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10 Positive Break Up Quotes And What We Can Learn From Them

It’s time for another “quotes” article.

This time it’s going to be a collection of some of the most inspiring break up quotes.

What is it that is so fascinating about break up quotes anyway?

First of all, they help us to realize that we are not alone out there. People have suffered from broken hearts back through hundreds of years.

Thinking that you are alone with your break up is not as absurd as many of you perhaps might think. One of the main characteristics of break ups is that we are overcome with overwhelming loneliness. Knowing that other people have had this problem too, and survived, gives you comfort and strength to hang in there.

On the other side, it’s always helpful to see another angle. Artists especially seem to have a different view of the world and life – their gift is to enliven the unaware. They help us to understand what we may already know in our minds, but the feelings in our heart resist believing.

So, I’ve collected the 10 most inspiring break up quotes for you, which not only sound good, but actually make you feel better and more positive about the future if you are going through a break up right now.

Here they are:

The 10 most positive and inspiring break up quotes:

  1. “‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”

    —Alfred Lord Tennyson

  2. Everyone who has suffered from a broken heart at any time has heard this quote. Unfortunately it does not give comfort at the beginning, only years later will you realize its profoundness and value.

    When you understand its true meaning, then you’ll know that you’ve overcome your break up or divorce.

    It is one of my favorite break up quotes.

  3. “If you really love something set it free. If it comes back it’s yours, if not it wasn’t meant to be.”


  4. I heard this the first time in the movie Indecent Proposal. It illustrates the necessity of detachment, of “letting go” after a break up.

    If you can let go, you will receive.

  5. “You have to forgive to forget, and forget, to feel again.”


  6. There is no moving on without forgiveness, and more importantly: there is no new beginning while carrying “old emotional baggage”.

  7. “Those who do not know how to weep with their whole heart do not know how to laugh either.”

    —Golda Meir

  8. Experiencing the negative emotions is part of life. Only if we are able to go through them with our full consciousness can we also appreciate and benefit from the positive ones.

  9. “Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.”


  10. Sometimes relationships can’t be fixed. That is when it’s better to move on. Sad, but very often true.

  11. “Some people think that it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go.”


  12. Only when you are able to completely detach yourself, can you be free. After a break up, and elsewhere in life. Be a leaf floating in a river, not knowing where it might take you. This is true freedom.

  13. “The loss of love is not nearly as painful as our resistance to accepting it is.”

    —Tigress Luv

  14. Acceptance is one important step in healing from a break up. This is part of the painful first phase.

  15. “I’m going to smile and make you think I’m happy, I’m going to laugh, so you don’t see me cry, I’m going to let you go in style, and even if it kills me – I’m going to smile.”

    —Lone Star

  16. This is actually some great break up advice in two ways: first you are not being needy in front of your Ex, you demonstrate strength and your Ex may wonder if s/he has made the right decision.

    Also, constant smiling despite the fact that you feel terrible is a great way “to trick” your mind. By smiling, the body sends signals to the mind that you are happy, even if you are not. Eventually the mind WILL accept the state of the body.

    This is simple neuro-linguistic programming.

  17. “Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”

    —M. Kathleen Casey

  18. This is a great one.

    It means that you have the choice to accept the pain and not allow it to turn into suffering.

    One of the main reasons that mental pain turns into suffering is continual mental reasoning. We can break that vicious cycle by learning to control our thoughts.

  19. “I don’t miss him, I miss who I thought he was.”


It is a great accomplishment to realize that we loved a concept, a picture we had in our minds, rather than the person himself. When we break up, it’s this concept we miss, and what causes the pain is the failure of the same.

The minute we realize this, we can kick our Exes from the pedestal.

These were some of the best inspirational break up quotes I could find; I hope you’ve enjoyed them.

They teach us about detachment, the necessity to forgive and let go, to live life to the fullest with all its dark sides, acceptance, neuro-linguistic programming, mental control and the existence of false pictures.

All virtues for overcoming a break up, and or that arduous task, I wish you all the best.

Your friend,

Eddie Corbano

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452 Responses to 10 Positive Break Up Quotes And What We Can Learn From Them

  1. Smiles03200 January 26, 2012 at 6:50 am #

    You will be fine believe me. I just got out of a 12 year relation ship with the person i loved will everything but he wanted to date a person he met online that he has never met. We have 3 kids together. Even after all the hell he put me through it made me stronger. First you will cry and cry again ,Second the anger will kick in and third you just won’t care. It’s so true when they say time heals all wounds. Belive me I know. Best of luck to you..

  2. Amy January 28, 2012 at 10:14 am #

    OMG. thats devastating!! i dont know who you are but my prayers are with you and i hope you make it good for yourself and your daughter. take care!

    • Akki February 3, 2014 at 6:11 pm #

      I abused my ex bf the one i loved from past 6 years because he made me do that by irritaing me byabusing me and now he says i wont take you ever back in my life eventhough i love you like anything .and now i am crumbled feel so guilty want him back but i cant

    • Confused ? March 13, 2014 at 1:19 am #

      so I have known this guy for over a year , we talked everyday and when i say everyday i mean everyday …..he used to talk to me about this girl he liked and I even met her ….one day he told me how he felt about her and she didnt reciprocate because has a bf …. i continued being there for him ,,,,,,,after him feeling down i told him i can hook him up with one of my friends …he said he wanted to meet them (2 of my friends) i told him i will give him their contact details and he could meet up with them,,,,,,he said know that i have to be there ,,,,,,,,,
      so i met him with my 2 friends and that night he treated me like dirt …..he treated me like i was a nobody and embarrassed me….
      one week after i texted him that i had feelings for him but i think i shouldn’t talk to him because i know he doesnt feel the sameway ( i was hoping he felt something)

      he didn’t reply and stopped talking to me……..

      I am very confused because i thought we were friends and i have been there for him for over one year and I don;t even deserve a phone call or reply…..he made me feel like i have a disease…..

      why is he treating me this way?

  3. Broken Hearted. February 5, 2012 at 6:46 am #

    its been a hard journey for me, because I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years, I found out the other day that had been lying to me about several things, and for me, that broke me down, because it took years for me to trust, especially when he cheated on his ex’s… twice. so Im stuck, but I do want to end things, because I wouldn’t wannabe with someone who’s a liar.

    • Kwynn May 9, 2013 at 11:28 pm #

      I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years. He was my first boyfriend too. I found out that he lied a lot and I don’t need someone in my life who doesn’t know what they have. I’ve finally let myself realize that he doesn’t deserve me and my life will strive without him. You will be ok. Do what’s best for you, it’s always the right choice.

      • dyan June 13, 2014 at 10:57 am #

        u did the right thing… guys dont appereiciate for what they got.. and cherish the gal who dedicated her whole life for him..
        i wish u a better life with a guy who makes u to feel everything u wanted to.

    • i can do it. June 30, 2013 at 10:32 am #

      hey (broken hearted) don’t worry i ve been experiencing the same things as you… you are not alone.. time will heal us… and there’s nothing we can do.. but to let it go..

      • Mose August 11, 2014 at 2:51 pm #

        i was heart broken by a gal i loved very much…. am done over her and i want to tell all heart broken guys that you will heal and have a better relationship again….

        my ex is suffering all i can tell her is to find her own happiness am done with her…..

    • Dynna July 2, 2013 at 12:08 pm #

      I can totally relate. I”ve been withmy boyfriend for two years and found out hes lied to me a lot. i mean, whats the pointin beingin a relationship if your just going to end up lying to ur partner? whats the point??

      • hunt August 9, 2013 at 4:36 pm #

        idk what your boyfriend has lied about, but if it was something like hanging out with his friends because you would get mad i can relate. i lied a lot to my wife to try and keep her from being mad at me about things that i considered silly. i know that it isnt good to be untruthful especially with the one you love, but maybe it just was never meant to be. we are getting divorced now, so thats my advice. life is just too damn short to worry. live it and love it. take care.

