Every one of these points are so true. The chase never gets old even though the times have changed. I try and teach my daughter this.

My man love excitement, like any other one bt these tips will certainly enhance our relationship as i know now the ways to become the mistress of my husband . thanks

I agree with most of the points you make in this article with the one glaring exception of the one in your conclusion: Contradict yourself, confuse him. I don’t think there is a man out there who would find this a turn on. I say this especially to guys who have already had long term relationships that didn’t work out. One of the biggest gaps between men and women is communication and how we interpret the other sex. Contradiction and confusion are usually some of the top causes of arguments in relationships. This for me raises a HUGE red flag if I see this in a woman.

Question…I have a man that became interested in me at work…I have seen him a couple of times….kissed…heavy…then he quit calling…but when I see him at work he wants to talk and will call…but not for a date…I want to seduce him, but I don’t want to come on strong…..I see him mostly one day a week and I find myself going to talk to him that one day…..should I walk by or stop to talk…..last week I walked by without talking and he said I gave him a stern look….I didn’t I was actually trying to keep from smiling….I told him this and he said why didn’t I just come over to talk to him….I have done everything you have suggested …hair cut and color…great clothes…chanel Co Co and lost weight and continue to loose weight….I think this is about the hunt for me and maybe I will loose interest after he is interested…but for now how do I win?

Amy, have you read the book, “He’s just not that into you. ” Give it up and move on. Too many men, so much time.

i am normally fine with talking to men but a guy i see around at my work place has given me a strange feeling..i am so in awe of him that i cannot even speak to him! i am madly into him and from what i have heard he sounds like a very nice man. how do i go about talking to someone i can barely look in the eye without going all ‘goey’?

Many thanks. (interesting article!)
J

I haven’t read the book “He’s Just…..”, but I have analyzed my attraction to him and I know it is because of the rejection…I haven’t experienced rejection…most of the time I have to tell the freaks to stop calling. I thought about it and I don’t even want a relationship with him…just a couple of nights. …being totally honest about the situation. ….anyway I googled him and found out that he is married…that explains everything. Only coming over and no actual dates…not calling me very often and only from his cell at weird times…anyway…I guess he was in to me just not easy to burn the candle at both ends. I am certainly not into married men.

There is a guy I really care about and have become close friends with. We have a deep bond and are undoubtedly attracted to each other. On 2 occasions we’ve even ‘been physical’ with one another… However I am a young widow and have a 3 year old . He is 2 or 3 years younger than me and is best friends with my cousin who is like a brother to me. I want to see where it will go and am happy to go slowly. He however is very confused and says that he really cares about me, is attracted to me but is overwhelmed by a sense of responsibility that he feels towards me. I am very independent and am not looking for a replacement husband or father for my child, but am open to seeing what will happen. what should I do? My cousin seemed to suggest that there is ’something’ missing for him… if it’s not attraction or friendship, what is it??? The chase is all I can think? I am very open and honest and have learnt the hard way that life is sh0rt and that you should seize it… But he is in a different place to me. What should I do??

Hi Katie,
If your friend really cared about you, he wouldn’t care how much responsibility he has, he would want to be with you. My step-dad married my mom because of the person she was in the inside and he didn’t mind taking care of “five children” that my mom have that’s not his biologically his. Men will say anything as an excuse so they won’t hurt our precious feelings. He was was honest, he would be straight up with you. You also made the mistake of giving it up to. It’s time to make men wait and put them to the test. He cared enough to get physical with you, but now what can you show for that. You will know when you found that right man. Just move on , he’s definetly checking another chica out with no baggage. Good luck

Well, I read this, and actually…there’s one thing missing; being yourself, and enjoy what you’re doing. Anyway…

I ACCIDENTLY seduced a guy. Well, as how it looks like, we’ve been in love for like 5 years now. There’s only this little problem.

It’s not allowed. Why? Because he’s my teacher. We haven’t done anything, and I’m about to leave this school (graduating) but yeah.. I just had to tell that. I wonder what will happen. I accidently seduced him in many, many ways.
Yet, he’s unhappily married.

I wonder. if not, then I will just go on, and see l’ve got a whole life in front of me.

