10 Positive Break Up Quotes And What We Can Learn From Them
by Eddie Corbano
It’s time for another “quotes” article.
This time it’s going to be a collection of some of the most inspiring break up quotes.
What we have had so far, (and many of you gave me positive feedback on those), was some interesting romantic quotes and celebrity broken heart quotes.
What is it that is so fascinating about break up quotes anyway?
First of all, they help us to realize that we are not alone out there. People have suffered from broken hearts back through hundreds of years.
Thinking that you are alone with your break up is not as absurd as many of you perhaps might think. One of the main characteristics of break ups is that we are overcome with overwhelming loneliness. Knowing that other people have had this problem too, and survived, gives you comfort and strength to hang in there.
On the other side, it’s always helpful to see another angle. Artists especially seem to have a different view of the world and life – their gift is to enliven the unaware. They help us to understand what we may already know in our minds, but the feelings in our heart resist believing.
So, I’ve collected the 10 most inspiring break up quotes for you, which not only sound good, but actually make you feel better and more positive about the future if you are going through a break up right now.
Here they are:
The 10 most positive and inspiring break up quotes:
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“‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”
—Alfred Lord Tennyson
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“If you really love something set it free. If it comes back it’s yours, if not it wasn’t meant to be.”
—unknown
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“You have to forgive to forget, and forget, to feel again.”
—unknown
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“Those who do not know how to weep with their whole heart do not know how to laugh either.”
—Golda Meir
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“Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.”
—unknown
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“Some people think that it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go.”
—unknown
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“The loss of love is not nearly as painful as our resistance to accepting it is.”
—Tigress Luv
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“I’m going to smile and make you think I’m happy, I’m going to laugh, so you don’t see me cry, I’m going to let you go in style, and even if it kills me – I’m going to smile.”
—unknown
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“Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”
—M. Kathleen Casey
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“I don’t miss him, I miss who I thought he was.”
—unknown
Everyone who has suffered from a broken heart at any time has heard this quote. Unfortunately it does not give comfort at the beginning, only years later will you realize its profoundness and value.
When you understand its true meaning, then you’ll know that you’ve overcome your break up or divorce.
It is one of my favorite break up quotes.
I heard this the first time in the movie Indecent Proposal
If you can let go, you will receive.
There is no moving on without forgiveness, and more importantly: there is no new beginning while carrying “old emotional baggage”.
Experiencing the negative emotions is part of life. Only if we are able to go through them with our full consciousness can we also appreciate and benefit from the positive ones.
Sometimes relationships can’t be fixed. That is when it’s better to move on. Sad, but very often true.
Only when you are able to completely detach yourself, can you be free. After a break up, and elsewhere in life. Be a leaf floating in a river, not knowing where it might take you. This is true freedom.
Acceptance is one important step in healing from a break up. This is part of the painful first phase.
This is actually some great break up advice in two ways: first you are not being needy in front of your Ex, you demonstrate strength and your Ex may wonder if s/he has made the right decision.
Also, constant smiling despite the fact that you feel terrible is a great way “to trick” your mind. By smiling, the body sends signals to the mind that you are happy, even if you are not. Eventually the mind WILL accept the state of the body.
This is simple neuro-linguistic programming.
This is a great one.
It means that you have the choice to accept the pain and not allow it to turn into suffering.
One of the main reasons that mental pain turns into suffering is continual mental reasoning. We can break that vicious cycle by learning to control our thoughts.
It is a great accomplishment to realize that we loved a concept, a picture we had in our minds, rather than the person himself. When we break up, it’s this concept we miss, and what causes the pain is the failure of the same.
The minute we realize this, we can kick our Exes from the pedestal.
These were some of the best inspirational break up quotes I could find; I hope you’ve enjoyed them.
They teach us about detachment, the necessity to forgive and let go, to live life to the fullest with all its dark sides, acceptance, neuro-linguistic programming, mental control and the existence of false pictures.
All virtues for overcoming a break up, and you are now one step closer to finding the secret of how to get over a break up.
For that arduous task, I wish you all the best.