      • Manzoor June 5, 2015 at 7:24 pm #

        Let him go…u deserves 4 an another one…

    • ghen October 20, 2014 at 7:19 am #

      it’s so hard and painful to feel like you feel.And the same reason our relation was go on.I trust him so much, and dreams with him,love with him and i want to have spent my life with him..But He is liar. I found that he cheated me with his ex.and my heart is so broke.. It means that you have the choice to accept the pain and not allow it to turn into suffering.

  4. Dani_fumiaki February 5, 2012 at 11:42 am #

    I stayed with him even after he told me he has a girlfriend. Only heard the part that their relationship is not working very well. He broke up with me in a text message but I forgave everything and let him string me along. Now after 2 years he told me he is getting married in 2 months. this after last week we went can I stop loving this cruel person?

    • tarun budhwar February 17, 2012 at 6:52 pm #

      if u realy luv sumthng set it free,if it comes back-it’s yours.if it does nt comes back it is nt yours.he didn’t came back,he was not yours…….so please 4get him….
      tarun budhwar,india

    • Shameerp16 April 20, 2012 at 1:38 pm #

      forget the fast cuz i have gone through this, only thing is your gender is opposite 

  5. Yogeeta Kalra February 19, 2012 at 9:23 pm #

    Don’t say that yaar, there are so many people facing the same problem like you. I had a boyfriend when I was in school I used to make him feel good all the time, it was a one side love I proposed him and he accepted but suddenly one day he said plz give me my personal space, you are so cheap and I can’t talk to you on phone all the day and he left me.. After 1yr One guy proposed me and he was very serious about me, but I didn’t accept his proposal for 2 an a half yr. But after that I realised that he truly loves me. I accepted and tried to love him as he used to, and now it been 6 yrs and we were engaged. From last 4 months he was avoiding as he had changed his office and got so many proposals and suddenly started avoiding me. He did not met me on my bday, he went out with his friends on new year. I sent him gifts to his home this valentines (6 days ago). It was the day he called me up and said can’t you understand I’m avoiding, stop showing that you love me, I don’t wanna be with you any more, and don’t keep any hope from me… I REALLY DON’T KNOW WHT TO SAY… But it’s the first time we have not speak to each other from 6 days… He broked up with me and if my mother got to know about all this she is gonna kill me coz I have fought a lot for him with my parents… Still don’t know what’s gonna happen next… I’m waiting for him to come back, I’ll wait till his b-day if he didn’t come i’ll run away from my home as I dnt have guts to face anyone…

    • sorrows February 20, 2012 at 10:13 am #

      Thanks for your support. Are you sure the guy who proposed you loved you as truly as you did ? Sometimes guys do show artificial love in order to win trust. How can he call off a relation after 6 years? He must have a strong and valid reason with explanation. Is he seeing someone else, do you have a doubt ? Sometimes I wonder how come people dump their partners so easily who love them more than anything else. Did you talk to him face to face, what was his reply ? I’ll be glad if I can do anything to patch up you two. You can reply me on this board or else you may email me at

    • Syed May 13, 2013 at 2:07 pm #

      Are you crazy girl dont think like that okey it’s okey if you fought with your parents for him but don’t forget he was just a stranger but your parents are not may be they don’t show how much they love you but it doesn’t mean that they don’t love you. And if you are going though tough times so share it with them you will feel very light and may b in the beginning they say something bad but after a few days they will accept it and you as well you are their daughter their own blood they will support you no matter how many wrong decisions you took trust me don’t do any stupid thing just go and hug you mom tightly and tell each and every thing and don’t think about that guy bcoz if he forgive you after getting someone better so its good for you that you are not married to him else that would be the worst thing right.always be possitive and don’t take stupid decisions so early take time think about it and be sure every thing will gonna me okey tc

    • Gigi November 14, 2013 at 10:20 pm #

      Please be reasonable. I’m a 48 year old woman. I have had only 5 relationships in my life. I thought :-O was careful in picking someone who loved me for who I am. On our 5 year anniversary weekend, I had planned and arranged a 4-day vacation just the two of us. That weekend came and went. He gave up 5 great years for a penny floozy he met at the bar. I stayed far away from any relationship for ,7 years. Then along came Eric, just a happy, lucky kinda guy that had sparkling eyes and a captivating smile. Everything about him amazed me and I fell so deeply in love. It’s been 2 1/2 years, and the erratic behavior, the messed up way he treats me now… I would’ve walked right past him.
      No matter how much your mental being has been damaged and your heart needs healing, never ever let it show and remember these words from Lone star:

      I ’m going to smile and make you think I’m happy, I’m going to laugh, so you don’t see me cry, I’m going to let you go in style, and even if it kills me – I’m going to smile.
      I hope you’ll heal soon.
      Much love ~G
      I’m here if you want to talk. No judgements just a friend

      • presh September 1, 2015 at 12:33 am #

        gigi , you sound like someone who is understanding . well i was in a relationship for two and a half years until yesterday when suddenly the man i loved so much came with a girl to my house and told me he had moved on . we diddbt have a fight , nothing just out of the blue and we have a daughter together . im just so shattered i mean i just wish he had explained things to me .

    • Aman February 19, 2016 at 10:20 pm #

      dont do that,
      i had a girl friend, we were together for 5 years. on a very small thing she stops talking to me, now its been 2 years i tried evry thing to talk to her n call her back but now she is dating with other guy n getting married to him soon, i couldnt believe that she was the nicest girl on earth for me she took care of me like a mother but now her emotions hav changed. And am suffering from seviour depression only my mom is with me today. Actually ur parents will always love you in every situation so , do not run away.

      • Sep pianco December 2, 2016 at 3:21 pm #

        So sad. The fact is only our parents can love us forever. And of course the God of Univers. God bless you my dear. We had similar issues about relationship.

  6. Decouplier April 7, 2012 at 9:04 am #

    have u thought of strict NC? you seems to be getting a lot of pain from him appearing and disappearing. u need to accept is over and stop this vicious cycle before it eats too much into u. it is difficult to accept that he moved on but u must try and nc helps.

    dun bother asking questions it will just make things worse for u. the best answer requires no questions.

    u are responsible for your happiness, before u met him u are alive right? is all in the mind.

  7. Lovee April 28, 2012 at 2:47 pm #

    ok, so what you have to do is you cant go back with him, if he broke your heart he does not deserve you, you deserve a better person, dont feel like your life is over without him because its not, you will eventually find someone else. And if he wants you back dont fall for it, i made the same mistake and i am not proud of it. Just stand on your feet because you know you’re a bigger person than him. Find yourself and know who you really are. And always think of this: ” dont cry cause its over, smile cause it happened”. 

  8. lovee April 28, 2012 at 2:54 pm #

    okay so i really need help, because i have no idea what to do. So this is my story, my boyfriend broke up with me 26 days ago. We were daiting for a month and we were doing really well, and then he found out about some mistakes i did before i even liked him, because my friend told him and he got all pissed. And he said that i should tell him these things because otherwise he cant trust me. And i told him, i didnt want to tell him, because he was involved in it, and because i forgot about it. He didnt believe me and we started fighting. Then i couldnt sleep, eat, drink, and couldnt stop crying being afraid he would end up with another girl. Then like 3 weeks later he comes up to me and says that he never stopped being inlove with me. And then we started flirting a lot and all. And all of the sudden he says: ” i just want to be friends without saying we love each other”. and he just broke my heart again. What do i do? 

    • Raelcummings327 May 1, 2012 at 7:35 am #

      Girl, you have to realize that you are too good for someone to treat you like that.  You want a boyfriend who will never leave you, not one that has broken your heart…twice.  Get out there! There are tons of fish in the sea and guys waiting to treat you like a princess.  It may be hard at first but if you are smart and look for the right qualities, you will be even happier than you could have ever imagined with your ex-boyfriend.  Have standards for yourself and even though you may be in love, if he isn’t going to treat you right, you HAVE to move on because you will just get more hurt in the end.  Don’t settle for friends, settle for prince charming!!