Can someone please help me with my unique situation? My man and I have been seing each other about 7 months. We have had totally hot sex until now. He is very religious and says he wants to quit until we’re married. We have no date and because he’s black and I’m white, it will probably be at least 5 years from now when he sells his business (small southern town – he’s scared he’d lose his biz if we were found out). Anyway, I don’t know if I can take it that long (5 days is hell on me, much less 5 years). He is very sexual and if I can just find something incredible to seduce him with (without him knowing it) maybe he’d call this charade off. He’s a 6th degree TKD black belt and has been a martial artist for 52 years. The man has some incredible self-discipline. I need to pull out the big guns for this one. Anyone? Help???? I am to the point where I am willing to offer a reward for any advice that gets us back to where we were. I’m not sure if he’s testing me (something he loves to do) or if he’s for real about this celibacy thing, but I think he’s for real.

I have a friend who has been very dear to me for the last couple of years. I have been finding myself extremely attracted to him but not sure how to seduce him since he’s the type who likes making the first move. I am aware that he is at least sexually attracted (his “friend” pops up when we’re together). I don’t want a sex buddy so how do I get him to make “the first move”?

youre an awesome inspiration!

Awwww, man! I thought this would help with my and my husband’s baby making for tonight!

I guess I will just set the mood with candles and Enya’s relaxing music and then a full back rub – we are way past seduction after 20 years together…ha! I would love to see my husband’s face if I tried flirting with him – he’d laugh his head off and think I’d lost my mind (then scratch his butt and ask what’s for dinner!!).

hi i’m 19 my significant other is 23 and we’ve been together for 2 years and been living together for almost a year and a half now and our sex life isnt colese to what it use to be we used to do it every time we had the chance now we only do it once a week IF im lucky maybe once every 2 weeks and i miss doing it with out having to plan it nows its are we gonna do it tonight or not and most the time he says no(if u havent figured it out yet im like the guy in the relationship)(im the one that always wants it!!) i tryed dressing up nice fixing my hair wearing a SKIRT(i never wear skirts)and i had diner ready for him when he got home nice candles lit the works but when i started trying he just said i dont feel like it i dont understand he says that we dont do it as much anymore cause i gained weight since we’ve been together i went up 3pant sizes but dont look like it at all and i tell him i need someone there making me loose the weight but he wont try and help and we cant afford a gym member ship so i have know idie how to put the ummph back in it i’ve tryed my best any one have any ideas on what i can do>?

ok where to start

The type of seduction you must take will depend on the prize you want to have , i mean the relation you want to have with this man ( a long term , couple of weeks or a quick fling )

the difference is that your selection process will be somewhat different .

men tend to fall in two major categories

you have the alpha male type ( you will instantly know when one of these comes along , he will be direct , has what you will describe as a sexual aura around him , usually ignore you even when you know that you are stunning in the looks department and is really confident about himself and everything he does .
the alpha male is what each and every women dreams of . unfortunatly these men are hard to come by and when they do come they tend to be short lived, the reason behind this is very simple these men are used to getting women on a regular basis usually are in the mindset of ” why should i stick with one when i can have as much as i like ” so what i can say is when you do find a man like this treasure him as much as you can cause usually they are like two week vacations , lots of fun but its soon over unless you are lucky and find yourself one that is retiring from the seduction game and is looking for a more serious relation

the second type which constitutes the other 95% of the male population is the average frustrated chump , this guy unfortunately doesn’t have the natural ability to attract women on a regular basis , in fact when he gets a women usually it means that he got lucky . this guy is very shy and self conscious and usually thinks he is not good enough or looks ugly even though he is really good looking, these type of men tend to be very sentimental and romantic once you get to know them ( these are the type which organize candlelit romantic dinners , compose poems and treat you like a queen , the reason being these men dont see p*ssy very often so once they find some they tend to treasure it as long as they can and will give their best efforts to keep you around ) unfortunately their women socialising skills are not up to standard and will need a bit of nudging from your side . altough you have to be careful with that as they are scared off easily .

any other type of men tend to fall in between these two distinctions

so now let me give my insight and perspective as a man and someone who took years to learn the art of approaching and seducing women

1. choose the battlefield well

i agree a lot with the suggestions made above stolling into a sports bar in the middle of a saturday night game isn’t going to get you much attention unless its half-time or you are wearing nothing apart from very sexy lingerie. that said the best places would be the night club scene , the main reason is that most men in a night club are in the mindset of picking up and trying to seduce women , so it will give you better odds at being approached . this does not mean that other places wont work , the difference will be that most men wont have a clue that the seduction game is on so they will need some carefully planned and obvious clues to what is going on ( men are not good at reading subtle body language signs , so at times you will have to be a bit blatant , but i wiil explain more of this later .)

