No-Contact Help: How To Fight The Urge To Contact Your Ex

The concept of no-contact after a relationship break up is very similar to alcohol or drug rehab:

Avoid the very thing that you are addicted to.

In our case this means – get your butt as far away from your Ex as you can.

I’m sure you are having a pretty rough time with this.

I certainly did.

There are times when you miss your Ex so much that it hurts.

Picking up the phone and calling them would be so easy, wouldn’t it?

But would it also ease your pain?

No, it won’t.

Trust me, it won’t.

On the contrary.

Let me tell you something:

There is NOTHING that your Ex can say to you that would lower your pain.

They can only make it worse.

You don’t want to know how they are doing, (it is more than you can handle), and nothing that you are doing is going to impress or endear them to you.


What does No-Contact mean?

No-Contact means absolutely NO CONTACT with your Ex, either personally, by phone, email or short message.

It means NO Facebook-Stalking, NO Phone-Harassing and NO parking/driving by in front of their house.

(More on this in my free newsletter).

Big NO, NO, NO to any of that.

But what should you do when it’s getting tough, when missing your Ex is so unbearable that you are about to call them?

Three proven methods work in such a situation:

1. Distraction

The human brain can only concentrate on one thing at a time.

So, if you are about to contact your Ex, have a list of prepared distractions ready which you can put into action immediately.

Best are things where your brain is involved, where it has to figure out something, like research on a certain topic, quizzes, puzzles, etc.

The more work your brain has to do, the better the distraction.

2. Call A Friend

When you are close to calling your Ex, call a close friend or relative instead.

They will talk you out of doing so.

3. Post HERE!

Let ME be your No-Contact Buddy.

Post in the comment section below:

  • Your No-Contact Count (in days)
  • Everything you want to say to your Ex, just yell it out! (No profanities please)

DO NOT CONTACT that Ex – put it all here! Unload all your anger and longing.

By sharing your No-Contact struggle with the LovesAGame Community, two things will happen:

  1. You will find that the need for contacting your Ex will be much less
  2. The replies of other readers will give you hope and strength

Having said that, now it’s your turn. Post below and let’s help each other.

Your No-Contact Buddy,
Eddie Corbano

EDIT 02-05-2011: I had to close this comment thread, over 2830!!! comments caused the page to load extremely slow, please continue posting here: No-Contact Help: How To Fight The Urge To Contact Your Ex – Part 2

  • Katherine says:

    I’m getting ready to start. We broke up a week ago but have text messaged every single day and it’s superficial and hurts so much. Everyday I tell myself to stop texting him, that I look pathetic, but I give in and end up texting. I just want so badly to get over him and move on. I want the strength to move on and stop talking to him. I’m setting a goal of 24 hours of no contact and want to build from there

  • Day 4 and going crazy, there is just sooo much in my mind I want to tell him. I already cannot wait for when its all behind me…its like in one of the articles, I know the top is somewhere there but I cannot see it yet 🙁

    • Katherine says:

      Mona I’m s impressed that you made it to day 4. I just want to get to day one. I keep succumbing and texting him and then hate myself. I’m going to make myself do it…I have to. Congrats on getting to day four

  • It’s only been two days. My chest aches and I have these moments where I would be okay and other where I would cry. My heart is in shambles. I tried everything I could and gave my all. I know I have to stay strong but how do I do that when my heart is so weak

    • Katherine says:

      Kennedy, I completely understand where you are at. I feel the same. I want so desperately to be strong but I keep having weak moments and giving in and texting. I want to go today and not text….I want to have one day behind me and move on to the next day


    Omg 16 days no contact and now I’m going crazy..the urges are so bad but i know i can’t but Fuck me its hard

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