Your friend,
Eddie Corbano
My Recommendation For Further Reading:
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- Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends - THE Classic Book About Breakup Recovery
- For Men: Getting Your Groove Back After A Breakup - Approaching Women and Getting Physical
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About The Author:
Eddie Corbano is a breakup-coach, relationship-advisor and founder of LovesAGame. He suffered from a devastating break up in 1998. Since then, he dedicated his life to helping others getting the best of this existential experience. The overcoming of a break up is an important step to autonomy and independency. Eddie Corbano developed some new coaching programs, which focus on evolving inner strength and the power to set and reach any personal goal. (Article written on March 3rd, 2008)
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im trying to get over my ex of.. about 4 days now. and i am really struggling. we dated on and off throughout my sophomore year, and for about a year and a half up until january 17th 2010, my senior year. He has broken my heart atleast two times, and ide accepted him back into my life. but this time i had had enough of the arguments and ended things between us. even though im 17 and he is 21, we got along great at first, but things got rough during my senior year. He never understood if i needed time with my friends, and if i decided to hangout with them one night i would end up in the bathroom arguing about it with him the whole night anyways. and i understand where he is coming from, wanting to spend time together, but he was relentless. Even if i needed to dye my hair one night and had to leave his house, it became a huge argument. it doesnt help that i live next door to him either. I found myself thinking constantly, he has the characteristics of someone i KNOW i dont want to marry. People can change, but these problems are deep, and its not like he can change his personality.. its like i had fallen in love with the wrong person. He never put any effort what-so-ever into making things work between us, either.
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So here i am, missing him terribly. the person i grew so far apart from, the person i know im not meant to be with. i moved in with my mom so i dont see him, and yet i still feel the need to be with him and text him; we hungout practically everyday (the next door issue). I think the truth is that i am absolutely TERRIFIED to live my life without him, because im so used to it, i feel like it will be physically impossble. He has been the only guy ive cared for throughout highschool, and i feel like im trapped and will never successfully move on. sorry this is terribly long, two years is alot of time to cover in a little typed message. email me please and help me move on
ok well casey i have similar issues with my ex aswell except i moved away and we no longer talk but he told my friend that he cheated on my throughout our relationship and never loved me..i find it very hard to belive becuase everyone always told me how much he loved me and would never hurt me..but the reason im responding to you is becuase well i dated him for a little over a year and when we broke up i felt like moving on so i dated somone else for a month or so but i broke up with him becuase it kinda felt like i was cheating on my ex…even though me and him already broke up previous to me dating again…i often feel very trapped with my ex and think that maybe hes my somone that god put me on the earth to be with…but its not true if this boy your talking about has ever made you cry..hurt you..ignored you, or even ha been obsessed(sounds like he was) then dont worry theres your perfect somone and no matter how much you love this guy you’ll love your perfect sumone 100 times more you’ll know when you’ve found him cause i found mine and now were married so goodluck to your future!:)
Hi, some great quotes in there! Just fyi: the Smile quote #8, is from a Lonestar song, called Smile, great song! I dont know if they originally coined the saying, or if they just incorporated it into the song, but either way, figure i’d give the credit where its due!
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hey i m soo soory that happend to you but your not the only one that feel soo lost. your story is like mine i had the most perfect bf too and we were together 4 about 3years and we were having a baby every thing was soo perfect i love hem and he loved me and then he just send me a message on my cell and told me we are over out the blue he changed hes cell # and evry thing i never thougt it would happen to me but it did and now im lost but when your down there it no were else to go but up i tell my self that every day and this just happend to me too the day after xmas so i no how you feel but keep your head up there is some one out there 4 you just hereing your story helps me cuz i no im not alone so think you
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my boyfriend of 3 years (2 of them living together) broke up with me 2 days ago. I am reeling. I realize that what we had was good and we gave it a good shot…but we are too different to live compatibly forever. I am more shocked and hurt that I have to live my own life again. This website has helped me tremendously to get through today…and i’ll look at it again tomorrow and probably the day after. its helped me to realize what I was doing wrong and what he was doing wrong. He is too immature to work on the relationship…but hey…now i’ll know for the next guy. its nice to know that i am NOT alone…and that there are people out there that feel as lost and shocked as i do. we can all be strong together!!
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@Ajay Subrayan – I REALLY FEEL FOR YOU AND I UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. I AM GOING THROUGH THE SAME THING AS YOU ARE.
I HOPE SHE COMES BACK TO YOU.
GOOD LUCK
my ex gf is getting married..
she deserves to be happy with someone. i just thought it should hve been with me.
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