2. the power of scent

not much i can say about this apart from the fact that if i were to be approached by a woman who smelled like mate tom after a 2 hr workout at the gym , it would undermine her chances of claiming me by 99%

3. show a little but hide a little more

is the departement you must specialize in you must look your best at all times , men unfortunatly for some women dont get attracted to women based on they how they make them feel emotionally but just on looks alone ( the process is very simple , man see’s woman sexywoman in slightly revealing clothes , man imagines what is underneath , man tries 39 different kamasutra positions in his imagination, man get big hard stick and BOOM you have instant attraction . ) if you really want to find out about how man fantasize about women just get yourself a copy of penthouse or hustler magazine and flick thru it and will be all laid Bare ( pun intended ) and yes we are all perverts , you just have to discover which type
this male selective process is why most men find it hard to approach very good looking women , most men think women use the same selective process and remove themselves from the game by thinking ” nah she is too good looking there is no way she will like somone like me”.

4. be super confident

on this one you have to thread carefully with an alpha male this approach wilk work but then again with an alpha male usually he is leading the seduction process so you dont really have to worry about any of these suggestions

With average joe you have to be carefull on how much confidence you show , show too much and average joe will either miss-interpret it as rejection or you might even give an aura of being the high almighty unapproachable b*tch who is going to ridicule him as soon as he tries to look at you, let alone approach you .

5. show signs of interest

here i would like to emphasize and contradict on some suggestions , while it is true that you must show signs of interest you must know which ones , while its true that some men thru reading a bit around have found out that when a women strokes her hair or strokes three stem of a wineglass is an indicator of interest , the majority of men like i have already stated dont have a f*cking clue , its true women unlike you we didnt evolve to read subtle facial and body language or discern between different voice tonalities. this reminds me of the story of the couple went to the party and while the woman went to the bar she notices another woman approach her man who starts to talk to him in a girlish voice, stroking her hair and tilting her pelvis towards him , while his woman and every other woman are suddenly aware of what is happening as if by magic and are saying wow what a total b*tch the guy still stays there chatting to this woman as if nothing strange is happening, when later questioned about his behavior by his partner the guy will reply with a blank stare and the standard uhhh!!! at which point he gets called a liar and a cheat ( in reality forgive the poor chap cause he really didn’t have a clue )
so next time you see someone you like instead of using subtle signs be little more direct look at him and give him a smile and a wink , this will double your approach results , if he is still too shy dont hesitate to approach yourself and start the conversation

6. the magic of anticipation

here again you have to be carefull how much you pull back with average joe , pulling too far and he might mistake it for rejection instead of the playfull game its supposed to be . one important thing when playing this hard to get game is to remember to reward the guy when he is on the right track , think of it like teaching a puppy new tricks , you need to say gooood boooy when he lands it right ( i know this sounds crude and im portraying men as dumb but its not that far from the truth )

7. killing eyes

the eye game is one of the best seduction games around , the only two points i want to stress are when a guy looks at you dont look down , this is understood by men as a sign that you are not interested , and secondly try not to look at your friends and laugh after a man has established eye contact for he will think that he is being ridiculed , instead mantain steady eye contact and put a couple sexy smiles and a wink at the end ( not too much you dont want to look like a wierdo )

8. touch him accidentally

same again over here men unlike women are not very receptive to subtle touching unless its in one highly receptive area or its approximate vicinity , im not saying that you should grab the guys family jewels altough brushing an invisible piece of lint of a mans thigh is a sure way of sending him in an instant sexual fantasy, instead of bieng subtle be deliberate but in a playfull way , try running your fingers along his arm and hint that you want a playfull touching men , most men are quite happy to reciprocate if they are lead into the game this way

9. dancing

ill be quite brief the more you shake that ass and do those sexy pelvic thrusts the more we imagine you doing it naked on our favorite body part ( these is the only reasons men watch the music videos of the PUSSYCAT DOLLS , its not for their music which most men agree is shite and annoying , but by the way they shake their nice round assests.

