@kiki – hey, i think that you should stay away from this guy. He sounds like danger, and it might not end well. I say break up with him before it gets out of hand. You should wait for someone who dates you for more then just sex.

Even after all that she’s been through she still finds a reason to smile

im trying to get over my ex of.. about 4 days now. and i am really struggling. we dated on and off throughout my sophomore year, and for about a year and a half up until january 17th 2010, my senior year. He has broken my heart atleast two times, and ide accepted him back into my life. but this time i had had enough of the arguments and ended things between us. even though im 17 and he is 21, we got along great at first, but things got rough during my senior year. He never understood if i needed time with my friends, and if i decided to hangout with them one night i would end up in the bathroom arguing about it with him the whole night anyways. and i understand where he is coming from, wanting to spend time together, but he was relentless. Even if i needed to dye my hair one night and had to leave his house, it became a huge argument. it doesnt help that i live next door to him either. I found myself thinking constantly, he has the characteristics of someone i KNOW i dont want to marry. People can change, but these problems are deep, and its not like he can change his personality.. its like i had fallen in love with the wrong person. He never put any effort what-so-ever into making things work between us, either.
So here i am, missing him terribly. the person i grew so far apart from, the person i know im not meant to be with. i moved in with my mom so i dont see him, and yet i still feel the need to be with him and text him; we hungout practically everyday (the next door issue). I think the truth is that i am absolutely TERRIFIED to live my life without him, because im so used to it, i feel like it will be physically impossble. He has been the only guy ive cared for throughout highschool, and i feel like im trapped and will never successfully move on. sorry this is terribly long, two years is alot of time to cover in a little typed message. email me please and help me move on sincerely, casey

Hi, some great quotes in there! Just fyi: the Smile quote #8, is from a Lonestar song, called Smile, great song! I dont know if they originally coined the saying, or if they just incorporated it into the song, but either way, figure i’d give the credit where its due!

I never thought that I would go look fo a website just like this. I just ended a 4 1/2 year relationship and i feel like crap. I can’t talk to anyone because I don’t know how to. I feel stupid when I cry. I just didn’t think that this would happen to me. I had an almost perfect boyfriend but I guess things don’t really work out the way you want it to be. I feel so lost.

I’m crushed- bone and soul… =(

@casey – I’m so sorry. Funny enough my boyfriend and I had the opposite problem; he ignored me and practically dragged me around like a sad puppy dog. And even though I know he’s probably not the man for me I’m still in love with him too. Dont feel stupid when you cry; if one cannot truly cry then one cannot truly experience laughter either! It’s ok to feel like crap. It’s a crappy situation. Hold on strong casey!

my boyfriend of 3 years (2 of them living together) broke up with me 2 days ago. I am reeling. I realize that what we had was good and we gave it a good shot…but we are too different to live compatibly forever. I am more shocked and hurt that I have to live my own life again. This website has helped me tremendously to get through today…and i’ll look at it again tomorrow and probably the day after. its helped me to realize what I was doing wrong and what he was doing wrong. He is too immature to work on the relationship…but hey…now i’ll know for the next guy. its nice to know that i am NOT alone…and that there are people out there that feel as lost and shocked as i do. we can all be strong together!!

I loved her alot and the love which i had for her was not just for sex or money or something but for what she was…… And it has been since 8months we were going out and all those moments are flashing up my head and my eyes….. I have fought with my heart to let her go and finally when i got my heart broken i did not have the strength to keep her with me…..Because when i said i am tearing everyday she said that she does not care about… And which killed me was when she said i would not care even if you die~~~~Which dragged me into a pit of toxic acids whic ripped my heart and bled me out…….I did not lie to her neither did i cheat her…I always have been true to her and i had so much love to her i told my mum too…..But lastly when i spoke to her she scolded me like iam not worth anything…..I really am confused and very badly hurt with what i am going through but though i am hurt i am not going to blame her and i would not do that ever because maybe she was right that she does not really care about even if i did die….Maybe really she did not love me as i did for her…….But then why did she say she really loved me so much when i was with her????Why did she say that she will be with me lifelong and she promised me too…Why was all that???I really am hurt and more over confused…..I tried my best to keep her happy at all times even if i was angry with her i hurt myself and react in her much a cooler way because i hurt her once and i am yet suffering because of that and but yet i have been so frank i even told her that i did scold her like this and asked for forgivness!!!!I did make things and planned and designed a house even for her according to her likings and i did all that but i never saw that she will hate me so far that she scolded me like that…I never did!!!I am trying my best to smile just to make her feel guilt about anything such as she ruined my life and also i keep up because i should not make her feel about me at all because it will ruin her new life ahead with something she wished for and left me….I yet love her and neither i can throw it away!!!!I will keep loving her till i breath my last breath!!!!And that woould not stop……..

