10 Positive Break Up Quotes And What We Can Learn From Them

by Eddie Corbano


It’s time for another “quotes” article.

This time it’s going to be a collection of some of the most inspiring break up quotes.

What we have had so far, (and many of you gave me positive feedback on those), was some interesting romantic quotes and celebrity broken heart quotes.

What is it that is so fascinating about break up quotes anyway?

First of all, they help us to realize that we are not alone out there. People have suffered from broken hearts back through hundreds of years.

Thinking that you are alone with your break up is not as absurd as many of you perhaps might think. One of the main characteristics of break ups is that we are overcome with overwhelming loneliness. Knowing that other people have had this problem too, and survived, gives you comfort and strength to hang in there.

On the other side, it’s always helpful to see another angle. Artists especially seem to have a different view of the world and life – their gift is to enliven the unaware. They help us to understand what we may already know in our minds, but the feelings in our heart resist believing.

So, I’ve collected the 10 most inspiring break up quotes for you, which not only sound good, but actually make you feel better and more positive about the future if you are going through a break up right now.

Here they are:

The 10 most positive and inspiring break up quotes:

  1. “‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”

    —Alfred Lord Tennyson

  2. Everyone who has suffered from a broken heart at any time has heard this quote. Unfortunately it does not give comfort at the beginning, only years later will you realize its profoundness and value.

    When you understand its true meaning, then you’ll know that you’ve overcome your break up or divorce.

    It is one of my favorite break up quotes.

  3. “If you really love something set it free. If it comes back it’s yours, if not it wasn’t meant to be.”

    —unknown

  4. I heard this the first time in the movie Indecent Proposal. It illustrates the necessity of detachment, of “letting go” after a break up.

    If you can let go, you will receive.

  5. “You have to forgive to forget, and forget, to feel again.”

    —unknown

  6. There is no moving on without forgiveness, and more importantly: there is no new beginning while carrying “old emotional baggage”.

  7. “Those who do not know how to weep with their whole heart do not know how to laugh either.”

    —Golda Meir

  8. Experiencing the negative emotions is part of life. Only if we are able to go through them with our full consciousness can we also appreciate and benefit from the positive ones.

  9. “Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.”

    —unknown

  10. Sometimes relationships can’t be fixed. That is when it’s better to move on. Sad, but very often true.

  11. “Some people think that it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go.”

    —unknown

  12. Only when you are able to completely detach yourself, can you be free. After a break up, and elsewhere in life. Be a leaf floating in a river, not knowing where it might take you. This is true freedom.

  13. “The loss of love is not nearly as painful as our resistance to accepting it is.”

    —Tigress Luv

  14. Acceptance is one important step in healing from a break up. This is part of the painful first phase.

  15. “I’m going to smile and make you think I’m happy, I’m going to laugh, so you don’t see me cry, I’m going to let you go in style, and even if it kills me – I’m going to smile.”

    —unknown

  16. This is actually some great break up advice in two ways: first you are not being needy in front of your Ex, you demonstrate strength and your Ex may wonder if s/he has made the right decision.

    Also, constant smiling despite the fact that you feel terrible is a great way “to trick” your mind. By smiling, the body sends signals to the mind that you are happy, even if you are not. Eventually the mind WILL accept the state of the body.

    This is simple neuro-linguistic programming.

  17. “Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”

    —M. Kathleen Casey

  18. This is a great one.

    It means that you have the choice to accept the pain and not allow it to turn into suffering.

    One of the main reasons that mental pain turns into suffering is continual mental reasoning. We can break that vicious cycle by learning to control our thoughts.

  19. “I don’t miss him, I miss who I thought he was.”

    —unknown

It is a great accomplishment to realize that we loved a concept, a picture we had in our minds, rather than the person himself. When we break up, it’s this concept we miss, and what causes the pain is the failure of the same.

The minute we realize this, we can kick our Exes from the pedestal.

These were some of the best inspirational break up quotes I could find; I hope you’ve enjoyed them.

They teach us about detachment, the necessity to forgive and let go, to live life to the fullest with all its dark sides, acceptance, neuro-linguistic programming, mental control and the existence of false pictures.

All virtues for overcoming a break up, and you are now one step closer to finding the secret of how to get over a break up.