  9. RANDOM May 13, 2012 at 5:07 am #

    I need help myself. Me and my boyfriend dated for 10 days. I thought he really liked me, but all my friends were telling me to break up with him before he broke up with me. I asked why several times they said because he was calling me a bitch behind my back. Me and him some people said we looked cute, and others told me to break up with him. My best friend messaged me on fb saying she was hanging with him. I was like alright did he say anything about me? 2 hours later she says no. i was like OK…… But then i saw him flirting with her, He broke up with me over text message because i said i love you to my guy friend. My bf said ” Don’t hold my hand pissed you flirt with other guys not trying to be mean but can we be friends” i was like WTF. turns out he got mad at me for saying i love you. i talked to him the next day and he said that he would never flirt with her, shes like his sister. I started to cry and told him the truth about what he was thinking. He FORCED me to give him a hug and said its okay im not mad. and my ex and my ex best friend are now dating. I am so upset and i deleted everything off my fone that reminded me of him and nothing is working. I can not get him out of my head. :*(

    • GloriaG July 8, 2016 at 4:00 pm #

      Girl, 10 days mean nothing. Look back how far you’ve lived so far. Smile because it will help you heal. It’s not easy, but the strength will come from inside once you start smiling at little things like flowers and nature. Once you start thinking about these 2 pieces of s$#… Remind yourself of your power, YOU would not have done that and that makes you a better human being. Run, jump, dance…etc…these things help you heal and forget about this unfortunate event. Hope you heal soon…much love and in my prayers💕

  10. usedandabused May 15, 2012 at 5:00 pm #

    well here’s my situation, i worked with this boy that i met 3 years ago, i was kind of attracted to him, he was cute, but he had a girlfriend, and a kid on the way, well, i didn’t really put anything to it, because i’m not the type of girl to get into something like that, well anyway, for the longest time after they broke up, he would get my number, an text me tell me how amazing and pretty he thought i was , and how he would love to have someone like me, and that he wanted to hang out, me just getting out of a really bad relationship, always made up some stupid excuse not to, well, back in february, i deceided to hangout with him, i brought my best friend with me, because i didn’t want something to happen that i didn’t want to… we sat in his living room, and watched a movie, and as the night went on i started really really liking him more and more, he was so nice, and kind, and he started cuddling with me, than finally he kissed me.. and i got the biggeset butterflies i have ever gotten in my life, like that it was something that i have been waiting for for 22 years, well, we said that night that we were gonna give a relationship ago, but then the next day, he told me he just wanted to be friends, and take things slow, becasue every time he rushed things, they didn’t last, so over the course of a few months up till now, we started hanging out, trying to get to know each other, we did have sex, and we acted like we were together pretty much, and i did SOOO much for him, i bought him shoes, put him on my phone line took him out, bought him stuff, we went to concerts, and i even helped him stay out of jail for fines, there would be days that he would call me his girl, things would be great, and he kept telling me that he liked me he just wanted to enjoy his summer and e verything else. sometimes i would blow up his phone and he would ignore me, but the next day everything would be fine. well, one night, he got drunk, (it was a reoccurring thing) (him drinking) and he told me his facebook password… and i didn’t really think anything of it, till i checked the text logs on our phone one day just to see how many txts we’ve sent, and he started texting this number from 12am-5 in the morning,b ut wouldn’t answer me, so i looked up the number and it was ag irl, so i was curious, and i logged onto his facebook, and read that he has been talking to all these other girls, saying al lthe stuff that he’s been saying to me, and actually talking about me. saying horrible things about me.. and the sad thing is is that i confronted him about it (by making up a little white lie) and he lied right to my face.. well, the other night, i picked him and his friend up and we went to the the bar for some drinks, and then drove back into town (i was the DD) and i dropped him off at his dads house he told me to go pick up his sisster cuz’ she needed a ride to wal-mart, and so i was nice enough to take her, well he told me to come back when i was done, so itried getting a hold of him, and he wouldn’t answer his phone, he didn’t text me nothing, he just straight up ignored me, so i went back to his sisters and hung out with her for awhile, the next two days, he wouldn’t talk to me, he didn’t text me didn’t answer my call, i had no idea where he was, or anything, but he finally texted his sister, and told her that he wasn’t talking to me anymore, and i was talking to his stepmom, and his brother and they said that he didn’t want anything to do with me anymore and he didn’t care if i shut off his phone, and i started freaking out, i felt my entire heart and world crumble (i’ve fallen in love with this kid) and so itexted him probably about no joke 40 times, and i finally got a text from him saying “i dont know what yourtelling people or what they’re telling you but i’m just chillin i’m done with the drama im’ about done with everything” and then we were chill for a little bit, than the next day i wanted to talk… i asked him if we could, he thought i meant in person and i was like would be nice, and he said no.. cause he didn’t want to see me, so he said we could text. so i tried talking about everything, and he said that he didn’t really see us going anywhere, but then we talked a little bit and we decided to start over and try again cause we didn’t really get to knoweach other or do what we planned because we just jumped the gun on everything, well after that was in a better mood, than i try talking to him, and he tells me not to call him hun or babe anymore, cuz’ im not his hun and he’s not my babe, and he started being a dick to me again, and then ignored me yet again for the rest of the night, so i logged into his facebook and he was talking to more girls… this guy drinks from 6am-6am has two kids he doesn’t see, no job. and he’s done this to eveery girl he’s been with yet, i keep trying to get him to talk to me, keep trying to keephim close, i just want to be with him :((

    • GloriaG July 8, 2016 at 4:50 pm #

      You are right, unfortunately you were used and abused.
      Girl, you have to look at the mirror and find the woman in you. No one deserves to be treated like that.
      Don’t beg for a relationship…it is not real if anything happens.
      Use all the money you spent on that guy and use it for traveling for getting yourself a nice day at a Spa. Don’t waste your money and time on someone who was never truly yours…He know and he is sure you will be back and help him….Surprise him, better…shock him and turn the page.
      Remember all the bad stuff about him…you will not enough fingers. With guys like this one, things NEVER get better…they get WORSE al the time.
      I will keep you in my prayers.

  11. josephine May 24, 2012 at 4:22 pm #

    it hurts when i fall in love with someone who’s already taken.already tied.she made me believe that she loves me in when things fall down on me…

  12. Shana June 21, 2012 at 2:06 am #

    y boyfriend of 6 onths broke up with e a few weeks ago, I know this isn’t a long time, But he was my first everything. First love, first EVERYTHING. I trusted him. Although he never cheated on me…he lied. He lied about alot of things and I just let it go and never questioned anything. Like for instance, he lives 5 blocks away from me but he would hang out with all his friends and only see me once a week…When we broke up I took it pretty bad…because again he was my first everything. He smoked alot to…sometimes I felt like he would choose that over me. I don’t smoke, I get good grades. I’m a good girl. He was the typical bad boy, so well when he broke up with me he said “I still love you but I have stuff in my life that I need to take care of ” 3 weeks later…he has a new girlfriend. I wasn’t mad when we originally broke up, I’m mad NOW because he lied. about loving me. That’s what hurts..I think I’m the kind of person..that doesn’t deserve to be lied to..