@Ajay Subrayan – I REALLY FEEL FOR YOU AND I UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. I AM GOING THROUGH THE SAME THING AS YOU ARE.
I HOPE SHE COMES BACK TO YOU.

GOOD LUCK

my ex gf is getting married..
she deserves to be happy with someone. i just thought it should hve been with me.

so I honestly don’t know if anyone ever reads these things.. but I am going through a pretty rough breakup of 3 years.. He got in front of a web cam and got naked for some chick he didnt know.. He got her naked, and told me. I was fine with him as long as he didnt continue it. A day later, he sent an email to her of himself jacking off.. after i acctepted him back into my life, he did that.. We broke up for a while, and he told me he loved me and wanted me back.. So being the dumby that I am, i said i would try and make things work.. Little did I know, he went back to talking to random chicks on a web cam chat site.. We are currently not together, but I feel hurt.. I dont want to hurt anymore, but it just keeps getting worse..

my girl freind just broke up with me she says we can be freinds abnd when we were going out she sayed we felt the same when we were freinds but i really want this to work out any advice ill take anything

If anyone out there reads this and has some words of inspiration, I would more than appreciate it. I am going to have to break up with the person I most love. I have spent the last 2 years of my life with this man. We have been through the worst and the best together. Things many people don’t see in a lifetime I have experienced side by side with him. Today, two of my very good friends made me aware that they first hand saw him cheating on me over this past weekend. Sad to say, it happend once before, he came clean and told me about it and we worked past it. This time I can’t let it slide. For some odd reason, this time it hurt so much more than before. Maybe because the first time, we were having a lot of issues within the relationship. This time, we were happier than we have ever been. At least that’s what I thought. Now I’m stuck feeling worse than I have ever felt in my life before. I feel betrayed, confused, mad, sad, like someone just punched me in the stomach. These past 3 days he has been so affectionate, warm and loving to me but for what? Did he not think these guy friends would tell me? I know I cant submit to his lies or excuses. I can not think of myself as stupid because I honestly did not see it coming. But I fear I will be stupid if I let him stay in my life after this. I have stuck by his side when many other girls would run away, I’ve helped him when not even his family has. I’ve stood up for him when everyone around me disliked him. And I forgave him when most people would walk away. How then am I still the one who will be most hurt by this breakup?

@casey –
casey ur whle story really hurted …..
i feel tht guy sure tht u cant live wdout him ..
nd thts y he careless about yaw ….
nw u hav breakup ? r in contact ?
casey ur nice gurl ….
wht u expacting frm him i thnk he wouldn’t gv yaw ….
try to make urself strng ….
tht u can live wdout him ….
whch issues he make on yaw thy seems tht he couldnt trust n yaw ….
i feel u shuld meet wd him n take some kind of decisin nd ask him wht he want ?
wht he say tel me
i’ll tel u a perfect way n m sure tht it ll hlpful to yaw …
dontworry thnk me az yaw frend ….
ok ???
dnt b sad baby GOD ll HELP YAw …..
ok

@Jessica –
“Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.”
read thz liines
thy r totaly attract towards ur story ….
nw u shuld hav to survive ur self nd let ths guy away …..nd see wht he do wd u
dnt talk wrng to him
jst watch ….