10. let him win

this is so true although men traded brawn for brains long ago they never managed to let go of their pride and ego
a man must feel and believe that this woman is lying in bed with him cause of his hard work and his excellent social and seduction skills , even thou unknown to him the women was always in total control and literally led him by the hand to come this far

one last tip keep him believing that is more to come and he will stay longer ( a rooster doesn’t mate with the same chicken more than five times )

thats it for today , i hope this will help and enlighten some of you .
feel free to contact me with any questions , will try to answer when i have the time

@Lauren – I will recommend that you do alternative exercise, this could be skipping, jugging, walking for long distances, all these you have to do as a routine. Cutting down your food intake can also reduce your weight greatly, i mean doing all that i have mentioned. A word of advice: never try to get the result at once.
Concerning his attitude towards you, i think you have to look back to the days you began, think of those things he really liked about you what got him really attracted to you. if you can find this out, try and let it come back again and your man will be as he was with you. Smile.

while still on the subject here are three books by authors ALAN AND BARBARA PEASE which are a very good read, they are not seduction books , instead they are books which relate the difference between man and women ( along the lines of the famous book WHY MEN ARE FROM MARS AND WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS ) they are written in a very humanistic way and even if you don’t learn anything new they are sure to have you laughing for hours. i really suggest them for couples who would like to improve communication between them or for that person who would like to understand the why, behind certain behaviors of the opposite sex and their tough process. here are the titles:

1. Why Men Don’t Listen and Women Can’t Read Maps: How We’re Different and What to Do About It
2. Why Men Lie and Women Cry
3. Why Men Don’t Have a Clue and Women Always Need More Shoes: The Ultimate Guide to the Opposite Sex

i suggest buying all 3 , they are about £ 5.00 each over here in the uk.

good bye and have fun

This is for the Shadow or anyone else who has a clue.
21 years ago I left my husband because he use to hit me and have affairs. At that time my husband and I had been married for 7 years with 2 children. An ok marriage but nothing to shout about. When I left him, I left him because his best friend and I had fallen in love and he asked me to marry him. At the time I was pregnant with his best friends baby, which in turn I lost. We never married and so I went back to my husband. Not because I was in love with him but I loved him and he was my babies father and I had no where else to go. After I remarried my husband I contacted this gentlemen again and we started up just a friendship on the phone. Which I had to stop because I couldn’t just be friends again at that time, I had to give my marriage my all. After 21 years I contacted this gentlemen again and things were going well (at least I thought they were) we talked on the phone and also e-mails. He gave me his address, home phone number, his cell number, his e-mail address and his work address and some pictures of the family now. One day with little sleep and one glass to many of wine I asked him some questions on things and I got a little personal with him on others. When I say personal I mean a little romantic, a little lovey dovey. In a response he wrote me he said he’d love to answer my questions but at that time he was a little busy. I waited a couple of months and nothing. In the past he has told me that if I ever couldn’t get ahold of him then I could contact his sister. So I did, she told me that with his new wife of 7 years (which this is his 3rd marriage) she is by- polar and maniac depressive so their life is up and down all the time and that she thought her brother was just a little depressed right now. Though hopefully his wife has finally found some good med’s to help her out. She told me to continue to e-mail him, send jokes or call and leave him a message on his phone. She said I sounded like a really good friend and not to give up on her brother. So here it is 14 months later and no response from him. I have sent him maybe 5 e-mails, 2 jokes and I have called him and left maybe 4 or 5 messages on his cell phone. I don’t know why he won’t just tell me to get lost or is he with his silence? We were friends in the beginning and threw out time we remain friends hopefully. He had guts to tell me 21 years ago that he didn’t think it was going to work out and so we didn’t marry. Back then he chose to drive 6 hours and face me to tell me that he didn’t think that we were going to work out but now he doesn’t have the guts to say kiss off? When do I stop being a friend and I begin to bother him? What do guys want or need from us? Do I just walk, continue e-mailing, when do I begin to look like a staker? If I continue to e-mail do I just keep it short and sweet or can I get a little personal with him. Because in the end that is what I truly want is to have him back as my naughty e-mail buddy. I want to be able to tell and share everything with him.

i want this man but i have someone is it okay for me to want to leave the man i’m with.