For that arduous task, I wish you all the best.

Your friend,

Eddie Corbano

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About The Author:

Eddie Corbano is a breakup-coach, relationship-advisor and founder of LovesAGame. He suffered from a devastating break up in 1998. Since then, he dedicated his life to helping others getting the best of this existential experience. The overcoming of a break up is an important step to autonomy and independency. Eddie Corbano developed some new coaching programs, which focus on evolving inner strength and the power to set and reach any personal goal. (Article written on March 3rd, 2008)
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  • lil miss silly
    Today, I am glad to be back here after quite some time. And to tell you all the good news. Well, for me.

    My ex, that I had been together for 3 years just got married. And I'm not hurt at all. :)

    I am just so glad I overcame him. And I'm sure, all of you will do the same. God bless you all! :)
  • kitaaa
    I'm 6 months pregnant with my son. My boyfriend and we just broke up a week ago. It's so hard to hear that he doesn't want me anymore. I don't want to raise my child without him...I'm just trying to find motivation to get me through until the day my baby is here. I'm scared everday for what's going to happen. I hope he mans up for us. I'm the only one working, housekeeping. Just seems like he would want to be around for his son...
  • Becca
    I'm Five months pregnant and broke up with my boyfriend because I don't want to be with him. I work two fulltime jobs and he sits on his butt like he doesn't need to work. He's not ready to be a man but wants to be there for this baby. He's gotta grow up but we wont be together. People do this all the time. They raise their child alone, If he doesn't wanna be a father now.. than he doesn't deserve to be one later. :( Be strong. Your more than capable of giving your son enough love for 2315 people. Don't let it stress you. If he wants to be there he will come around :) Everything will be okay. Tough times don't last, Tough people do. Your a mother and you will be a strong positive one!
  • kish
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  • Skagenjj
    Just keep breathing...you WILL be fine.
  • Adevil99
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  • Sandy
    Practice forgiveness. Once you forgive you can move on. Believe me. It works. It did for me. Best of luck and love to you.
  • Cmrandolph13
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  • wrace
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  • Naylea1212
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  • Brokenharted
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  • Guest
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  • Ellene_1924
    how will i know if i truly love him?
  • lil miss silly
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  • Hope
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  • wgrace
    How's everybody doing with the broken hearts?

    It's been 4 months after my breakup with the liar ex. Getting over somebody is realy not easy. Over the past 4 months, i've been going through the kind pain i didnt even know exist. Sometimes i'm mad and angry, other times i'm just sad and hurt. I know it's not worth it, he's not worth it. I know i should have moved on a long time ago. I rebounded and revenged, but too this day i'm still in pain.

    Memory is the hardest part. I have been tripping down the memory lane countlessly. I just keep having those fash backs of our past times. Even though it was all illusion but i was in love and happy. I just dont understand how it could all end to this. Rationally i understand it well the simple fact that he just played me and it just wasnt meant to be from the start. But emotionally it was ME who was there, gave her all and had her heart broken so i dont know how i'm suppose to just put this behind me and move on.

    I guess the reason i wouldnt let go sooner is because he was my first love and i was really in love, well, at least that's what i thought at the time. We broke up mostly because i was able to sense that he didnt care and wouldnt never commit. And then two month later, i found out he was actualy married and had a child. That just added a new level of pain.I was coned and played. I couldnt yell or throw things at him because he was back to canada. I wrote emails to confront him and he admitted it all and said he never loved me.Yet for me it should take more than just a cold-facts email to disillusion me. I wrote emails to him to vent, rebunded and even revenged. I'm not proud of doing those things but i just didnt know how could i deal with this pain all by myself. I still dont.

    Sometimes i feel better and move on a little. Other times i fell back and can dwell all back into the pain again. I try not let my mind go there but sometimes i just cant help it and each time it would drag me down again.

    After the revenge, things between us went competely urgly.( after tried, i wouldnt recommend it to anyone, it's not worth it to drag youself down again even to get back at him) He called me a loser and never wanted to speak or see me again(well, like we were actually going to). But when i thought he couldnt possibly hurt me anymore, he did. We both said hurtful and mean words. There was no turning back. After that, i fell a big time into the mess i had been in. That's when i realized that i still cared. That i still dreamed about the day he would realize how wrong he had treated me and that he would crawl back to ask another chance. Stupid me uh?