  13. Wissy96 July 7, 2012 at 12:49 am #

    Two year ago at the start of January, I began dating my ex-boyfriends best friend…and he was okay with that. Anyway we dated for about 3 months then he broke up with me 3 days before my birthday, I was so distraught, I started pushing him, then I was completely holding on to him…I ran off and cut myself…for the very first time. He then asked me back out two days after my birthday…stupid me I said yes…that last till about June….then my best friend has plotted to steal him away from me…she had been speaking to him and telling him that she would “do things with him”, because I wouldn’t because I’m a strong Catholic girl. I asked her if she liked him and she said “No never” and I asked him and he said “Noooo”…but then the next day he broke up with me. I pretended to be okay..but I was so mad…when I got home, I logged onto MSN….and my EX-bestfriends name read “Jess – I love you so much Jords”, I snapped! I was so pissed!!! HOW CAN SHE LOVE HIM??? THE OTHER DAY SHE WANTED NOTHING TO DO WITH HIM…I was so frustrated…Anyway I pretended I was fine..but because they were both in my was so hard to watch them….Then Jess broke up with him, and so I started talking to him because he was really upset. She blamed me for the break up! Because I’d told her if she didn’t like him to break up with him -.- She started dating Kaine who she said she really liked…Jordan was mad..Kaine and him fought..but then she broke it off with Kaine and claimed she never liked him..when she told me otherwise…so Jordan and her got together again….I was so annoyed….But they did end up breaking up…anywho…later down the track I started dating a guy in September and it was a week before school holidays, and the first week of holidays he was in Melbourne…I went to my best guy mates house, and Jordan had been invited to…We were all mucking around and Jordan and I covered my best mate in pillows and sheets…and then just so happened…we kissed…I was surprised and confused as to why and how it happened…I broke up with my boyfriend..not telling him the real reason…Anyway me and Jordan went out a bit later..for 2 months or so..and I broke up with him..and he was now the distraught one..but at the start of began…again….but he was leading me on. I don’t know why but I feel as if even after year I’m still not able to say “I’m over him”, without feeling like I’m lying…Because of him I don’t trust people and so hard for me to be in a the past year I have been in a couple..but they have ended in disaster… I’m kind of friends with him…but I feel as if we were never finished..even though he tore my heart out…and is the reason I have cut myself for the past 2 years….

  14. Srod July 30, 2012 at 10:47 pm #

    Reading a lot of these comments made me teary eyed cause i’m in this situation right now.

    • Chris July 24, 2015 at 8:02 pm #

      as I’m reading this comments my heart is bleading because I’m in this situation right now

  15. Knight August 1, 2012 at 7:33 pm #

    I dont know whats wrong with God. I have faced the same issue, well a lot of issues with 2 girls, first one, i dated for 5 yrs, and then she tells me, she cant be with me coz of religion. Last ditch effort, i even offered to convert, but no budging. I got close to another girl after that, and i later found she was “humping” another guy in one of her texts. She would always find time for herself and her friends but me. I finally gave it up.

    Im still very hurt, and avoid the places she frequents. Well those were the places I used to frequent too. I seriously do not know why God creates such mismatches. Well M still getting over it and I know, by reading over 200 of such posts, m not alone in my pain. I wonder though how the ppl who posted before me, long before me, are doing.
    I hope all of u found someone better, coz i hope i do aswell. I know i have so much love inside me, and im scared someday il die without giving it to someone. I know im jealous, possesive etc, but i loved her. Well, If anyone would like to talk about their issues, u can email me at, or add me on yahoo at

  16. Matthew Kanat September 18, 2012 at 5:28 pm #

    Hello Friends

    I’m 22 years old.I’m from Turkey.I’m gonna try to
    tell my story since I was an Erasmus Student in Greece…I dont know
    what to do…I wish you to help me…Thanks..

    I was an Erasmus
    Student in Greece this year.and I had a greek girlfriend(23 years old)
    for 11 months( all my erasmus period ).and We lived together at the same
    house for 9 months.We really had a good relationship for first
    months..but after some months,she started having fear about my
    religion,culture,people and nation as a normal greek person…Because
    they learn too many bad things about us.But the fact is not like
    that…And we started arguing about these things.even if I know the fact
    about us,I was patient.Because she was judging me unconsciously..I was
    saying that she would see when we were gonna go to Istanbul.and the time
    had come.and we went to Istanbul.She saw the people,religion etc.And
    she told me that I was right.and these arguments were closed till I left
    to Greece.Because my erasmus period was finished.and we had to be apart
    for some months.after some months,she was planning to come to see was on August.and then the time came.because of her dad,she had
    to change her mind.Her dad didnt let her go.Because she needed to study
    for her exams on end of the August.I was dissapointed and sad.Because
    she gave me hopes that she could come.and then she broke my heart.But
    even if she didnt come,after some hours I understood.The fact was like we decided to arrange it after exams..and the time came.she
    wrote me from facebook that she had a problem.I asked what the problem
    is again.she told me ” I talked with my friends.And they told me that
    if I could come and my parents could learn,they would cut my money at
    the university and maybe I wont see you more than a year.Because they’re
    gonna take me home…”after I read that,I was too dissapointed and sad
    again…and it was twice…I didn’t want to talk with her for
    awhile.but after some hours,I understood that the fact was like that.But
    I expected her to take my heart back.Because she gave too many hopes to
    me and then she didn’t keep it…the only thing she said ” the fact is
    like that.I cannot do anything.I know you’re too sad,dissapointed and
    broken.I’m the same too.”…for some days we passed like that.she
    didn’t take my heart back,even she didn’t write me a lot.She only left
    me alone with my broken hopes…Anyway I wrote her ” why don’t you take
    my heart back?because you gave too many hopes and you broke them.why do
    u want to make this conversation longer?Just say something good like
    that we will find a solution to see or I can come to Greece.Nothing she
    said..after some hours,I wrote ” just to know we will break up” by
    being angry…Because she didn’t take any effort to take my was
    too easy.and she answered ” are you kidding?do you want to break up
    for that??don’t change your mind,because I wont…” she wrote…the
    argument really became a big problem now.we were fighting for
    nation,religion,people before.and I was patient and I fixed it.after we
    were apart for 2 months,we started fighting for going out and
    jealousy…I wanted her to go out and have a good time with friends.but I
    wanted her to come home till 2-3 am.I didn’t want her to be too
    late.Because after that time,there is noone as good…everyone tries to
    find someone to do something.This is why I wanted her to put some limits
    for going out etc.But we argued again.Because she came home after 4.30
    or 5.00 all the time.I know my jealousy was a little much.But it was
    because of too much love…even if I was patient of her all the
    time,she wasnt patient or understanding for these limits…anyway after
    this argument she became full..and we broke up as a word.The same
    night,I went out directly and I bought a bus ticket to go to Istanbul
    from my university ( 6 hours ),and for tomorrow morning,I bought a
    flight ticket for Athens.I wanted to make a suprising and to say
    sorry.Normally I wasn’t too wrong.Maybe because of being angry and sad,I
    said bullshits.But it was because of that she didn’t keep her
    promises.when I was in Istanbul,I met a man who is 46 years old and
    greek.he shew my bag which is written University of Patras.and he
    wanted to ask me that I’m from there or not.Because he was going
    there.and Patras was his hometown.we did all the trip together till
    patras.and we talked about my girlfriend.he couldn’t believe in me that I
    came to greece at the same day just to say sorry even if I wasn’t too
    wrong.But I said that it’s a Love…Anyway I came to her friend’s
    home.Because I knew that she was there.she was feeling too bad.when I
    came home and gave the flowers to her,she didn’t react anything.I talked
    too much to take her heart back and forgive me even if I didn’t do
    something big.but she didnt want to continue.she wanted to follow her
    mind.Because she thinks that we wont be happy and we will fight all the
    time…even if the point was to think of arguments and ask yourself that
    why we argue,-because of me or her-,I tried to put myself down.But
    nothing was changed.and I said ” do you want me to go?” she said ”
    sorry but I cannot.Thanks for coming here for me..”after that
    answered,I kissed her once and left home…I was too bad..Because it was
    too hard to leave her here and go…I was alone in the city without my
    girlfriend…the only thing that I was lucky is to meet this man who is
    46 years old and greek.I went his home to stay for night.Because Im
    gonna leave in some days.and he couldn’t believe in that she kicked me
    out…normally she would hug you so strongly…but nothing…we went for
    a drink.and he wanted to talk with my girlfriend.but she didn’t want to
    come to cafe to talk…after that,we understood t hat our relationship
    was totally finished…The time came to leave your girlfriend here and
    go back to my country from the bus station…you cannot imagine how hard
    it was…I was stopping myself to go to my girlfriend and to beg…but
    nothing would be I had to give up anymore…I did more than
    my best for her.The only thing I dont understand is that what the big
    problem we had…to go out till 2-3 am ? or being jealous??I really dont
    know…I was loved,honest and loyal…I did all my best for her.what
    else does she want from her boyfriend in that age??we’re apart for a
    week…I dont know how heart she has,but I couldn’t forget… the only
    thing which is the hardest in that age is to find a person who is a
    lover,honest and loyal…for me,I believe in that we could fix our
    behaviours and negatives by time,but these 3 things are are so hard to find in that age..It’s easy to find someone you love,but it’s hard to find someone who loves you back …I wish she could understand me…

    Thank you for reading…Sorry it’s complicated a little..

