I am writing this article in spite of the possible danger of being penalized by other men for disclosing our weaknesses and leaving us – for lack of a better word – defenseless.
I can already hear the shouting, and see the torches lit in front of my house.
On the other hand, maybe they will celebrate because most men want to be seduced. They pray for it.
Like Jason Biggs said in American Pie:
“Oh my God, she used me. I was used. I was used! Cool!”
Dear Gals – you want to seduce a man, and you don't know how to?
Fear not. Help is on the way. I am writing this article only for you.
Exactly as in my article, how to approach a man, I thought about things I would fall for, (and have fallen for repeatedly).
But also, I asked my friend, Brigitte, (the man-eater), for her main techniques.
I realize that there are two common situations here: you want to seduce YOUR man, or you want to seduce ANY man.
Either way, the principles are the same.
It really comes down to hitting that “hidden switch” that turns on the man.
Unfortunately, this particular switch is different for every man.
Sometimes it is not even related to physicalness.
It can be a word, an image in his head, an expectation. Other times, you can trigger it with a simple smile, a lascivious look, a seemingly coincidental touch.
It is your job to find and explore this “secret switch” for your man.
This article will help you to not only find this hidden turn-on but will also give you some ideas about how you can win the man you want.
My male readers will discover that several of these techniques can be used to seduce a woman as well. Surprise, surprise.
Maybe we're not that different after all.
So read on.
Here are 10 tips on how to seduce a man, (use it cautiously, because with great power comes great responsibility and us men are sooo weak):
1. Choose The Battle-Field Well
Believe me, the “where” is very crucial to your success.
Choosing a sports bar while the Superbowl is on may not be crowned with success.
A private dinner, with the appropriate romantic ambiance, on the other hand, will give you the best chances.
Choose places where you can minimize distractions, (and ideally competition). You must have his complete attention.
Besides, the proper surrounding can be very stimulative. Never underestimate the power of candlelight and accompanying soft music.
2. The Power Of Scent
The scent is one of the most powerful subconscious influences that affect our judgments.
In a survey, 89 % of the men revealed that scent can enhance the attractiveness of a woman.
55 % of those polled men went a little further and admitted that they would get amorous with a woman just because of her appealing scent.
Do you believe that?
You better! Everybody who has seen or read, Perfume: The Story of a Murderer, would know what I'm talking about.
Scent is one of the most powerful subconscious influences that affect our judgment about the other sex. The way you smell is a vital factor to your success in seduction.
You can compare it to pheromones in the animal world.
A woman can enhance her natural pheromones by using aromatherapy oils like sandalwood, rose, ylang-ylang, jasmine, and patchouli. They are known for their aphrodisiac properties.
Shakespeare wrote that Cleopatra received Marc Anthony on a ship with perfumed sails. The exotic scent made him fall in love with her immediately.
Even so much that he hopelessly gave his life for her.
Use a perfume that you like, but be careful not to overdo it.
Use it sparingly, and apply it to your body's so-called pulse points – wrists, behind your ears, in the bend of your elbow, behind your knees and on the inside of your ankles.
You can also try to spray the perfume in the air in front of you and walk into the mist.
Make your perfume a recognizable part of you. Make your scent imprinted in his mind.
3. Show A Little, But Hide A Little More
There is a certain way of dressing that drives men crazy. And I certainly don't mean going slutty.
That is a turn-off for most men.
You need to find a compromise between showing and hiding your feminine qualities.
It's the right combination that makes the secret.
I like women who enhance certain body regions without actually showing anything.
Steer clear of the obvious. It is crucial that you actually feel sexy.
And don't forget some killer lingerie and sexy accessories like bracelets and necklaces.
4. Be Super-Confident
Have the confidence of a supermodel.
Be a woman who knows what she wants, and how to get it.
Do you know how to do this?
But be aware – there is also a thin red line. If you overdo it, you will most likely look arrogant instead of confident.
You don't want that. Nobody likes arrogance.
You can start with renewing yourself.
Get a complete makeover – a new haircut, clothes, start losing weight. Never underestimate what a new haircut can do for you.
Also, watch your posture. Keep a straight spine with your shoulders back, exposing your chest.
Do everything that makes your confidence soar.
Men are very impressed by confidence.
5. Send Signs Of Interest
Now it's time to spread a little hint to the man that he may actually have a chance with you.
Send him little signs of interest from time to time that will make him come forward:
- Show unclenched hands
- Play with your hair or caress other objects. Push your fingers through your hair
- Pick some fluff of his jacket, (even if there is none!)
- Face him directly, and slightly lean forward now and then
- Wet and bite your lips from time to time
Here again – do not overdo it!
Experienced men can read these signs, the inexperienced, well, even they will feel that something's going on.
6. The Magic of Anticipation
Now, here's a good one.
This is a variation of “playing hard to get,” which by the way is very doubtful to work. If overdone, it will harm you more than being of use.
Instead, play a little game called “anticipation.”
Anticipation, excitement, and tension can be a huge turn-on for a man. Delay the gratification.
Make two steps forward, one step back.
Create a strong feeling of dissatisfaction in him. A dissatisfaction which can only be resolved by having you.
It must never seem to be easy for him.
Make two steps forward, one step back.