    Now that i just have to deal with the fact that i was treated wrong but he wouldnt never come back. I dont know why i still care.There are always people who could be cruel enough to break our heart like that. It's not fair that we were left a wreck and picking up the pieces. It's not fair that i have to go through the pain when i dont dserve them. All i wanted was to be loved. It still hurt a lot everytime i think about how much i cared and still care and that person just wouldnt care back. Why do i have to bring this pain on myself? Even when i try to move on, i still feel the pain. I now know it's not meant to be but stil i have a hard time dealing with it. Who doesnt want a happy ending with the one they love? As stupid as it sounds, i really loved him.

    I wondered when would i find closure and thought that would be the time i could finally let go. But maybe you just never" find" closure or not the kind closure you want. But it is what it is. I guess now i just how to tough up and move on anyway.

    How did you guys move on when you thought you really loved someone?
  • Hurtsalot
    wgrace, i am in the same situation you are.... i just found out because i confronted him but i knew a couple of things going into this as well.. like most things in life you never expect that it would get to this point.. i never thought that after 2.5 yrs later i would be here.. NOT AT ALL.. and neither did he.... we talk about it all the time how we are together and what needs to be done.. do we leave or stay? Im in the limbo... but he knows and i know that my heart is leaning to leave only because it hurts too much to stay... but when i think of him being out of my life it hurts even more. We talk every single day, see each other, the whole nine yards... he is not a liar or not genuine, we just met at the wrong time and to be honest i didnt want anything more at the time and now my heart and emotions became involved without me knowing it. And he says the same thing... we are stuck but he has another life as well and i am the other side that he wants to be in but cant. It hurts really bad. I am so confused... he says lets see where this goes and we have invested so much, etc but then i think you cant reassure me either... its a risk and i dunno how much i can take of it. Im hurting really bad, that i have lost weight, cant sleep on anxiety meds, everything... he is my best friend and i am his... it will hurt extrememely the day i cut off all contact which i am trying to do but i dont know if i am ready.... how do i get through this? I start medical school in a couple of weeks and he is pushing me to look forward to that, he has helped me in all ways and is there when i need him, but he is not the one married to me. Who knows what the future may hold, i have no idea if our feelings will be so overwhelming that something ends up happening or they dwindle over time... only time can tell and we dont have a crystal ball and i think thats my thing.. i want to know. I try to do everything i can to break free but it hurts... the only think i can say is that i am there with you and i know how it feels. I can only say is to say to yourself THIS TOO SHALL PASS.... And remember that God places people in your life that you NEED not the ones you WANT at the time.... take that and listen to what your feelings are telling you...seek help by any means, email me if u like, blog here, scream in your house whatever will help you.. but understand you are not alone... i wish there was a pill to take it away but this is our life and we need to take it back. Closure is within you.... in your heart.. when YOU are ready.. leave when ur ready... get him out of your heart when you are ready and strong enough... you will get there... this too shall pass hun... for my sake as well =)
  • lizzy