    • Pam March 4, 2013 at 11:44 pm #

      as i read you letter, i was teary eyed. Your love is great…i hope you find a woman who will truly love you…

    • Farnam June 13, 2013 at 1:08 am #

      I had the same story somehow, I had a boyfriend for almost 3 years, and I stayed with him after he kinda cheated me once(1st year), and also so many other mistakes he made, I loved him so much and I did for him what you cannot even imagine. suddenly I understood he is texting other girls and flirting in order to show himself that he can do that but he doesnot want to because of me!!!!He said he doesnot know himself and feel ready to be in a relation after 3 years!!!! And he broke up with me 1 month ago. I am during my No-Contact. And I understood that, what we had was not true love, because he was not emotionally mature, and I was too young(18) when I chose him, I didnot know myself enough, and even I didnot know him well before our relationship started, I felt for him too much, that it made me blind.
      Maybe these can help you.
      I wish you true love.

    • broken July 29, 2013 at 2:50 pm #

      wow your story is sad and i’m almost the same i think i loved my girlfriend too much.. i was so stupid even if i’m angry i would go to her and say i’m sorry… sometimes when we fight she just go somewhere so i run to her give big hug and ask her to stay… i was so foolish i would give up everything to her… and the worst thing is i love her and need her , but she don’t need me at all… i feel you bro

  17. Chiquita_Banana_Banana September 30, 2012 at 2:38 am #

    My boyfriend, father of my 2 boys. Told me that he NO longer wanted to be together. He wants to be alone. Just his work life and the kids. He spent years making others happy and doing what others wanted that it was time that he focused on him and what he wanted. We been together for 4 years and things happened fast. I thought it was just stress of NOT getting sleep and having two kids close together.

  18. IB2U October 19, 2012 at 7:05 am #

    My bf just broke up with me…after 2 years. I hope time does heal all or at least some of the wounds….my prayers to all who got to sleep with a broken heart tonight. God bless!

  19. Kelsey February 23, 2013 at 5:13 pm #

    My personal favorite breakup quote is from the wonderful Marilyn Monroe.

    ”If you can’t handle me at my worst you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best”.

    This quote got me through a terrible breakup. My boyfriend of 3 years ended things with me after my little sister passed away, claiming I was a burden.

  20. K March 15, 2013 at 6:32 am #

    #2 is not unknown – it’s a rephrasing from The Prophet by Khalil Gibran.

  21. just a girl... March 19, 2013 at 5:52 pm #

    Ive been in a 8year relationship. Ive been abused phyiscally, emotionally and sociologically. Its hard. Ive always went back, because it was unconditional love I had. I kept no records of wrongs. I was treated like a dog in many cases. He can hit me or choke me and ill always cpme back. I may be dumb but when u really fall for someone, it makes u blind. U have that perception of him that he can change or this is just a phase but, sweety its not.
    Ive learned when u let go its hard but dont concentrate on the negatives. Dont be sad cause it ended. Be happy it happen….i believe that. Learn to trust urself before others. That way u know what ur strenghts and weaknesses are. How far you can go on ur own. A lady or man shouldnt need someone who doesnt need them. when u stand ur ground and figure out ur wants and needs. U learn, ur a lot stronger than u think u are. U realize while being alone, u start to think about what u want ur next relationship to be like. Everything is a learning process. It makes who who u are and u decide weather to change ur bad habits. Choose someone who betters you, not bitters you. im very beautiful to go threw this kind of things but it happens, to all of us. We choose to deal with it our own way. The way we see fit or been taught, so we are comfortable. But how about get out of ur comfort zone for once and do something that can alter ur perspective on life. That this breakup is one stepping stone to see if i can handle whatever is before me in the future. Its all it is. Gods way of showing us we mastered that breakup or challenge in life. Now on to the next. U can over analyze the small picture or look passed it and see the big picture. That u too can overcome this. 8 years is part of a life time. Something u just dont throw away but I have to in order to move on and take what I learn and use for my advantage. I hope my words arent to harsh, but I hope my opinion can help u see that u deserve better. That we all mess up, but everyone messes up. But there is a point of going to far and letting someone play with ur heart and not take u serious. Cause thats not worth giving ur time too or losing apart of ur precious life for.

    Thank u. Follow me on twitter @idgafxfancyhuh

    • srd May 21, 2014 at 2:44 pm #

      Thank you very much…………..
      your thoughts will many people like me. I had the same story. After reading all your thoughts I am feeling little bit relaxed. So i will try to concentrate on my own business.

      Thank You………..

  22. Shivang April 9, 2013 at 10:07 pm #

    aghh im on same boat. I’m 22 & my girlfriend was 20. We were in relationship for 4 years now. She fought so much for me with her parents because they didn’t like me. All of the sudden last month she said I want to break up I want to experience something different. I asked her what I did wrong. And she replied nothing it’s not you it’s me. I cried so much I lost 7 pound in 1 month. I still can’t recover. I lost my Job. I’m graduating in May. I cry day and night wake up middle of night every day and then can’t fall sleep back again. I spend 4 days in hospital in month. All day I keep thinking about her. I have house car Manger at Apple everything in my life. But I just feel so lonely without her. All of her friends stop talking to me as well. I feel like I have nobody left in my life. Any suggestion what I should do. Already go to GYM to fresh up my mind still not helping  . People told me start dating but I’m so nervous now I can’t go up to anyone and ask her.

  23. hurt and left alone April 29, 2013 at 7:39 pm #

    love is so hurtful. About 1 year ago i was madly in love with my recent boyfriend. months passed by and we started getting little problems. He started to become really obsessed and jealous. he accused me of all such for many months and i thought i was to lost it because it was really getting to me. He was the only person i text and call during the day apart from my girlfriends which i barely talk to on the phone. one day i got upset and i sent him a mad text n for hanging up the phone on me.but i didn’t expect him to take serious. but anyway he did. i realize when he didn’t call nor text, I didn’t either because my phone was not working. it went on for a week and i call him the following weekend begging and asking for forgiveness which i am still waiting on . I am broken heart and I am trying to hide my feelings from my family. I think am going to give up.. and i don’t think can keep on begging.. IT seem like am the only one feeling it because he sounds perfectly fine to me. I am so hurt and heart broken.i really love him.. WHY DOES ANYONE HAVE TO FEEL THIS WAY!!!!!!!!!!

    • Shivang April 29, 2013 at 9:02 pm #

      Same it’s been 2 month since we broke up and it looks like it’s only me who’s hurt and I really love her. But she have moved on and got new boyfriend. So far I cry day and night because I loved her so much and now idk what to do. Like I can’t even go up to girl and start conversation. Anyways if you want to talk to someone I’m here for you because I know how it feels. Email me at and I’ll send you my phone number maybe we can talk It out.

  24. Dynna July 2, 2013 at 12:24 pm #

    I’d love some advice so if you’re willing, please read on. Kinda long ;/

    After leaving a 3 year relationship gone bad, I spent some time single and enjoyed myself with friends. then one day, I met a guy at a friends birthday party. We hit it off and have been dating for almost two years now. I’m still with him as I speak but for the past few months we’ve been trying to steady our rocky relationship.

    I tell ya. When we started out, I thought I was the luckiest woman on earth.
    I had a man who was honest, tall, handsome, and very down to earth. Unlike my previous BF, he showered me with his affection. He’d take me out to dinner, he’d open the car door for me, tell me how beautiful I am, hug me, kiss me…my oh my. He was a complete gentleman. I fell for him because he took such good care of my emotional needs. then we started to go downhill from there.


