Dating Tips 10 Tips On How To Seduce A Man

10 Tips On How To Seduce A Man

10 Tips On How To Seduce A Man

I am writing this article in spite of the possible danger of being penalized by other men for disclosing our weaknesses and leaving us – for lack of a better word – defenseless.

I can already hear the shouting, and see the torches lit in front of my house.

On the other hand, maybe they will celebrate because most men want to be seduced. They pray for it.

Like Jason Biggs said in American Pie:

“Oh my God, she used me. I was used. I was used! Cool!”

Dear Gals – you want to seduce a man, and you don't know how to?

Fear not. Help is on the way. I am writing this article only for you.

Exactly as in my article, how to approach a man, I thought about things I would fall for, (and have fallen for repeatedly).

But also, I asked my friend, Brigitte, (the man-eater), for her main techniques.

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I realize that there are two common situations here: you want to seduce YOUR man, or you want to seduce ANY man.

Either way, the principles are the same.

It really comes down to hitting that “hidden switch” that turns on the man.

Unfortunately, this particular switch is different for every man.

Sometimes it is not even related to physicalness.

It can be a word, an image in his head, an expectation. Other times, you can trigger it with a simple smile, a lascivious look, a seemingly coincidental touch.

It is your job to find and explore this “secret switch” for your man.

This article will help you to not only find this hidden turn-on but will also give you some ideas about how you can win the man you want.

My male readers will discover that several of these techniques can be used to seduce a woman as well. Surprise, surprise.

Maybe we're not that different after all.

So read on.

Here are 10 tips on how to seduce a man, (use it cautiously, because with great power comes great responsibility and us men are sooo weak):

1. Choose The Battle-Field Well

Believe me, the “where” is very crucial to your success.

Choosing a sports bar while the Superbowl is on may not be crowned with success.

A private dinner, with the appropriate romantic ambiance, on the other hand, will give you the best chances.

Choose places where you can minimize distractions, (and ideally competition). You must have his complete attention.

Besides, the proper surrounding can be very stimulative. Never underestimate the power of candlelight and accompanying soft music.

2. The Power Of Scent

The scent is one of the most powerful subconscious influences that affect our judgments.

In a survey, 89 % of the men revealed that scent can enhance the attractiveness of a woman.

55 % of those polled men went a little further and admitted that they would get amorous with a woman just because of her appealing scent.

Do you believe that?

You better! Everybody who has seen or read, Perfume: The Story of a Murderer, would know what I'm talking about.

Scent is one of the most powerful subconscious influences that affect our judgment about the other sex. The way you smell is a vital factor to your success in seduction.

You can compare it to pheromones in the animal world.

A woman can enhance her natural pheromones by using aromatherapy oils like sandalwood, rose, ylang-ylang, jasmine, and patchouli. They are known for their aphrodisiac properties.

Shakespeare wrote that Cleopatra received Marc Anthony on a ship with perfumed sails. The exotic scent made him fall in love with her immediately.

Even so much that he hopelessly gave his life for her.

Use a perfume that you like, but be careful not to overdo it.

Use it sparingly, and apply it to your body's so-called pulse points – wrists, behind your ears, in the bend of your elbow, behind your knees and on the inside of your ankles.

You can also try to spray the perfume in the air in front of you and walk into the mist.

Make your perfume a recognizable part of you. Make your scent imprinted in his mind.

3. Show A Little, But Hide A Little More

There is a certain way of dressing that drives men crazy. And I certainly don't mean going slutty.

That is a turn-off for most men.

You need to find a compromise between showing and hiding your feminine qualities.

It's the right combination that makes the secret.

I like women who enhance certain body regions without actually showing anything.

Steer clear of the obvious. It is crucial that you actually feel sexy.

And don't forget some killer lingerie and sexy accessories like bracelets and necklaces.

4. Be Super-Confident

Have the confidence of a supermodel.

Be a woman who knows what she wants, and how to get it.

Do you know how to do this?

But be aware – there is also a thin red line. If you overdo it, you will most likely look arrogant instead of confident.

You don't want that. Nobody likes arrogance.

You can start with renewing yourself.

Get a complete makeover – a new haircut, clothes, start losing weight. Never underestimate what a new haircut can do for you.

