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1. Choose The Battle-Field Well
Believe me, the “where” is very crucial to your success. Choosing a Sports-Bar with the Superbowl on may not be crowned with success. A private dinner with the appropriate romantic ambiance on the other hand will give you the best chances.
Choose places where you can minimize distractions (and ideally competition). You must have his complete attention.
Besides, the proper surrounding can be very stimulative. Never underestimate the power of candlelight and the adequate soft music.
2. The Power Of Scent
“The scent is one of the most powerful subconscious influences that affect our judgments”
In a survey 89 % of the men revealed that the scent can enhance the attractiveness of a women. 55 % of those polled men went a little further and admitted that they would get amorous with a women just because of her appealing scent.
Do you believe that? You’d better do! Everybody who has seen or read “Perfume: The Story of a Murderer” would know what I’m taking about.
The scent is one of the most powerful subconscious influences that affect our judgments about the other sex. The way you scent is a vital factor of your success in seduction. You can compare it to pheromones in the animal world.
A woman can enhance her natural pheromones by using aromatherapy oils like sandalwood, rose, ylang ylang, jasmine and patchouli. They are known for their aphrodisiac properties.
Shakespeare wrote, that Cleopatra received Marc Anthony on a ship with perfumed sails. The exotic scent made him fall in love with her immediately. Even that hopelessly that he gave his life for her.
Use a perfume that you like but be careful not to overdo it. Use it sparingly and apply it to your body’s so called pulse points: wrists, behind your ears, in the bend of your elbow, behind your knees and on the inside of your ankles. You can also try to spray the perfume in the air in front of you and walk into the mist.
Make your perfume a recognizable part of you. Make your scent imprinted in his mind.
3. Show A Little, But Hide A Little More
There is a certain way how to dress that drives men crazy. And I certainly don’t mean going slutty. This is a turn-off for most men.
You need to find a compromise between showing and hiding your womanly qualities. It’s the right combination that makes the secret. I like women, who enhance certain body regions without actually showing anything. Steer clear of the obvious. It is very important that you actually feel sexy. And don’t forget some killer-lingerie and sexy accessories like bracelets and necklaces.
4. Be Super-Confident
Have the confidence of a super-model. Be a woman who knows what she wants and how to get it. Do you know how to do this?
But be aware: there is also a thin red line, if you overdo it, you will most likely look arrogant instead of confident. You don’t want that. Nobody likes arrogance.
You can start with renewing yourself, get a complete fresh-up: a new haircut, clothes, start loosing weight. Never underestimate what a new haircut can do to you. Also watch your posture: keep a straight back and your shoulders backwards, expose your chest. Do everything that makes your confidence boost. Men are very impressed by confidence.
5. Send Signs Of Interest
Now it’s time to spread a little hope that the man have actually a chance on you. Send him little signs of interest from time to time that make him come forward:
- Show unclenched hands
- Play with your hair or caress other objects. Push your fingers through your hair
- Pick some fluff of his jacket (even if there is none!)
- Face him directly and slightly lean forward every now and then
- Wet and bite your lips from time to time
Here again: do not overdo it!
Experienced men can read these signs, the unexperienced, well, they feel that something’s going on.
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2 kathylynn // Nov 26, 2007 at 9:58 pm
Every one of these points are so true. The chase never gets old even though the times have changed. I try and teach my daughter this.
3 Eddie Corbano // Nov 27, 2007 at 12:22 pm
Thanks kathylynn,
you’re right, the main principles of human interactivity will never change. What worked for you, will also work for your daughter
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4 Mia // Dec 5, 2007 at 5:20 pm
My man love excitement, like any other one
bt these tips will certainly enhance our relationship as i know now the ways to become the mistress of my husband :P. thanks
5 Sam Morgan // Dec 14, 2007 at 2:55 am
I agree with most of the points you make in this article with the one glaring exception of the one in your conclusion: Contradict yourself, confuse him. I don’t think there is a man out there who would find this a turn on. I say this especially to guys who have already had long term relationships that didn’t work out. One of the biggest gaps between men and women is communication and how we interpret the other sex. Contradiction and confusion are usually some of the top causes of arguments in relationships. This for me raises a HUGE red flag if I see this in a woman.
6 Eddie Corbano // Dec 14, 2007 at 7:53 am
Sam, thank you for your thoughts.
I know what you mean. However, we are talking about the seduction process here, not a long term relationship (there I would agree), so normal rules do not apply.
I believe that confusion, playfulness and contradiction can be a huge turn-on at the beginning, if done in a right, intelligent way. The mission is to be different than the mass out there, to be different is always attractive… at least to me.
7 Amy // Jan 14, 2008 at 3:38 am
Question…I have a man that became interested in me at work…I have seen him a couple of times….kissed…heavy…then he quit calling…but when I see him at work he wants to talk and will call…but not for a date…I want to seduce him, but I don’t want to come on strong…..I see him mostly one day a week and I find myself going to talk to him that one day…..should I walk by or stop to talk…..last week I walked by without talking and he said I gave him a stern look….I didn’t I was actually trying to keep from smiling….I told him this and he said why didn’t I just come over to talk to him….I have done everything you have suggested …hair cut and color…great clothes…chanel Co Co and lost weight and continue to loose weight….I think this is about the hunt for me and maybe I will loose interest after he is interested…but for now how do I win?