@casey – hello casey,
i am sorry to hear what happened to you. i too have had this happened to me on january 6,2010. my life came crumbling down on that day. i was very much in love and i had held a relationship for a year and a half. it was on december 26 2009 taht i decided to take that extra step. i asked her to marry me on that day. even though i knew that we did fight but what great couple doesnt. we always got through the hard times and we couldnt go 10 sec with out talking to each other. i basically recreated out first date when i proposed and on the same spot where we irst kissed i got on my knee and asked her to spend the rest of her life with me. she said yes and i was very happy and so was she. even though i am 19 about to turn 20 and she is 18 i knew that i wanted her to be the one that i wanted to be with. at the time my parents didnt agree with me getting married soo young and not having the support of my paernts brought me down. but i never stopped the plans of us getting married. prior to us getting engaged we had gone shopping to almost 800 dollars worth of appliances and things for when we moved out. we basically had a set goal. we wanted to have something when we moved out and not be with nothing. well on january 6,2010 we had a agruement that morning. that mornign i was to go to her house at 9 am sharp and ask her dad for her hand. i was infront of her house on the phone 5 min prior of me walking into her door. the last thing i told her was she need to control her anger and learn to drop things that had no importance. she then said to me i am done. with everything. she broke up with me and broke the engagement off. i waited 15 min or so and knocked on her door. she then opened it and i saw her dad and mom sitting down and my x had her eyes ballin. she told me i was no longer welcomed att her house and that she didnt want anything to do with me. i told her that she didnt want to do this she said she did and it was over and she kicked me out. i left. i gave her 4 days and unfortunately we worked together. i talked to her the following week, she3 had changed her hair color and started to wear contacts. i sat down with her at the job before we closed and she told me in my face that her new look was for her new life that she didnt love me that she didnt want to be with me… i my head i asked my self how can this be possible over a week…and that thing is that she was smiling while she said this… it hurt me soo bad.i quit my job of 5 years because i couldnt work with her… till this day i have not spoken to her. believe me their is not a second i dont think about her but we all must learn to say this to our selfs… what gives that other person the right to tell me what i am worth. noone has the right to tell u what your worth. the only person is yourself. we dont need that person to live life. its like a habit. u and i were used to seeing that person everyday and u grew costome to that. we must break that habit and try to keep our mind in the state of what can i do to improve my self. not for his or her sake but for mine. if that person took the privalige of love then why should you give them the satisfction of them seeing you distraught in depression. its not worth it ur not keeping ur pride ur keeping ur mind healthy. depression leads you to do stupid things. i miss her i really do and i know that the person whom talked to me that tusday and said to me i dont love you wasnt her. unfortunately we listen to the person that influences us the most and that is our parents. she is listening to her mother and i know that all her mom is doing is blind folding her so that she wont be hurting. honestly i am a great guy i really am the people that know me know that i am respctful and mature for which is becoming a pediatric nurse, and even though i have 2 years to go i am going to stick to my goal. its hard o keep your head up but trust me its not impossible, keep in mind that its not that u lost something he or she were the ones who lost something greater. Keeping ur faith and going closer to god helps alot!! there is a quote that i saw on the internet that i told to my x a while back that i know made her open her eyes to some extent and i hope to god that she opens her eyes before its too late. “Watching you walk out of my life doesnt make me bitter or cynical about love, but rather it makes me realize that if i wanted to be with the wrong person all this time, how beautiful will my life be when the right person comes along?” this quote is strong in so many ways. beileve in urself and believe in god. ull get past it one way or another. whether its with him or in my case her in our lives. GOD is all powerful and he gives us what we need to make us stronger not to make us weaker. i hope that my story helps(i know its a novel hahah) . take care and keep ur head up.

My bestfriend has been dating this boy for like, ever . I can ‘t stand to see her with him . All he does is cheat and she isn ‘t strong enough to let go . I need advice .