    taking one day at a time. center on yourself by doing things that make you feel good. be around possitive people that upllft you. if you taught yourself disipline with losong weight, quit smoking. so now use thar disipline for losing the love of your life,[you thought].realizing you cannot make him love you so set him free. later after the breakup settles, their will be a time you will run into him and have no emotion what so ever. you may end up friends, what ever happens do not keep hate or resentment in your heart. it is poison to the soul. go out with friends and just do fun things . each day will get a little bit better. just do not go in that bedroom and weep a pity party . get dresses up and go to a party . time does heal all wounds.
  • SAN
    hi wgrace. i do also have a bad and worst experience with my bestfriend who as well became my lover and even we were married, we still pursued what we wanted. yet somehow i really felt he was just using me and i was just submissive because of the reason I dont want him to let go and i dont want to loose him, not just that he was my bestfriend, i cared a lot for him. it took me 15 years but untill now i hoped one day we will still be friends perhaps. i read a quote and i hope this will also help you to move on... "People who succeed in life are often those who know consciously or unconsciously to make the most of their talents, their advantages and their strenghts, while understanding how to maintain control over their weakness". i hope we can both learn to be tough and show that we are not loosers but instead its such a lost for him that he had let you go. And even if you have problems, even you have done things you regret, or have made mistakes, your whole future still lies ahead of you. if you can just keep moving forward telling yourself "I'LL START FROM TODAY, I'LL START AFRESH FROM NOW ON, FROM THIS MOMENT". Then a whole new world of possibilities will open up before you... SAN
  • vivi84
    How long will it take for me to find closure
  • Wgrace1030
    Dont know your case. But i havent find closure even after 4 months.
    The fact is clear, he didnt care and played me like a fool. You think it's shame on him and i should have moved on long ago but i couldnt. I found out he was acutally married and had a wife back in canada. All i got was an email telling me the hard facts he should have told me from the start. You wonder how i find closure..i dont know. Sometimes you just never find the kind closure you want to. Guess you'll just have to live with it and hope time will heal.
  • youbishhh
    Well Hi Idk You But I Know Wat Your Going Thru & I'd Say A Couple Of Weeks But In thos Weeks You'll Find Someone Worthh It(:
  • Vince
    I just got out of a 3yr realationship..I loved her and she loved me back..We always argued and we always fought..But we had some very good times..But i guess the memories is what hurts the most..No matter how much i try to forget..It hurts even more..When will this go away??
  • Christina W.
    Same exact situation im in. It all depends on how fast you heal. It will take a while because u really loved her but u just have to realize it just wasn't meant to be or u guys would be together happy. I mean who know's, it might just be the wrong time. But u can't think as if she'll come back. The easiest way to get over someone is to make yourself better. Live for u. Imagine life without her, and do things that will strengthen ur own life so u can jump back in the market with confidence. Eventually you will find the one who takes your mind off of her. It will be extremely hard but u gotta believe that u can move on. Give yourself time to be sad, but also give yourself time grow and move on. Goodluck buddy.
  • survior
    A few month i guess. Just live your life and you will creat new momories with someone new to replace the old ones. Go out and meet people, it helps me.
  • Dereyes47
    Im going through the same thing here man. Just ended a five year relationship with my girlfriend. I never thought it'll hurt this bad
  • Ssudheerkumar89
    my love is gone
  • suvivor
    Thanks, Angela and whoever read my post regarding the lair exboyfriend.
    It's nice to know someone's been there and you are not complete alone.