    It all began with a document I discovered in a folder as I was cleaning out my car. I found the print out stapled on all four corners with blank sides facing out, written sides facing in and I thought it was very strange for someone to staple a document this way. So I gently parted the two sheets with my index fingers and read a few words just to see if it was something important my bf would need for work. since he has the tendency to leave his things in my car and forget about them for weeks.

    I felt the blood drain from my face as I struggled to understand the nature of the document.

    It was a print out of a very inappropriate conversation between him and a female intern.

    My initial thought was, “NO, NOT AGAIN.” and i feel a familiar sensation–heart ache. He tells her in the letter that he wants to be with her. “youre all I think about” he says. He was also kind enough to inform her that he has a girlfriend (ME) but never thinks about me because SHES on his mind.

    What shocked me the most was that it was dated five days AFTER we decided to be official! and I discovered the letter about SEVEN months into the relationship. I was grateful she told him ever so gently that she wasn’t into him and that they will only be friends. But reading about his feelings for another girl shocked me so much.

    I didn’t know how to confront him with this but i did.

    His excuse was old and overused by my knifing ex boyfriend. He claimed that the conversation wasn’t serious and that he “didn’t know” why he did it. He apologized and asked for my forgiveness. The romantic in me forgave him [yeah, stupid huh] but after that discovery, our relationship and the way I perceived this gentleman changed dramatically. The Luckiest Woman I knew died along with my previous perception of this guy. foolishly, I believed in second chances.


    After his first mess up, I had to make sure he wasn’t up to something so I’d monitor his Facebook and as a result had my renewed faith in him crushed.

    In five months, Ive caught him flirting with two girls on three separate occasions. one from Facebook and one from Hi-5 . He would go too far with these two women –As far as giving out his home phone number and work number. at This time, I dub him the town Idiot. If i were around when she happens to call, what would he say to her? “Hold on baby my GF is here today. I’ll call u back.” then hang up and smile at me?

    IDIOT. He would try to cover his tracks but the thing about this guy, he is bad, SO BAD, at it. He was sloppy and archived his emails, thinking he deleted them. I read them one by one, saved each one and presented them to him.


    I tried to leave him three times , one time for each of the three occasions i caught him getting in too deep. The last time I left him, he cried so hard.apologized so many times. and idk why I got back together with him. I just felt sorry for him and so i tried for one last time to make our relationship work.

    After that dramatic display, he behaved. months passed by, we lived our life. until a few weeks ago, he starts to talk to the same woman from Facebook. he doesnt bother to delete his messages and for about a month the conversations are innocent. they talk as friends. so i decided to be lenient and just let them be friends. I realize she tries to flirt with him relentlessly but he doesn’t take the bait. My faith in him was slowly building up again mainly because he refused to flirt and to me, that was a display of a man trying to win my trust back. I was happy again and I started to trust him little by little.

    Until one day she asks if she could see him. and im taken aback when his reply says sure. He then tells her how to find him at his weekend job. He is a bouncer for a dance club named GIG Discotheque. She asks if he could give him a big hug and he says “sure. just ask for me n ill come out. but dont talk about it anymore because, you know…”. It was pure luck that I happened to come across this message before he mastered the fine art of deleting FB messages because sure enough after I checked his page a few hours later, the messages were gone. Even his archives were wiped clean. So i knew this “hug” wasn’t going to be as innocent as she made it out to be. He made an attempt to deceive me once more.

    I didn’t confront him about this right away. I just asked him, “What did u do wrong today?” He shrugged, smiled and said “What do u mean baby.” I didn’t answer, just stared out the window. Then he asked “Why…what did u see on Facebook cuz i didnt do anything this time.” I guess he thought he deleted the messages and I didn’t see them. So i told him i read his IM before he deleted it.

    I m not so sure if she ever met up with him. The last i heard, she lived on the neighboring island of Guam. Quite frankly, all the trust and faith that was slowly building up was…gone once more. I do love him, though. Very much. Why? Because i know the man I knew in the beginning is still in there.

    I just need to advise as to how to treat this situation. All the words I read hurt but as far as I know, those are just words, I’m almost positive he’s never ever tried something with anyone in person. He stays home after work and doesn’t go anywhere but to the store.

    well, that’s all.. Any type of advice will help. I feel like a weak, spineless fool for taking so much crap when I know I should have been gone, long gone a long time ago. I kept rebelling against my instincts. I enjoy his company very much when he’s not deceiving me. Even if we never ended up as a couple, we might have ended up as best friends. Love is all to complicated and im too young but i still want this all to work out for the best.

  25. broken July 29, 2013 at 2:32 pm #

    i think if i share this i will feel better, so here it goes 2years ago i meat girl we dated for around 2months and we break up it was my first one, about 3 days i was not myself i tried to get her back but i started to go out with friends etc. meat new girls don’t date just hang out, and last summer i texted my ex the same that i break up with . so we meet talked started hanging out, and you won’t believe we became couple again at first it was weird like we broke up and now we couple again, but as time passsed i begin to like her more and more finaly i was so inlove with her that i would do anything for her, she was in love with me either it was really best year of my life now… something happened i don’t know what last week she went home and didin’t answered phone or texted back i don’t know what heppened. the i decaded to go to her her mom was home i talked with her she said that my girl don’t go outside always at home we talked for 5 min or so then i went into my girls room we talked but it was really hard i’m guy so i try to hold my emotions bu i didin’t feel anything from her like no emotions at all, i was so stupid i kissed her to know if she feel anything i was wrong she don’t feel anything for me that kiss was just a kiss no emotions from her, same day she went to trip with family to other city … i haven’t seen her 4days no text no call nothing… i don’t know i can’t hold myself i trully love her she is the one… the forst thing is that i need her but she don’t need me at all that is just devastating.i always hold my emotions but not this time i just can’t i tryed to go out with friends cheer up not working… i just can’t get over her.

  26. Gabriela August 1, 2013 at 8:52 pm #

    i have 4 months with my boyfriend, all this time he would go 1 week without calling and then we would make dumb excuses that i never believed but accepted becasue i loved him….today he has 1 week without calling however this time is diffrent i believe he is not calling back….i just want him to say its over, im not going to ask for another chace i just want to move one however i can because he always comes back. Last time we talked everything was fine, however the following day he didnt anwer anymore, and today his phone is disconnected. i hate not knowing for sure if this time he will be back. i just want to know if it is over it will help me forget and accept it is over.

  27. Sumi August 8, 2013 at 3:03 pm #

    This quotes page is very helpful. Thank you. My ex and I broke up a month ago…we were together for 16 months. He broke up with me because he thought our communication wasn’t very good and he thought we have been fighting a lot. I didn’t think it was that bad because we still had good times and I had no reason to think he was unhappy. It hasn’t been that long since the break up so obviously I’m still very hurt that he didn’t want to work things out. I had hope at one point but not anymore. Now I’m currently not talking to him (haven’t been for two weeks) and I’m just taking care of myself, living my life…its not easy but I hope to God things will get even better.

    • Nito Achumi September 30, 2016 at 7:01 am #

      No need to worry….. it happens….it says that one day the person so close to you may leave you, but it doesn’t mean that its the end of your story, its only the end of their part in your story…so have faith in GOD and continue your journey…

  28. DDK October 8, 2013 at 12:54 pm #

    My bf just ended a six years relationship with me for someone he met for few months. I literally gave my life in loving him. When I first met him his life was a mess, he was a drug and addict with financial problem. I became his support system to get his life back on tract because of the feeling he had for me. I was a good influence to him. He was crazy about me. A month later he was diagnosed HIV pos during our first health check. He was devastated and in fear but I was being with him all the time to go through the painful time. I told him I would never leave him. I decided to be with him wanted to take care of him. I expected the worst when I committed into this relationship and understand the consequences may come. Unfortunately a year later I was sero-converted and became HIV positive too. I was scared but was ok with it because I thought we at least had each other. That is the love and experience God wanted me to have. We would apprecaite each other more than anyone else. Things had been great the next 5 years and we were deeply in love, our relationship had been amazing. We were the modal couple of most friends around us, at least I thought we were. But three months ago he told me he wanted to break up with me because he is seeing someone and had no feelings for me anymore. The sense of betrayal was so strong that I could barely cope with. Everything happened out of the blue with no warning or signs. I didn’t see it coming. I am now left alone with the pain and illness alone and he is having a wonderful time with the new love. I asked myself what have I done to myself? Three months has passed and the pains still resurface.