My biggest problem with men is that I can be too forward.

I recently met one I like, and want to handle the situation properly. When I text him, he seems eager to respond, replies quickly and at some length, and will continue for hours.

However, if I don’t text him first, he doesn’t text me. I really want to hang out with him again sometime, but I’m not sure if I should text him and ask what he’s up to for the week and play it from there, or wait for him to contact me. It’s been 2 days since we’ve spoken. I contacted him first last time.

I should probably just call him, but I don’t want to seem too forward.

He has expressed some interest.

Thanks, this article and the comments people have made have been really helpful.

I met this guy at a party last week and I really like him. I think he liked me too. I have quite a big personality and tend to scare guys away but I feel like we really clicked and we were laughing all night.

Thing is, while not to far away, he doesn’t live in the same city as me and I feel like I need to move fast or we’ll just lose contact. We’re both going to a Christmas party in 4 weeks time and I want to have every weapon at my disposal to send him gaga over me! He’s such a lovely guy and I think he’ll be too much of a gentleman if its left to him!

Wish me luck!

why is it that life and getting together has to be soooooooooo difficult? Can´t we just walk up to someone we like and say … I want to?… but NO… it has to be complicated. brutally complicated, men want SEX, women want someone to COMMIT one night, two nights, a week or the entire life, nevertheless, does it has to come down to pay for sex or go without, and come down to dont look sluty and get the man… I am very tired of this silly game of the sexes… what if we simply forget about it?… I´ve read all sorts of help books to get the other sex, have tried all sorts of experiences being myself, trying the ultimate, looking in the eye, being confident, joking around, and nothing seems to work. what then?… I´ve lost three great friends in this trial and error, due that they see me as friends and not like a mate, and thus the relationship ended and it is gone, now I have less people around me, less acquaintances, less love, less care. Then depression comes in and then it is a done deal. so I am condemned to live alone the rest of my life, or accept whatever comes my way on its own. can someone wise enough write a dictionary to understand the other side? I have spent some 7K on help and still nothing seems to work out, so I am done. Good day!

@Cynthia –
Hey if his married leave him alone being a woman that has had a husband cheat on her it sucks and it sounds as though he doesnt want u so get over it it sounds as though he is promised to some one else Find some one that can make u there all and some one that it wont be hurting remember what goes around comes around

Awesome article… i loved it.

You are superb Eddie

Thanks for it.
-Neha

@natasha -

DO AS YOUR HEART SAYS NATASHA

My boyfirnd or ex-now broke up with me 3 days ago.The last 3 weeks, I have spent a total of 4 days with him.He gives me good excuses(He has 2 kids).I except that but, the last 3 months, everyday he has been with me.Now all of a sudden, he is sooo busy with his 3 year old, but before his sister cared for the child daily.He says I have him on an emotional rollercoaster and I might-But I do have a right to question what’s going on and why he spends no time with me.A few of my friends beleive he is using me, or used me.the past 6 months of this relationship, I have spent maybe 4000.00 on him and his kid.I also need to say,he asked me for $ the nite he broke up with me and when I started questioning him on the use of this 200.00 he flipped out…??I really cared for him, he spent so much quality time with me and my children, I just came out of a marriage of 13 years and been divorced 2 years.He has spent money on me and my kids,not as much as I have spent on his…I don’t know…If he really did use me.I mean, I am expecting a settlement for about 50,000.00 and he knows that, so I thought if he was using me, he would have waited until I received the big money?Can anyone give insight or advise????I Really miss this man.

@Jessica Gallegos –

Cynthia is so Right! I have had a husband cheat on me as well, and it hurts really bad. If the shoe was on the other foot, you wouldn’t want your spouse cheating on you. Let him go, so he can deal with his own issues. It’s true this will come back on you.