8 Eddie Corbano // Jan 17, 2008 at 2:06 pm
Amy, relationships at work seems always to be a problem sooner or later. Many men realize that.
Apart from that you could try to completely avoid him and see how he reacts, making him a little jealous might also work.
If all this fails, you could try a confident direct approach, like an invitation to a candle light dinner.
Good hunting,
Eddie
9 Kaie // Jan 23, 2008 at 6:32 am
Amy, have you read the book, “He’s just not that into you. ” Give it up and move on. Too many men, so much time.
10 Janet // Jan 30, 2008 at 1:53 am
i am normally fine with talking to men but a guy i see around at my work place has given me a strange feeling..i am so in awe of him that i cannot even speak to him! i am madly into him and from what i have heard he sounds like a very nice man. how do i go about talking to someone i can barely look in the eye without going all ‘goey’?
Many thanks. (interesting article!)
J
11 Amy // Feb 2, 2008 at 2:08 am
I haven’t read the book “He’s Just…..”, but I have analyzed my attraction to him and I know it is because of the rejection…I haven’t experienced rejection…most of the time I have to tell the freaks to stop calling. I thought about it and I don’t even want a relationship with him…just a couple of nights.
…being totally honest about the situation. ….anyway I googled him and found out that he is married…that explains everything. Only coming over and no actual dates…not calling me very often and only from his cell at weird times…anyway…I guess he was in to me just not easy to burn the candle at both ends. I am certainly not into married men.
12 Katie // Feb 12, 2008 at 10:10 pm
There is a guy I really care about and have become close friends with. We have a deep bond and are undoubtedly attracted to each other. On 2 occasions we’ve even ‘been physical’ with one another… However I am a young widow and have a 3 year old . He is 2 or 3 years younger than me and is best friends with my cousin who is like a brother to me. I want to see where it will go and am happy to go slowly. He however is very confused and says that he really cares about me, is attracted to me but is overwhelmed by a sense of responsibility that he feels towards me. I am very independent and am not looking for a replacement husband or father for my child, but am open to seeing what will happen. what should I do? My cousin seemed to suggest that there is ’something’ missing for him… if it’s not attraction or friendship, what is it??? The chase is all I can think? I am very open and honest and have learnt the hard way that life is sh0rt and that you should seize it… But he is in a different place to me. What should I do??
13 Sensual Gyal // Feb 13, 2008 at 5:40 pm
Hi Katie,
If your friend really cared about you, he wouldn’t care how much responsibility he has, he would want to be with you. My step-dad married my mom because of the person she was in the inside and he didn’t mind taking care of “five children” that my mom have that’s not his biologically his. Men will say anything as an excuse so they won’t hurt our precious feelings. He was was honest, he would be straight up with you. You also made the mistake of giving it up to. It’s time to make men wait and put them to the test. He cared enough to get physical with you, but now what can you show for that. You will know when you found that right man. Just move on , he’s definetly checking another chica out with no baggage. Good luck
14 shar // May 14, 2008 at 8:49 pm
Well, I read this, and actually…there’s one thing missing; being yourself, and enjoy what you’re doing. Anyway…
I ACCIDENTLY seduced a guy. Well, as how it looks like, we’ve been in love for like 5 years now. There’s only this little problem.
It’s not allowed. Why? Because he’s my teacher. We haven’t done anything, and I’m about to leave this school (graduating) but yeah.. I just had to tell that. I wonder what will happen. I accidently seduced him in many, many ways.
Yet, he’s unhappily married.
I wonder. if not, then I will just go on, and see
l’ve got a whole life in front of me.
15 elaine // May 22, 2008 at 1:03 pm
Can someone please help me with my unique situation? My man and I have been seing each other about 7 months. We have had totally hot sex until now. He is very religious and says he wants to quit until we’re married. We have no date and because he’s black and I’m white, it will probably be at least 5 years from now when he sells his business (small southern town - he’s scared he’d lose his biz if we were found out). Anyway, I don’t know if I can take it that long (5 days is hell on me, much less 5 years). He is very sexual and if I can just find something incredible to seduce him with (without him knowing it) maybe he’d call this charade off. He’s a 6th degree TKD black belt and has been a martial artist for 52 years. The man has some incredible self-discipline. I need to pull out the big guns for this one. Anyone? Help???? I am to the point where I am willing to offer a reward for any advice that gets us back to where we were. I’m not sure if he’s testing me (something he loves to do) or if he’s for real about this celibacy thing, but I think he’s for real.
16 sunnie // Jun 2, 2008 at 11:43 pm
I have a friend who has been very dear to me for the last couple of years. I have been finding myself extremely attracted to him but not sure how to seduce him since he’s the type who likes making the first move. I am aware that he is at least sexually attracted (his “friend” pops up when we’re together). I don’t want a sex buddy so how do I get him to make “the first move”?
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