    • Jess January 2, 2015 at 5:38 am #


      I have seen your comments – and it made me really sad that such a beautiful and selfless person was treated like this.
      I hope that you are feeling better as it happened more than a year ago.
      I think of you

  29. Esh October 28, 2013 at 8:06 am #

    My bf left me aftr 7 years. He moved to the new place new univ new friends. He got very busy and left with no time for me to talk.but he had time to go out for movies and dinner with his new friends. He was fighting with me daily that his warden would be shifting to coed hostel and i wasnt in favor neuther his family. He just left me giving me the reason that I dont trust him. Despite the fact he cheated me once. Its been 40 days now of NC as I changed my number when he told me not to call him ever. He was everything to me, my life my future. i am so much attached to him. As the days r passing its becoming more n more hollowness inside me. I miss him alot

    • tharawon susan machinao November 23, 2015 at 10:25 pm #

      Dnt worry everything will be okay,god knws your heart he will never let you down ,i do have the same experience after loving him so deeply for a year one day after such long time we met , he said he wan to become a best friend that he will never forget but not girlfriend and he said that he has a girl, whom he love very much …… was so hurt can’t bear the pain, no words to say, just have to keep quite ……dnt knw why he left me atleast if he give me the reason or explain i should try my best to stay with him.but i dnt get any option chance,just waiting for him might be one day he will come back its been more tan a 2yrs still waiting for the chance the more i wait its becoming more and more missing him.atleast if he knw how much i need him or atleast if he gave me the reason i can still forget though i love him alot

  30. Neha December 3, 2013 at 7:20 am #

    I have been in a relationship with this guy for above an year. we were friends for around two years before we fell into the relation. after about sometime. he was very conservative and had problem even if i wear sleeveless dresses. i changed myself for him, behaved and looked the way he wanted. to start with we used to fight a lot over silly matters and we kind of broke up four months before. i could not imagine of surviving without him. i begged and he said we will give the relation another chance. i sometimes feel he is heartless.I ve been crying over him and he says he can survive without me. and he is not desperate to be with me as much as i am. last month he again said this relationship is not what he wants. he wants apace and i am not giving him that. i again cried and tried calling him. he didn’t attend my calls and blocked me. Yesterday i texted him i wont try anymore and I am officially moving on with my life as i have realized that there is no future for us. He called me back and said its not that i don’t love you but i am tried and sick of the fights and i want both of us to move on in life. and i need you to take a break from me for six month and enjoy my life and all. I lost my patience and said i don’t want your sympathy and i will move on with my life. Please don’t contact me ever and u are never going to get me back. this happened yesterday and i have been desp from morning. i feel like calling him and speaking to him. i don’t know. Its has been not even a day and still i cannot do it. how will i do it for above a month??? help me…!!! is the No Contact rule going to changes things and will it make him come back??

  31. Marukina January 14, 2014 at 3:34 pm #

    I’m not sure if i should be posting here, because i’v not broken up. I’m with a guy for 3 months now. He ws the one who asked me out nd though i did’nt agree first, later i said yes. In the course of the first 2 months i dont know when, but i fell madly in love with him. I also landed up getting a tiny bit possesive. Then in the last month we faught a lot, though we made up immediately the day after and became very lovey dovey again, yet we’d fight again. Then during christmas i went abroad for 11 days. During that time, he was also very busy so he wudnt text me, evn though i was myself busy i would still text him. It was my fault, i faught with him over this, i told him to send me just one text a day, that would be enough to make me happy but not getting to talk or contact u all day just makes me very sad. He took this in a very rough way and said i was trespassing in his personal space. We had a bad follow up fight, and i landed up telling him to break up with me though i did not mean it at all. I later apologised to him a lot, but he told me that he wants to still be with me but doesnt want to further increase our attachemnt. We spoke a lot about evrything, and i cried nd begged him to forgive me. He says that he has forgiven me and evrything is fine…but yet sumwhere i know things have changed. I feel as if he doesnt love me anymore the way he used to and i miss the old him. I keep apologising but doesnt make a difference any more. I am being very sweet to him and being understanding but i can understand that things have suddenly changed vastly….and i miss being the way we used to be. I love him so so much…and am so scared of loosing him…but he seems completely fine, not even bothered.

  32. ann April 2, 2014 at 9:50 am #

    i have fince we have long distance relationship. lately he always say that he”s busy i do understand him.but when i text him he dont reply,when i already mad he reply and start fighting with me..then he always say broke up with me..i really love him even he make way to make me give up…

  33. john patric April 4, 2014 at 5:18 pm #

    Only one word I would like to say “Awesome”……….

  34. kaos May 11, 2014 at 8:22 pm #

    What do you do when your ex is your boss and going out with your colleague whom you thought she’s was your friend but backstab you hard and at the same time this gal is flirting with my best friend…. its so irritating and too dramatic….. I just can’t stand it,can’t leave the job.. but will finish my tenure after 2months….I’m in a spot where m at a loss n can’t do anything..but getting better crying has decreased alot though.i starting smiling again:)….

  35. P3rt June 12, 2014 at 7:14 pm #

    Why girls are so selfish???? Or it was mine???
    15 years engagement- Ended just before the marriage… Looking for “helping material” :/

  36. Apple March 16, 2015 at 4:47 am #

    I stayed in Pune for almost 7 years. I was in a relationship with a guy for almost 4 years in Pune itself. I had to suddenly move from that city because of some personal reasons. My boy friend Promised me that he ‘ll come to me soon and ‘ll get marry with me. But soon after few months he found a new girlfriend. We both use to work on the same company.He was good with me till I was in Pune. It’s been 2 years now I am waiting for him. But came to know from my friends who works in the same company where he works that he found a new girlfriend from the past few months.
    Not able to take a decision.

  37. Aishwarya May 10, 2015 at 9:00 pm #

    I am in relationship for 2 years and he is my first.. first six months were like amazing but after that he started ignoring me. when we met he couldn’t stop calling and texting me but after a while all he cared was his friends. suddenly I was annoying and he needed a space. I have been trying so hard to Break up but somehow I can’t. I loved him so much and changed myself a lot for him. I will have no emotional support if I break up and that is why I Am scared to leave him. it sounds silly but I am totally helpless. what should I do?

    • Chandan October 7, 2015 at 7:18 am #

      Hi , please keep yourself busy in your assigned or priorities and wait for his response rather you respond towardsh him

  38. Lebogang June 2, 2015 at 10:51 pm #

    Ive read every comment and it feels good coz all my negative thoughts has i know how to deal wit my relationship

  39. Lizzi June 25, 2015 at 12:42 pm #

    I have been dating this guy for over and year now, I first meet him because I was closed to her cousin, eventually we fell in love with each other, but people were saying he was a player I never talk to him until we started dating, I never intended dating him because of all the ill things people were saying about him, but he was smart he fool my friends and even me , amd make every one to fall in love with him, but my families adviced me not to date him but I but I argue them that he loves me, later I started hearing information that his ex was pregnant for him, and I ask him which he answered yes but he said that the girl deceived him, but he promised me that he will not have anything to do with the girl. Later this year he started acting funny I was surprise and even my friends were surprise too he started refusing my calls and started insulting me, I ask him what happened amd he told he had a girl friend that I should be ashamed of my self because I am sleeping with someone else’s man, and I cried to him that he never tell me that he had a girlfriend , we settled it and was together again, now his ex girlfriend has given birth he no longer have my time, he only talk to me when he need money, and the other girl friend has refused to give him money, because he is not working at the moment, but he is cheating on the two of us and now we both know each other, but he is developing feelings for his ex baby mama, please I don’t know what to do I am ashame of my families don’t kbow what to say if they ask me if we are still together, and I also think I am a loser, please I need your opinions, I have deciding to leaving him, I am just too confuse.