    Just want to tell everyone that i feel much better now. Still it's hurts sometimes,because it happend and it's there.It is what it is. You cant change that but you can learn from it. Let it make you stronger and wiser. Wallow in some self pity but dont dwell on it cause it prevent you froming going forward and life is about gong forward.Pain is inevitable, but suffering is opptional. It is a learning experience and all the experience we had leaded us to where we are and who we are now. Dont lose your heart and believe that someday, someone's gonna see it and fall in love with it.

    These are the thoughts i developed to stay positive and going forward in life. Hope it can help the ones that need it.

    Just move forward, keep living, loving and learning.
  • Angela
    After nearly 9 years I broke up with my ex about a year ago. He was going through a separation at the time with his ex wife and moved with her and didn't tell me. He moved out of state and I found out that he went back to her without telling me, cut off all communication and never told me. Just like that.
    Pain is tough, everyday is a new day. The lies are the worst part. Don't know how you can let those go and not being able to close the hurt and tell him how I feel about what he did. Just have to move on I suppose.
  • One love
    i can relate to many of these stories. I have been deeply in love and also felt the brain twisting, gut wrenching , pain at the realization a relationship is ending. I once heard love is pain. So without the pain how would we know we really loved? If everything is only ever a bliss.
    My love story is one that is full of love,laughter, sacrifice, determination, turning a blind eye to lies, cheating, and hanging on to a thread of hope for change. The more I realized there was deception the more I loved, tried and kept hoping for change.
    Looking back I realize that it was me that loved madly and deeply, because he could be everything I needed. He was everything I dreamed of and I wanted my ex bf to be. He was the first man I didn't question being faithful to, the first man that I wanted to have children with, and marry.
    It did not bother me that he was unable to support me financially,because I believed that in time with me helping him along he would find the love in his heart to do this. And it did not bother me that for a living he was a part time model. The pictures I seen always included near nudity either on his part or the female model. But that was his work before I met him so I went along with it. However it did bother me that we were in a long distance relationship. And our time apart was based on when I could afford to take the time off and money to travel. So some times it was three weeks apart and sometimes it was 4 months. In our times apart there was always some major thing he forgot to tell me, that hurt like hell. Or some woman on his facebook, saying something that hurt me. I am not a stupid woman, I wrote the players handbook in my day. How is it I turned a blind eye to all the signs? How is it that I continued this relationship, I would always say sorry for being a psycho and really try to win him back.
    There are 11 years between him and I. I knew he was younger than me in the beginning, but thought no more than 4 years. I have always had a problem with the numbers, but never noticed an age difference when spending time together.
    I have been living with him for two months, we were to be married a month ago. However, he left his facebook logged on and wow! the truth does set you free.(facebook now deactivated...hmmmm) All those signs I seen and denied, all that womens tuition i ignored, all the accommodating to his needs, and dieting, botox, and lip injections did nothing.
    If I was to walk away I feel like I would fall over and die. So, I stay as close to him as possible, but it gets exhausting to be a CSI detective, when all I want is love and peace of mind.
    HELP!
  • Anna
    I broke up with my ex after 3 years because he started to lack putting any effort into the relationship and didn't treat me the way i deserved to. I loved him very much and thought breaking up with him would scare him into changing to get me back. I spent a whole year of my life still talking and seeing (and even sleeping with him) We were getting along even better then ever, and he showed signs that he had changed and was ready move forward with our relationship. In my head this breakup would of lead to us getting back together, and having a great relationship. I was positive of this, but sadly so wrong.

    I spent an addional year loving him, and getting more attached, when I should of been healing and moving on with my life. I was just so scared to face the reality that it was over. I should of stuck with my gut instict rather then rationalizing my actions and telling my self what I was doing was okay.

    Please do not do this to yourself and waste anymore of your life. I should of been dealing and healing from this break up a year ago, and not now. I have learned a very hard lesson and am so sad. Please take care and I hope you have the courage and are brave enough to do what you know is best for you. Deal with the loss and pain now, and not later. You will be thankful.
  • Denise
    This is such a similar story to mine.! Makes me feel slightly better that someone understands the situation. I was with my Boyfriend for three years and we split due to sudden lack of effort on his behalf. i was hoping for a change and as i was still madly in love with him i agrreed to continue meeting, talking and even sleeping with him. This lasted for another two years. I realise now that i made things so much easier for him as he was still able to see me etc. without any formal commitment. Eventualy as we went in a relationship he suddenly found someone else. its been over a year since hes been with this new girl and hes so happy. Ive never hurt so much :(
  • Butterfly79
    Hi Anna I did exactly the same thing and it ended up with him moving back in with me even though I thought and said it was not the right time. Im so angry with myself as it didn't even last a year he has just moved out again and now my son is more aware its even more hurtful cause he is actually asking for his dad. This time if he changes his mind he wont be comming back, but man it hurts like hell!!!
  • Cosmogalnc
    Dear butterfly just reading this made me cry ,my relationship is bad and I know it is time to say goodbye but my son adores his dad and that is what hurts most how do i say goodbye?
  • Xokristenn18
    not everyone in the world is bad, dont be so hard on yourself. you went with your heart and thats the best thing you could have done..if you didnt do it, you probably would have thought forever "what would have happened if i gave us another chance" sometimes following your heart serves you wrong but sometimes you just have to follow it to know for sure. i feel where your coming from, trust me, ive been there..good luck and remember, sometimes the best cure for a broken heart is time. just dont be so hard on yourself, things happen, people change, people grow apart, doesnt make either one of you a bad person:]
  • Broken hearted fool
    Hey,