@iamhurt – It sometimes seems like the end of something but it’s not. Through divorce I learned that I was able to spend time with someone, grow with them, learn and exchange and it made me a better person. It didn’t feel good when it was over but, it could have been alot worse. I think getting to know myself and spending time with friends really helped. Of course there were those who would say- “Well there’s two sides to every story”, looking back I realized their judgemental attitude was because they didn’t want to deal with any problems. If you act like there’s no problem everyone seems to be OK with anything. But at home is where you can cry and let your support system be there for you until you feel strong enough to start back walking. Why spend your time though with someone that is selfish and thrives on trauma when you can eat a banana split and go to the mall with friends. Hope this encourages you- I’ve had a number of years of experience and like to share the ups and downs along my path.

and if you have to leave
i wish that you would just leave
cause your presence still lingers here
and it wont leave me alone

@casey –
He’s not worth you if he were a fool to let you go. Just like I did, move on! It may be hard but it’s worth it. Never give up!

I was with my boyfriend for 3 years In the middle of our relationship I move far away because I felt stuck where we were and the economy was bad i tried to find a better job so maybe he can move up with me but I moved back after 2 months and everything felt to different he acted different he treated me so bad when I came back I felt terrible because it was only 2 months and I moved back because it was to hard so instead of welcoming me he told me to go back we kept arguing from there plus he befriended his cousin in law and spend more time with her than me he also hardly talk to me on the phone during the 2 months I was away he treated me so bad I broke up with him during the time of the break up I was feeling desperately lonely and I met this guy and hooked up with him I felt bad about it and stop talking to him then my ex found out and said I cheated on him and started acting hysterical he said in his head it wasn’t over I moved away far and we didn’t talk for awhile I sent him a hate email during the time his internet was off few months later he emailed me back saying he still loved me we talked then I said don’t call me no more than awhile after that we started talking again talking over getting back together we talk and talked up to this point we got into a argument he ignored me and a week later he posted picture of him and another girl hugged up on myspace talk about cold blooded he was filling me up until he could break me with that he got revenge on me and it hurts so much because everything I did I loved him now I’m sitting here filling stupid cause i should have never got with him cause I feel like the whole time he didn’t love me I’m a fool in love He hurt me so bad its like somebody shattered my chest and back open and i can’t stop crying I’m trying to work out to clear my mind but I really need someone to talk to my family won’t talk all they will say is I told you to stay away from him I feel all alone someone please help me

@iamhurt – IAMHURT…i am going thru the exact with my ex. I known him for 4 years and even unknowingly gotten pregnant by him and lost our baby. I was there for him when his mom died and every other time he needed me. Only to find out he was doing his thang on the side with a gurl with half the beauty and class i had. I broke up with him even though i was still sleeping wit him from time to time, which only made my feelings hurt, made me sad all the time, and even lowered my self esteem and confidence. I literally did not wish 2 live without him. He told me he loved both of us and that we were a like in every way and that he couldnt choose. He wanted me and her, but I realized and told him that he couldnt love 2 people and that he didnt love me bc if he did we wouldnt be were we were. I told him I would make it easy for him and i left him alone. I could not b his gf here and she b his gf up there so i left him alone. I know it was the right thing to do but I still feel like im hurt,sad and lonely. I dont know now if im capable of ever feeling love or giving it again after all he was my first real love.

@iamhurt –

I feel your pain. My boyfriend just broke it off with me after 5 years. I’ve been a miserable cow for the past week. Not eating, sleeping, and crying my heart out. What i found that worked was to be distracted by friends or working out. I swear i thought i was gonna die but you just have to hold your head up high and move forward with your life. It may suck and you feel like nothing is gonna get better unless your back with him but man i tell you. ITS OKAY. Time will pass by and it’s their loss

I feel better now I working on myself now and loving myself I’m trying to workout get really fit and go to school and just get my life good and confidence up

BUT he called me and I ignored it and I didn’t call him back I guess he was expecting me to do that . He called for two days straight I kept hitting the ignore button. he also send me a message on myspace saying I need to tell you something. He even took the pic of him and the girl off and put just him. I ignored everything cause right now its just to painful to talk or look at him. He makes me sick Oh yeah he gave up after those two days and put the pic of him and the girl back up guess he thinks Im stupid its whatever I’m totally done So until I find the one…I’ll be sitting here with a loaded gun protecting my heart so it doesn’t get broken apart again