I jus met some guy about 6 months ago thru a friend, I really like him but don’t kno if he likes me. I can usually tell wen I guy likes me, but I can’t really tell with him. usually wen I like a guy I jus get straight to the point, but with him its so different. I respesct him so much and I wouldn’t want to lose him as a friend. I jus cant distinguish friendship from flirting? I analyze evry little thing he says and its driving me nuts! I want him!

i agree cause i did that kind of eyes thing and it work and i didn’t even know about it it work for four years and i know he loves me

thnks for great advice. can’t do any harm as there is such a big competition between women. for one guy there seems to be dozens of women fancying the same one it can damage anyone’s confidence at times.

Haa, great tips.

I am wondering if I am not part-male inside (although very very hetero). Some tips made me climb the walls too.

I like mystery…to a certain extend of course. Anything mysterious for too long is not worth keeping…contradiction…!

@jenny mendoza –

Playboys go for the kill so you know when they like you. Men who really are into you can even loose their boosted male self-confidence because, yes, you’ve pushed their weak button. Hence, the message is not clear…

I would say, show your interest even more. If you never try, you never know !

This is hot. Great information. Loved it. I have been working on seduction and missed the contradict yourself point. I have been making myself to available for him. He wants me but not as much as I want him to want me yet. This is gonna change that. Thanks Eddie.

Thanks, Eddie. This really help me a lot, I confessed to the guy of my dreams and he rejected me. It really hurt me when he go around showing it off to all the people he know. I felt so angered and I really want to seduce him and bump him after that.

But I feel that now he is not my worth. I will take note of your skills and hope these will help me to find the right guy for me. Thanks so much.

i had a three mnth relationship with a guy who was 4 yrs older than me. i had never been with a man before him. Six months have passed and i found a way to make it back into his life. he has a girlfriend now tho. How do i get him back?

I have been best friends with this guy for 15 years started dating a few months ago. We have always been there for each other for anything. He was with another woman for a few years about a year ago a cant seen to get over her. Now he is trying to say we have nothing in common. Im not sure what to do. We live together kinda as roommates since we have now broken up, but still sleep in the same bed, spend all of our time together outside of work & school & still have sex. He knows how I work, how I play to win. All the seduction tips are my old game. What do I do now???

Hi Eddie,
These hints are very useful, having tried and tested them they have so far been successful.
However, there is one person/guy i haven’t tried it on because i don’t know whether it is too late…
We have been friends for months but it is only recently i realised i like him more. He’s shown interest before but i just brushed it off because i didnt feel the same way. I don’t know whether it is now too late to use these techniques and whether he will respond. I’ve been flirting and dropping hints of interest but he seems completely oblivious!
Is there any tip you could give me on how to approach?
Rose X

Hi. i have read some of th comments here and I’ am impressed. With this matter, I would like to ask on how or what way i can seduce my boyfriend? (despite of the fact that he’s mine now, im threatened.) He’s a lawyer and to tell you honestly, I’m just a concubine. thank you.

I know it’s wrong, but I want this married man. I have been flirting with him, and he gets this goofy grin on his face when I do. Sometimes he flirts back with me. I want to know if you think i can get him, or what should I do.

I started persuing him a while back. I started bumping into him “accidently”, complenting the way he looks, and smiling and talking with him alot more. He is a little bit older than me, but I noticed after I started flirting with him, he started dressing up more. He started complementing me too. The thing is that sometimes he seems to push me away. And other times he tries to do the opposit.

Do you think this guy wants me or not, and what should I do to get him?

well he might like you but you knw wat honey he will never leaves his wife for you…its just a fling nd once he gets over it u just gonna be another girl so ur guy is still out there dnt waste ur time flirtin nd likin someone tat is already taken

I know he wont leave his wife… I don’t want him to. Women are the ones all emotional about sex, not men. Cheating isn’t as big of a deal for men as it is for women, because we relate sex to feelings. I can separate the two, because I learned from one of the biggest jerks out there. The thing is, I really like him, and I am just extremely attracted to him, and have been for a long time. He’s a great guy, that’s probably why he hasn’t done anything yet… If I thought he would leave her, I wouldn’t pursue him.

How do you think his wife would feel about you being the “other woman”? You basically making it sound like you are only interested in him because he is taken. So you like to go for the ones that should normally be off limits. So because you learned from one of the biggest jerks out there you are willing to do damage to another person’s relationship? That doesn’t sound right to me. He’s married. Simple to the point. If anything you should just be friends. YOU could be turning a good marriage into something bad if you start anything with him.