    I just wanted to let you know that quote number 8 is from a song called "Smile" by Lonestar. It's a great song. :) Just thought you should know... since its listed as "unknown"
  • Soul Bella
    First of all, I can't not belive Im on this site and about to spill out my emotional distress.
    Here it goes, I met a married man, and at the time I was in let say relationshit.......we gradually became friends. We started sharing thoughts about relationships and such. He was 15 years older than me.....so I gave him my ears to hope to learn some things from his past. We gradually started talking about his relationship and how unhappy he was.......before we know it, we had gone head over hills. I never thought I would be emotionally attached to a man who is way older than me and married. Knowing the fact that he explained, things weren't khoser at his house, such as he is not intimate with his wife, he couldn't leave because of his kids.......blah blah blah blah.......he fed me this bullshit for about 8month......and boy, I fed into it. I felt bad for what his life have become. I felt the need to nerture him.......I got too deep into the relationship we had. I wish something somehow......advised me......no matter what he told me, to go with my gut feeling of not pursing the toxic relationship with him. I attempted to break it off with him about three times or more, but somehow.......he found his way back to my life until now. His wife found out about the affire, and all of a sudden the guy, who said he will give up anything to be with me.....punked out. He called me and said, he is going to work it out with her because of the sake of his kids. Now, I realized all the bull he was feeding to me. I felt my heart sank in. I couldn't imagin what the psyco wife of his was going thru. Altho, she called me a million times, and send text to my phone. I somehow felt for her. If he lied to me this long, he must have lied to her. And I knew I didn't want this man in mylife, once a cheater always a cheater. Bottom line lesson is that, Love can be blind, but always go with your gut. Do the right thing. Married man, never again.
  • GettingBetter
    Most of these are good. But the last one is not really universally true. I loved my ex for being a person with flaws and problems, and still do (it was less than a week ago, though I'm ready to let them live and move on. If you have this problem, yeah, you need to get them off the pedestal ASAP... but if you don't, you might still love them anyway.
  • Fresh Air Needed
    She came into my life and went out of my life, like a fart in the wind
  • suvivor
    I just found out the ex i broke up with 2 months ago is married and has a child back in canada..Just when i was starting to move on…Feel so shock and sick right now!

    There was not a single clue or hint that he’s married( no ring on any finger). Never in a million years would i thought that was a married man…I was in love with him and even after broke up, i still had feelings for him( wanted him back), and now i just dont know how to think back on what we had knowing now everything about him was a lie and everything we had was based on that lie.It’ll take so long to heal from this…

    Is there any quotes regarding a lying ex-boyfriend, any word of wisdom to help me through? I’m so hurt right now.
  • Angela
    Dear Suvivor...
    I was also lied to and was with a married man going through a separation. Didn't realize that after 9 years, he was on the mends with her and left and moved out of state with her, which was his plan all along.
    Hang in there, you'll find someone better. I understand the pain this is causing you, I really do. If I knew how to get over it, I would tell you. You don't want to be with someone that lies like that. It's not worth it, we are only on this planet once and we have to be happy, and not in pain. If he's cheated on his wife with you, imagine what she must feel, not even knowing, and would you even want him back after what he's done to his wife? I have to keep asking myself that also. Karma comes back around!
  • unknown
    honestly, this has happened to me in some way. i have a child and he still pursues me, he is divorced because he was not happy and they both did wrong things to each other, but the fact is, i love him for almost 3 years and its gone. completely gone after all the wrong things, (right after the other). I met another and it was wonderful, but not perfect, because of my past experiences in life i left my new fiance and ended up back with my ex, stuck in a relationship i don't want, but he wont let me free, he is too emotionally attached and not good for our little girl. I wish i was free, it's easy for others to say make your choice leave him, he cant' control your life. I believe thought that others do influence you and I am stuck, I can't love a man again, I know this. I'm so blocked but I do love my baby and am working towards my career. I hope one day I can find what I need to do that will help me and my daughter. She is all that matters, I have make my choices and they didn't turn out being great, but I have also learned so much from them that I am grateful to them.
    I can't say it doesn't hurt sometimes, but when I am not around him I am good. Im content with myself.
    I love and miss my past three loves that I have, but to not love what has happened in your life so far, is wrong to me. You need to so you can love yourself in what you have become and are trying to become, be happy with what you long for and are trying to be.

    i know i just rambled but I hope you found something helpful.
  • abc
    I met the most amazing guy I've ever known/met over 2 years ago (online). We ended getting very, very close (could talk about everything etc). We decided to meet 2 years later, but only as friends. It turned out we were in love with each other for months already (thinking the other wasn't interested at all), and things happened. We decided to try the long distance relationship thing. After almost 5 months, we were really in love and best friends, and had met twice for a long time and we had the best time of our lives. But we knew we would have to be apart for about 4 years (due to school), which would be too hard, so we agreed to break up because of the distance. It's sounds so stupid, and it hurts me so much knowing it's the only reason we broke up. If there was another reason it would feel so much better and right. We didn't even say goodbye in person...