Also, watch your posture. Keep a straight spine with your shoulders back, exposing your chest.

Do everything that makes your confidence soar.

Men are very impressed by confidence.

5. Send Signs Of Interest

Now it's time to spread a little hint to the man that he may actually have a chance with you.

Send him little signs of interest from time to time that will make him come forward:

  • Show unclenched hands
  • Play with your hair or caress other objects. Push your fingers through your hair
  • Pick some fluff of his jacket, (even if there is none!)
  • Face him directly, and slightly lean forward now and then
  • Wet and bite your lips from time to time

Here again – do not overdo it!

Experienced men can read these signs, the inexperienced, well, even they will feel that something's going on.

6. The Magic of Anticipation

Now, here's a good one.

This is a variation of “playing hard to get,” which by the way is very doubtful to work. If overdone, it will harm you more than being of use.

Instead, play a little game called “anticipation.”

Anticipation, excitement, and tension can be a huge turn-on for a man. Delay the gratification.

Make two steps forward, one step back.

Create a strong feeling of dissatisfaction in him. A dissatisfaction which can only be resolved by having you.

It must never seem to be easy for him.

Make two steps forward, one step back.

Contradict yourself!

Use the before mentioned signs of interest, then suddenly show disinterest, ignore him for two minutes. Then start again.

Two steps forward, one step back.

7. Killing Eyes – The French Technique

Start with almost accidental sidelong glances. You can follow up with a straight look.

Now, something starts that can simply be described as playful innocence, (someone once said to me that the French girls invented that).

The moment he looks back, you instantly lower your eyes and put on an embarrassed smile.

You can even emphasize it some moments later by looking again, this time longer, and then again lower your eyes.

This is flirting without talking, (we can learn a lot from the French when it comes to lovemaking).

8. Touch Him “Accidentally”

When you reach for something, try to touch his hand accidentally.

Don't make it too obvious.

Also, touch him briefly during the conversation to make a point or when he just made an interesting remark about something.

The secret is being playful with casual touches now and then.

This creates tension as well as a physical connection. And more importantly, it subconsciously communicates that you’re not interested in “only being friends.”

9. The Power Of Erotic Dancing

This one is short and simple: learn how to dance in an erotic way, and look for an opportunity for him to see.

Don’t underestimate the power of this.

Most women love to express themselves on the dance floor. Why not learn it and do it the right way?

There are courses on this, or just go to a club, watch and learn.

This is very powerful.

10. The Secret Ingredient

Now, there is a final ingredient to a successful seduction of a man.

He must not feel seduced.

He must think that he seduced you, not the other way around. Give him his victory, let him be the hero.

Men like that. It gives them a feeling of security.

Why not take advantage of that, if you get what you want!

Conclusion

Some other useful tips in short:

  • Be mysterious and playful
  • Awake the explorer in him
  • Let him do most of the talking
  • Flirt intensively with 90% body language and only 10% with words
  • Contradict yourself, confuse him
  • Try to make an all-senses-explosion: looks, taste, music, touch, scent
  • Take care never to appear too needy

(MORE: Learn 10 Secrets About Men)

As we all know, Jason Biggs from American Pie was seduced the easy way, with not much effort, (who wonders?).

You are now ready to master – the art of seduction the sublime way, and getting any man you want.

Well, almost any.

Happy hunting!

Your friend,
Eddie Corbano

  • FirstLove says:

    Thanks, Eddie. This really help me a lot, I confessed to the guy of my dreams and he rejected me. It really hurt me when he go around showing it off to all the people he know. I felt so angered and I really want to seduce him and bump him after that.

    But I feel that now he is not my worth. I will take note of your skills and hope these will help me to find the right guy for me. Thanks so much.

  • This is hot. Great information. Loved it. I have been working on seduction and missed the contradict yourself point. I have been making myself to available for him. He wants me but not as much as I want him to want me yet. This is gonna change that. Thanks Eddie.

  • @jenny mendoza

    Playboys go for the kill so you know when they like you. Men who really are into you can even loose their boosted male self-confidence because, yes, you’ve pushed their weak button. Hence, the message is not clear…

    I would say, show your interest even more. If you never try, you never know !

  • Haa, great tips.