Use the before mentioned signs of interest, then suddenly show disinterest, ignore him for two minutes. Then start again.
Two steps forward, one step back.
7. Killing Eyes – The French Technique
Start with almost accidental sidelong glances. You can follow up with a straight look.
Now, something starts that can simply be described as playful innocence, (someone once said to me that the French girls invented that).
The moment he looks back, you instantly lower your eyes and put on an embarrassed smile.
You can even emphasize it some moments later by looking again, this time longer, and then again lower your eyes.
This is flirting without talking, (we can learn a lot from the French when it comes to lovemaking).
8. Touch Him “Accidentally”
When you reach for something, try to touch his hand accidentally.
Don't make it too obvious.
Also, touch him briefly during the conversation to make a point or when he just made an interesting remark about something.
The secret is being playful with casual touches now and then.
This creates tension as well as a physical connection. And more importantly, it subconsciously communicates that you’re not interested in “only being friends.”
9. The Power Of Erotic Dancing
This one is short and simple: learn how to dance in an erotic way, and look for an opportunity for him to see.
Don’t underestimate the power of this.
Most women love to express themselves on the dance floor. Why not learn it and do it the right way?
There are courses on this, or just go to a club, watch and learn.
This is very powerful.
10. The Secret Ingredient
Now, there is a final ingredient to a successful seduction of a man.
He must not feel seduced.
He must think that he seduced you, not the other way around. Give him his victory, let him be the hero.
Men like that. It gives them a feeling of security.
Why not take advantage of that, if you get what you want!
Some other useful tips in short:
- Be mysterious and playful
- Awake the explorer in him
- Let him do most of the talking
- Flirt intensively with 90% body language and only 10% with words
- Contradict yourself, confuse him
- Try to make an all-senses-explosion: looks, taste, music, touch, scent
- Take care never to appear too needy
(MORE: Learn 10 Secrets About Men)
As we all know, Jason Biggs from American Pie was seduced the easy way, with not much effort, (who wonders?).
You are now ready to master – the art of seduction the sublime way, and getting any man you want.
Well, almost any.
But what if you keep doing these and he still keeps cheating and disappearing for years
Then you have the clarification that this is not the man for you. Never accept “cheating for years.” You are better than that!
No antiperspirant,no deodorant, no perfumes, your own natural body scents,instantly alert a man about compatibility. Be brave be bold and talk straight and positive.
To a real man your own natural body scents are a million times more exciting than anything artificial.
I disagree on many points. Especially the part-talk only 10%…Also, using perfume is very tricky. You never know what would someone like/dislike…It reduces the chances of successful seduction. Another thing :if woman looks perfect it intimidates most men. For some reason they like you most when something is off: no makeup, messy hair, jeans instead of evening gown, etc…
Ok, this article is interesting to read as a guy with an understanding of the male side of the card.
The advice is ok, but theres a problem. The woman should be aware that seduction and understanding it isnt a set of instructions; its a mindset. The mindset should be based around understanding men.
There are two types of guys: betas and alphas. Betas dont know what they’re doing and arent really that confident. Alphas know the game in and out and arent going to chase you just because you show interest.
Infact, I assume interest if I’m talking to you already, so I think the question for the woman is what does she want from a guy? I know. Complicated. Lets simplify.
What do you want from a guy NOW?
A) Sex with a submissive guy
B) Relationship with powerful guy
C) Sex with Powerful guy
D) Relationship with submissive guy
You’ll want a mixture of this, I’m sure. You need to make a choice though, because in every relationship or encounter, there arent ever equals. One party is in charge.
Once you decide that, you’ll be able to figure out what to do.
First, and you do this naturally, you’ll wanna test him. You need to be talking to him first (develop the ability to approach and start a conversation). Now a quick test: command him to do something (almost rudely). His response will tell you ultimately what hes willing to put up with. You’ll be “put in your place” if hes an alpha. If hes beta, though, he’ll just comply. It sounds mean, I know, but thats an easy way to tell what hes like.
Now onto how to get what you decided you want:
Beta: Show interest to the guy and lead the interaction where you want to take it. He’s not going to be sure whats going on in your head, so use that to make him want you. You’ll have a fun power trip if nothing else.
Alpha: This one is harder. You need to keep in mind that this guy can effectively read your mind. Showing him interest in obvious signals isnt necessary. It can make him see your “fuck me please” face, which is physically attractive, but it doesnt tell him anything he doesnt already know. You need to decide if you want this guy once or for longer than that. Then stick with that decision. If you want him once, allow yourself to cave in and sleep with him. If you want him for more, you need to be harder to seduce. This takes self control, but it can help him want you a little more.
What if he’s a lot older than you ( about 10 years ) is there a chance?
Hi Eddie, I came across your page by chance. Excellent tips & helpful advice. I love it. I even wrote down these perfume tricks. Please do notify me of new posts. I would like to keep reading your blog. I’m also a freelance writer. I blog online.
Nice and sweet article.
I love to try them but i hope i will not be sending the wrong signals.
However, i shall remain positive.
but what if his married his married and has a daughter older then you
you can seduce any guy.. it’s not a big deal for a girl
Nice article and the hidden switch is interesting!!
Awesome! Thanks 🙂
incredible… ill try them on my boyfriend 🙂
all the best! any result as of yet??