    He is perfect to me, and he says I am to him as well. I love him so much! And he loves me too, and says he'll miss me and all that as well. We are so good tother, so alike. I don't want to be with anyone else than him. Honestly, I can see myself marrying him and having a family. But...I know I'll move on someday, but knowing I have to look for someone who is like him again is scary... Most guys are a**holes. I found the dream guy and now he's gone... What if I never find someone like him again? I'll be so unhappy.

    We used to talk for hours everyday. Now we talk about once or twice a week, and it's really fake. Anyone think we'll always be internet buddies? I don't think so...that's why I was thinking we should stop talking all together. Anyone agree? But then again, we have such a deep relationship and why throw away something so special? He really is my best friend and he supports and helps me with everything. I only have one best friend as well... Now that we talk, I don't want to hear about him dating another girl...or anything like it. I just wish it was me.

    It also hurts me that he says he'll always have a weak spot for me. That just means we can never meet in person again... And same here anyway. I'll always love him, he'll always be perfect to me until the day he proves me wrong.

    "If you really love something set it free. If it comes back it's yours, if not it wasn't meant to be." ~ I really hope that's true... Maybe in the future we'll be together for real again... I kind of hope so... Before that I'll have a lot of lonely days.

    I don't know what to do or think. I feel so lost, lonely, depressed...desperate. I need advice on...everything I guess... At the moment I hate life. I just want to sleep all day. Life is unfair.
    PS: Sorry for rambling, I just had a lot on my mind.
  • long distance love
    will i just have to say wow.....i cant belive that you broke up with out saying good bye or anything and just left like that even when you say that you guys were such in love....i have a similer story i know a guy that i really like and adore pretty much you can say we love each other i mean 2 more years and were both done with high school you know he told me that he loves me a million times and that he will do anything 4 me and i truly belive it caz he got in a fight 4 me......we have known each other for 9 years can you belive it 9 years there is a problem tho we live far away from each other...I live in the USA and he lives in the MIDDLE EAST but i am planning on going all the way there thats a 15 or 16 hour flight but im planning on going there to see him persist im planning on going after my high school because i know the second i get there he will be there to meet me and take me home i really miss him and he does 2 the past 9 years have been kinda hard with out him but im glad that im going to c him soon.....my regret to you was that you should of not broke up with each other and just waited
  • unknown
    if you both want to be together all love, loyalty, honesty, marriage, family, now or in the future. than stay together. nothing is too hard when it is your soul mate, the love of you life. you can do it for your happiness and his. if you don't feel that, its not right, move on completely, don't sulk and don't regret, just remember those great memories and what you go to learn and experience.
  • xyz ;)
    to abc,
    woah!!this is like readin my life story from a girls point of view!!kinda same thing happened to me!!we met online!!her friend was goin out wid my friend!!so we got to know each other n got really close!!but i had to move half way round the globe n the distance was the only reason we broke up!!!but she had asked me one favour long b4 we had broken up!!she had wanted to stay intouch even jus as frens even after the break-up..i was pretty reluctant but i agreed..so at the moment,we're still great internet buddies!!!:D i know she still has feelings for me n so do i for her..i really hope that one day( long for now) everything between us starts again!!but u no!!im not in a good position of offer advice but il jus let u know, that if he really does love u, he will go to great lengths to be with u!!but just do not keep too mch hope..coz if he cant do that, ul end up hurting urself!!stay frens with him..stay cool!!!
    frm,
    xyz
  • Deepak
    Ya it happens in love. Even I had a breakup after a long relationship of 14yrs When i have come to know that she is goin to marry smwhere else. She was my First love and Since then i have never made any relation with any other girl. I cant forgot her. Though She ditch me but what she is my love.
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