    I am wondering if I am not part-male inside (although very very hetero). Some tips made me climb the walls too.

    I like mystery…to a certain extend of course. Anything mysterious for too long is not worth keeping…contradiction…!

  • thnks for great advice. can’t do any harm as there is such a big competition between women. for one guy there seems to be dozens of women fancying the same one it can damage anyone’s confidence at times.

  • i agree cause i did that kind of eyes thing and it work and i didn’t even know about it it work for four years and i know he loves me

  • jenny mendoza says:

    I jus met some guy about 6 months ago thru a friend, I really like him but don’t kno if he likes me. I can usually tell wen I guy likes me, but I can’t really tell with him. usually wen I like a guy I jus get straight to the point, but with him its so different. I respesct him so much and I wouldn’t want to lose him as a friend. I jus cant distinguish friendship from flirting? I analyze evry little thing he says and its driving me nuts! I want him!

  • @Jessica Gallegos

    Cynthia is so Right! I have had a husband cheat on me as well, and it hurts really bad. If the shoe was on the other foot, you wouldn’t want your spouse cheating on you. Let him go, so he can deal with his own issues. It’s true this will come back on you.

  • My boyfirnd or ex-now broke up with me 3 days ago.The last 3 weeks, I have spent a total of 4 days with him.He gives me good excuses(He has 2 kids).I except that but, the last 3 months, everyday he has been with me.Now all of a sudden, he is sooo busy with his 3 year old, but before his sister cared for the child daily.He says I have him on an emotional rollercoaster and I might-But I do have a right to question what’s going on and why he spends no time with me.A few of my friends beleive he is using me, or used me.the past 6 months of this relationship, I have spent maybe 4000.00 on him and his kid.I also need to say,he asked me for $ the nite he broke up with me and when I started questioning him on the use of this 200.00 he flipped out…??I really cared for him, he spent so much quality time with me and my children, I just came out of a marriage of 13 years and been divorced 2 years.He has spent money on me and my kids,not as much as I have spent on his…I don’t know…If he really did use me.I mean, I am expecting a settlement for about 50,000.00 and he knows that, so I thought if he was using me, he would have waited until I received the big money?Can anyone give insight or advise????I Really miss this man.

  • Awesome article… i loved it.

    You are superb Eddie

    Thanks for it.
    -Neha

  • Jessica Gallegos says:

    @Cynthia
    Hey if his married leave him alone being a woman that has had a husband cheat on her it sucks and it sounds as though he doesnt want u so get over it it sounds as though he is promised to some one else Find some one that can make u there all and some one that it wont be hurting remember what goes around comes around

  • robinson crusoe says:

    why is it that life and getting together has to be soooooooooo difficult? Can´t we just walk up to someone we like and say … I want to?… but NO… it has to be complicated. brutally complicated, men want SEX, women want someone to COMMIT one night, two nights, a week or the entire life, nevertheless, does it has to come down to pay for sex or go without, and come down to dont look sluty and get the man… I am very tired of this silly game of the sexes… what if we simply forget about it?… I´ve read all sorts of help books to get the other sex, have tried all sorts of experiences being myself, trying the ultimate, looking in the eye, being confident, joking around, and nothing seems to work. what then?… I´ve lost three great friends in this trial and error, due that they see me as friends and not like a mate, and thus the relationship ended and it is gone, now I have less people around me, less acquaintances, less love, less care. Then depression comes in and then it is a done deal. so I am condemned to live alone the rest of my life, or accept whatever comes my way on its own. can someone wise enough write a dictionary to understand the other side? I have spent some 7K on help and still nothing seems to work out, so I am done. Good day!

  • Thanks, this article and the comments people have made have been really helpful.

    I met this guy at a party last week and I really like him. I think he liked me too. I have quite a big personality and tend to scare guys away but I feel like we really clicked and we were laughing all night.

    Thing is, while not to far away, he doesn’t live in the same city as me and I feel like I need to move fast or we’ll just lose contact. We’re both going to a Christmas party in 4 weeks time and I want to have every weapon at my disposal to send him gaga over me! He’s such a lovely guy and I think he’ll be too much of a gentleman if its left to him!

    Wish me luck!

  • Ava Brando says:

    My biggest problem with men is that I can be too forward.

