Break Up and Divorce No Contact Help: How To Stay Strong And Not Text Your Ex

No Contact Help: How To Stay Strong And Not Text Your Ex

Maintaining No Contact with your Ex-Partner is probably the hardest thing you’ll ever do.

To make it easier, you try three things that will help you resist the temptation, stay strong, and just get through it.

No Contact Help - Let's survive the 60 days together
No Contact Help – Let's survive the 60 days together

Believe me, I know how horrible this is.

You wake up in the morning, and the pain rolls over you like a tsunami. All you want to do is text your Ex and make this all go away.

But you know that you can’t. It would only make things so much worse.

As a result, you are confused, frightened, and just don’t understand WHY all this is happening.

I know, I’ve been there.

But you are not helpless.

You can make it through and I will show you how.

Why You Are Struggling With No Contact

You have to accept that you are suffering from a form of addiction.

Still thinking of your Ex? Click here to learn WHY and what you can do about it.

Therefore, the concept of No Contact after a relationship breakup is very similar to alcohol or drug rehab:

Avoid the very thing that you are addicted to.

In other words, get your butt as far away from your Ex as you can.

You need time to heal and detox from your Ex.

I’m sure you are having a rough time with this. I certainly did. It's hard.

That's why before we continue, please make sure that you read my extensive guide about how to practically apply the rules to your situation:

No Contact Rule After a Breakup: The Definitive Guide

It’ll help.

“No Contact Is Killing Me.”

There are times when you miss your Ex so much that it hurts. Picking up the phone and texting or calling them would be so easy, wouldn’t it?

But would it also ease your pain or help your recovery?

No, it won’t.

Trust me, it won't.

On the contrary, actually.

Let me tell you something:

There is NOTHING your Ex can say to you in a phone call or text (or personally) that would reduce your pain in the long run.

They can only make it worse.

You DON’T want to know how they are doing (it is more than you can handle).

Also, NOTHING that you do or say will impress or endear them to you.

This is a fact that is very difficult to accept.

How the No Contact Rule Works

Just to reiterate:

No Contact means entirely NO CONTACT with your Ex, either personally, by phone, through social media, email, or short message.

It means NO Facebook stalking, NO phone harassing and NO parking/driving in front of their house.

Big NO, NO, NO to any of that.

You do this for a full 60 days.

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But what do you do when it’s really getting tough, when missing your Ex becomes so unbearable that you pick up the phone and are about to call?

No Contact Help: How to Get Through

Three proven methods will help you stay strong during that time:

1. Distraction

The human brain can only concentrate on one thing at a time. So, if you are about to contact your Ex, have a list of prepared distractions ready that you can put into action immediately.

The best options are things where your brain is involved, where it has to figure out something. For example, do research on a specific topic, take quizzes, try puzzles, etc.

The more work your brain has to do, the better the distraction.

2. Call a Friend

When you are close to calling your Ex, call a close friend or a relative instead — a so-called No-Contact Buddy.

They will talk you out of it, as well as some sense into you.

3. Post HERE!

Let ME be your No-Contact Buddy.

Post in the comment section below:

  • Your No Contact Count (in days).
  • Everything you want to say to your Ex — just get it out of your system! (No profanities please.)

How to Stay Strong During the No Contact Period

DO NOT CONTACT that Ex, put it all here! Unload all your anger and longing into our comment section.

By sharing your No Contact struggle with the LovesAGame Community, two things will happen:

  1. You will find that the need for contacting your Ex will be much less.
  2. The replies of other readers will give you hope and strength.

Having said that, now it’s your turn. Post below and let’s help each other.

Your No-Contact Buddy,
Eddie Corbano

  • I decided to start The No Contact Rule because, he was ghosting me. We have been in a weird situation for over 10 years. During those years I got married but I always reach out to him and many times have seen him when things were bad in my marriage. And every time he promises to commit to me and then he disappears. I am divorced now and last month he ask me to move in with me and to give him the my house’s keys. I did and then again he ghosted again for several days. I went crazy and finally had the courage to tell him I am done and I am gonna start dating. It s been a week but I feel so bad and I want to contact him. It is hard and I know I have to stop thinking about him but it is so hard. I distract myself and I started seeing a psychologist but it is hard .. help pls

  • I texted him asking why he is in my account he told me he couldn’t move on and when I’m changing my password. He told me sorry I won’t go in ur acc anymore. I told him just talk to me he told me it’s gonna make thinks hard. He replied to all my messages right away. so what does this all mean we stopped talking now but did I mess up do I still have a chance? He is really a person that he stubborn and he will talk to you if you talk to him first I’m his first gf. I know this bc he liked a girl so much and they called each other (this was before me) crying that they like each other but he didn’t take any steps so she went with someone else he is too scared to make first steps and I know he was really in too her. So what do I do? Do I still have a chance

    I was in no contact for 2 weeks till today We had a relationship of 2,5 years. I really want to talk to you and pay you and I’ll take anything from u but I rlly don’t have the money right now so if u read this Thankyou anyway. I appreciate it

    Before what happened:

    Every day he was in my Snapchat looking what I was doing

  • I want to tell him that I don’t want to lose what we had, I have so many confused feelings

  • Husband of almost 10 months has lied, deceived me, not wore wedding ring since July and has not told 2 out of his 4 adult kids about this marriage. He has totally disrespected the sanctity of our marriage for the last time over this past weekend. It’s been 2 days and I am just totally done. Help???

  • Charlotte says:

    I’m trying no contact and only 3 days in. The thing is we split up years ago and remained on good terms however I found something out and confronted him, he denied it and now I’m here.

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