  40. ~FalloutMaiden~ September 19, 2015 at 5:02 am #

    My first love, the only man I ever saw myself with. He was my everything. I remember how we got together, weird as it sounds his brother, two years prior, tried shoving his tongue down my throat. We were camping and his brother followed me to an area at the campground I went to think. He was being nice at first, I could tell he liked me, I was flattered, but I didn’t reciprocate the feeling because I liked his brother since I was about 9. He started to advance on my, even when I said no, stop…he touched me in places I didn’t want to be, and forced his lips on me, I finally pushed him off and blurted out that I liked his brother and he needed to leave me alone…I felt bad for the kid but I didn’t like him.
    The kid’s brother (the one I liked, my now ex…) at the time was in an abusive relationship and I never wanted to put in my input on how unhealthy it was, luckily my sisters did that for me (as I went all hippy listening to Greenday as I watched the fireflies). That year he dumped her and I was, not being myself, ecstatic.
    In 2014, last year, we were walking to his campsite, I told him what happened with me and his brother, but paused when I got the the “I like you’re brother not you, but we can still be friends” bit…I stopped in my tracks and said…maybe I shouldn’t tell you…he pressed on, begging for me to say what I was hidding…I told him and we walked in silence. After he showed me his car (yawn) I looked him in the eye and asked if he liked me. He said he did, told everyone we were going out before he asked me to go out….I saw myself only with him, had weird visions of a future with him that I never experienced with anyone else….then this July he went to Europe… He came back and gave up on our relationship… I was so confused…he’d tell me he’d never leave me and he loved me more then anything and that I was his world…then he’d be mean and hostile, brood on everything… I felt alone and scared. On Tuesday this week he told he loved me and I was his world and he couldn’t wait to see me again… On Wednesday he told me he was done, I tied him down and he needed a break…. My heart shattered…. I still love him, I gave him everything… My mind, my body, my heart, and my soul….I feel lost and destroyed…how do I heal from it? He won’t even tell me what changed….. If you have any advise please… I want to hear it…

  41. pranav October 12, 2015 at 6:58 am #

    it was my 10 year relationship, after getting job i am not able to give her proper time so last month she decide to left me one day she told me i dont want to continue with you because of you ignored me, next day i put my resign from job and told her baby i put my resign for you she told me, it was not for me it your fault why you left this job

    on that day i totally broken from inside ,i lost both things from my hand
    it is so harder time for me
    if she give me one chance i can reverse this problem bt she was not ready to give me another chance

    • tharawon susan machinao November 23, 2015 at 10:29 pm #

      that means she didn’t love you, she might have someone who is more important than you, go on enjoy your life god knows how truthful you are so he will never let you down and also may you get a better job.

  42. diana December 1, 2015 at 7:14 pm #

    hv gone thru alot. i hv two kids with my husband. he is a prayer. whenever we get misunderstandings he goes bak to his xz or get a new chic. and when they get misunderstandings he comes back to me. he lies to his mum that i cheat on him yet hv been faithful to him. he works upcountry but from there he get chics. wen i ask him y all that he says i annoye him so he revenges. he wants me to feel guilty over somethings which hvnot done

  43. Futi January 3, 2016 at 2:01 pm #

    my boyfriend of 8 years has just paid lobola for someone else on the 31 December 2015. we have a 14 month beautiful baby girl together, he didnt tell me his plan, everything was just fine. even now he never said something about it but l lm sure it happened. l dont know what to say…should l ask him or just keep quiet? heart broken

  44. leo February 19, 2016 at 12:05 pm #

    Sometimes loving someone is a curse. No matter how much you love your curse it only make you suffer. I am who suffering a lot.its heavy to let one go.But I have to let it be.I don’t know how!

  45. Kaitlyn February 29, 2016 at 5:44 am #

    I’ve been on and off with one of my ex bf for over 6 years now. I feel when I am not good enough anymore for hI’m any more or he has the desire to go out and find better he leaves me. Then about 3-6 months later he will try and pick it back up like nothing ever happend. As the years go on its getting more difficult because I feel I will never be good enough and need to completely remove him from my life. Yet that will be the most difficult thing because I have created such a vivid future with him in my mind which I truly know would never work but at the same time I am so foolish to letting him back in. Which in my mind I know if it was true love he would stay which just hurts even more.

  46. hammad March 13, 2016 at 7:47 pm #

    Hey guys i know how you feel but sonetime we boys lie just to keep you happy just not to bother you. I know we boys dont epress our feeelings much but trust me we love you more than our lives. No guy would be with a girl for 2 or more years he loves thats why he spent that much time with you.

  47. Broken Girl August 10, 2016 at 6:15 pm #

    I have dated my ex for the last six years. For the first two years, we had a good relationship and things were really okay between us. Then two years ago, out of the blue, he said he wanted us to be friends. i was very devastated. I sought Ed for help. I tried the no contact rule for like a week. He found ways to sabotage my recovery period back then and even asked me back. I still loved him so I agreed. Last year, I fell pregnant with his child. Although he was not overly excited with the thought of a baby, he accepted the pregnancy and said he would support the child once it was born. During the period I was pregnant, i could get mixed feelings and reactions from him. At one point, he would say he wanted us to move in together and the raise the child and would text me the following day saying he was not ready to take that big step. He could one day agree to visit my parents and the next day decide not to. I finally gave birth early this year but unfortunately, for reasons I would not like to go into details, I lost my child. I was also hospitalized for more than two weeks following the ordeal. Although he supported me financially, he was never physically there for me. he visited me in the hospital once for about 20 minutes and then left.
    After i was discharged, he never came to visit me at home. he always wrote text saying he would come on the weekend and never showed. When I asked him, why he couldn’t have told me he could not come, he would say he forgot about it. A month later after the death of my child- our child, he said he wanted time to think if we still had a future. At that time I was still in pain after the loss of my first born, i can say for a fact that that has been the most heart drenching moments of my life. I am still not over the loss but I am a Christian and so I pray for courage to face each day.
    back to my ex, he then said that he wanted me and was ready for us and wanted us to talk. When we finally met, the story was different, he is not ready to commit. Those were his exact words.
    some part of me did not want the relationship to end because after the loss of my child, i could not think I could suffer another loss 3 months later. Especially losing the person I have loved for the last six years. But I know that after 6 years, a child together and no commitment is not the kind of life I want for myself. I have resolved to work on myself. Today will be my first day of no-contact. I told him earlier today that I would be cutting all communications with him. He said ok, like he never cared. I have a good reason to believe that he is seeing a girl he met last year while I was pregnant and liked- he told me about her when we met but he insist that there’s nothing between them. I dint believe him. I know he has already moved on. Today I have resolved to work on myself. I know in my heart that I cannot stay in such a relationship. I deserve better. I believe if God has seen me through the last four months after I the loss of my child (I am in a better place emotionally than I was then-) I will be able to overcome the urge of wanting my ex back or even the urge to contact him.

  48. crazy lee November 8, 2016 at 9:28 am #

    I have been with my boyfriend ova three years,he showed me how good is love and to be loved;so lately we have been fighting n arguing a lot ,our communication has been limited I have to start every day to ask how he is doing n his day;some times when he is free from work I ask him how abt we go outdoors and have fun at the park;movies, walk ;but he will tell me how broke he is ;month ends he used to gv m some spending to spoil myself ;so when I lost my job he gave me cold shoulders and don’t gv m anything at all ;he always complain and don’t appreciate in everything I do for him and I tried speaking to him about how I feel ;but still I feel worse ;and he aims that he loves me and don’t want loose me ;but when I told him it’s over it jst said ok and cutter our lovely photo frame picture; it’s been a week but I miss him already;but I can call nor text him cz I want show him how much he need a n so he learns how to accept m n appreciate my presents in him life.;

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