    I recently met one I like, and want to handle the situation properly. When I text him, he seems eager to respond, replies quickly and at some length, and will continue for hours.

    However, if I don’t text him first, he doesn’t text me. I really want to hang out with him again sometime, but I’m not sure if I should text him and ask what he’s up to for the week and play it from there, or wait for him to contact me. It’s been 2 days since we’ve spoken. I contacted him first last time.

    I should probably just call him, but I don’t want to seem too forward.

    He has expressed some interest.

  • @Cynthia

    Dear Cynthia,

    If you ask for my advice, then I must tell you that I would leave this man alone.

    The fact that he doesn’t respond to your emails is already an answer itself.

  • @natasha

    Basically you have to follow your own moral principles.

    If you ask for my opinion, then I would say:

    If you are certain that your relationship is over then and you have done everything to save it yes, then it’s ok to leave.

    If not, then it’s your decision…

  • i want this man but i have someone is it okay for me to want to leave the man i’m with.

  • This is for the Shadow or anyone else who has a clue.
    21 years ago I left my husband because he use to hit me and have affairs. At that time my husband and I had been married for 7 years with 2 children. An ok marriage but nothing to shout about. When I left him, I left him because his best friend and I had fallen in love and he asked me to marry him. At the time I was pregnant with his best friends baby, which in turn I lost. We never married and so I went back to my husband. Not because I was in love with him but I loved him and he was my babies father and I had no where else to go. After I remarried my husband I contacted this gentlemen again and we started up just a friendship on the phone. Which I had to stop because I couldn’t just be friends again at that time, I had to give my marriage my all. After 21 years I contacted this gentlemen again and things were going well (at least I thought they were) we talked on the phone and also e-mails. He gave me his address, home phone number, his cell number, his e-mail address and his work address and some pictures of the family now. One day with little sleep and one glass to many of wine I asked him some questions on things and I got a little personal with him on others. When I say personal I mean a little romantic, a little lovey dovey. In a response he wrote me he said he’d love to answer my questions but at that time he was a little busy. I waited a couple of months and nothing. In the past he has told me that if I ever couldn’t get ahold of him then I could contact his sister. So I did, she told me that with his new wife of 7 years (which this is his 3rd marriage) she is by- polar and maniac depressive so their life is up and down all the time and that she thought her brother was just a little depressed right now. Though hopefully his wife has finally found some good med’s to help her out. She told me to continue to e-mail him, send jokes or call and leave him a message on his phone. She said I sounded like a really good friend and not to give up on her brother. So here it is 14 months later and no response from him. I have sent him maybe 5 e-mails, 2 jokes and I have called him and left maybe 4 or 5 messages on his cell phone. I don’t know why he won’t just tell me to get lost or is he with his silence? We were friends in the beginning and threw out time we remain friends hopefully. He had guts to tell me 21 years ago that he didn’t think it was going to work out and so we didn’t marry. Back then he chose to drive 6 hours and face me to tell me that he didn’t think that we were going to work out but now he doesn’t have the guts to say kiss off? When do I stop being a friend and I begin to bother him? What do guys want or need from us? Do I just walk, continue e-mailing, when do I begin to look like a staker? If I continue to e-mail do I just keep it short and sweet or can I get a little personal with him. Because in the end that is what I truly want is to have him back as my naughty e-mail buddy. I want to be able to tell and share everything with him.

  • The Shadow says:

    while still on the subject here are three books by authors ALAN AND BARBARA PEASE which are a very good read, they are not seduction books , instead they are books which relate the difference between man and women ( along the lines of the famous book WHY MEN ARE FROM MARS AND WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS ) they are written in a very humanistic way and even if you don’t learn anything new they are sure to have you laughing for hours. i really suggest them for couples who would like to improve communication between them or for that person who would like to understand the why, behind certain behaviors of the opposite sex and their tough process. here are the titles:

    1. Why Men Don’t Listen and Women Can’t Read Maps: How We’re Different and What to Do About It
    2. Why Men Lie and Women Cry
    3. Why Men Don’t Have a Clue and Women Always Need More Shoes: The Ultimate Guide to the Opposite Sex

    I suggest buying all 3, they are about £ 5.00 each over here in the uk.

    good bye and have fun

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