suggestions made above stolling into a sports bar in the middle of a saturday night game isn’t going to get you much attention unless its half-time or you are wearing nothing apart from very sexy lingerie. that said the best places would be the night club scene , the main reason is that most men in a night club are in the mindset of picking up and trying to seduce women , so it will give you better odds at being approached . this does not mean that other places wont work , the difference will be that most men wont have a clue that the seduction game is on so they will need some carefully planned and obvious clues to what is going on ( men are not good at reading subtle body language signs , so at times you will have to be a bit blatant , but i wiil explain more of this later .)
2. the power of scent
not much i can say about this apart from the fact that if i were to be approached by a woman who smelled like mate tom after a 2 hr workout at the gym , it would undermine her chances of claiming me by 99%
3. show a little but hide a little more
is the departement you must specialize in you must look your best at all times , men unfortunatly for some women dont get attracted to women based on they how they make them feel emotionally but just on looks alone ( the process is very simple , man see’s woman sexywoman in slightly revealing clothes , man imagines what is underneath , man tries 39 different kamasutra positions in his imagination, man get big hard stick and BOOM you have instant attraction . ) if you really want to find out about how man fantasize about women just get yourself a copy of penthouse or hustler magazine and flick thru it and will be all laid Bare ( pun intended ) and yes we are all perverts , you just have to discover which type
this male selective process is why most men find it hard to approach very good looking women , most men think women use the same selective process and remove themselves from the game by thinking ” nah she is too good looking there is no way she will like somone like me”.
4. be super confident
on this one you have to thread carefully with an alpha male this approach wilk work but then again with an alpha male usually he is leading the seduction process so you dont really have to worry about any of these suggestions
With average joe you have to be carefull on how much confidence you show , show too much and average joe will either miss-interpret it as rejection or you might even give an aura of being the high almighty unapproachable b*tch who is going to ridicule him as soon as he tries to look at you, let alone approach you .
5. show signs of interest
here i would like to emphasize and contradict on some suggestions , while it is true that you must show signs of interest you must know which ones , while its true that some men thru reading a bit around have found out that when a women strokes her hair or strokes three stem of a wineglass is an indicator of interest , the majority of men like i have already stated dont have a f*cking clue , its true women unlike you we didnt evolve to read subtle facial and body language or discern between different voice tonalities. this reminds me of the story of the couple went to the party and while the woman went to the bar she notices another woman approach her man who starts to talk to him in a girlish voice, stroking her hair and tilting her pelvis towards him , while his woman and every other woman are suddenly aware of what is happening as if by magic and are saying wow what a total b*tch the guy still stays there chatting to this woman as if nothing strange is happening, when later questioned about his behavior by his partner the guy will reply with a blank stare and the standard uhhh!!! at which point he gets called a liar and a cheat ( in reality forgive the poor chap cause he really didn’t have a clue )
so next time you see someone you like instead of using subtle signs be little more direct look at him and give him a smile and a wink , this will double your approach results , if he is still too shy dont hesitate to approach yourself and start the conversation
6. the magic of anticipation
here again you have to be carefull how much you pull back with average joe , pulling too far and he might mistake it for rejection instead of the playfull game its supposed to be . one important thing when playing this hard to get game is to remember to reward the guy when he is on the right track , think of it like teaching a puppy new tricks , you need to say gooood boooy when he lands it right ( i know this sounds crude and im portraying men as dumb but its not that far from the truth )
7. killing eyes
the eye game is one of the best seduction games around , the only two points i want to stress are when a guy looks at you dont look down , this is understood by men as a sign that you are not interested , and secondly try not to look at your friends and laugh after a man has established eye contact for he will think that he is being ridiculed , instead mantain steady eye contact and put a couple sexy smiles and a wink at the end ( not too much you dont want to look like a wierdo )
8. touch him accidentally
same again over here men unlike women are not very receptive to subtle touching unless its in one highly receptive area or its approximate vicinity , im not saying that you should grab the guys family jewels altough brushing an invisible piece of lint of a mans thigh is a sure way of sending him in an instant sexual fantasy, instead of bieng subtle be deliberate but in a playfull way , try running your fingers along his arm and hint that you want a playfull touching men , most men are quite happy to reciprocate if they are lead into the game this way
9. dancing
ill be quite brief the more you shake that ass and do those sexy pelvic thrusts the more we imagine you doing it naked on our favorite body part ( these is the only reasons men watch the music videos of the PUSSYCAT DOLLS , its not for their music which most men agree is shite and annoying , but by the way they shake their nice round assests.
10. let him win
this is so true although men traded brawn for brains long ago they never managed to let go of their pride and ego
a man must feel and believe that this woman is lying in bed with him cause of his hard work and his excellent social and seduction skills , even thou unknown to him the women was always in total control and literally led him by the hand to come this far
one last tip keep him believing that is more to come and he will stay longer ( a rooster doesn’t mate with the same chicken more than five times )
thats it for today , i hope this will help and enlighten some of you .
feel free to contact me with any questions , will try to answer when i have the time
22 Max // Oct 14, 2008 at 3:12 am
@Lauren - I will recommend that you do alternative exercise, this could be skipping, jugging, walking for long distances, all these you have to do as a routine. Cutting down your food intake can also reduce your weight greatly, i mean doing all that i have mentioned. A word of advice: never try to get the result at once.
Concerning his attitude towards you, i think you have to look back to the days you began, think of those things he really liked about you what got him really attracted to you. if you can find this out, try and let it come back again and your man will be as he was with you. Smile.
23 Eddie Corbano // Oct 14, 2008 at 3:11 pm
@The Shadow
Thank you very much for your profound thoughts on that matter. I think they’re will help many readers here.
P.S.: I tried to send you a message, but your email bounced. Maybe you could contact me?
@Max
Thanks for helping out, good advice!
24 The Shadow // Oct 14, 2008 at 4:53 pm
while still on the subject here are three books by authors ALAN AND BARBARA PEASE which are a very good read, they are not seduction books , instead they are books which relate the difference between man and women ( along the lines of the famous book WHY MEN ARE FROM MARS AND WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS ) they are written in a very humanistic way and even if you don’t learn anything new they are sure to have you laughing for hours. i really suggest them for couples who would like to improve communication between them or for that person who would like to understand the why, behind certain behaviors of the opposite sex and their tough process. here are the titles:
1. Why Men Don’t Listen and Women Can’t Read Maps: How We’re Different and What to Do About It
2. Why Men Lie and Women Cry
3. Why Men Don’t Have a Clue and Women Always Need More Shoes: The Ultimate Guide to the Opposite Sex
i suggest buying all 3 , they are about ÂŁ 5.00 each over here in the uk.
good bye and have fun
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