The concept of no-contact after a relationship break up is very similar to the main concept of alcohol or drug rehab, which is to avoid the very thing that you are addicted to.
In our case this means – get your butt as far away from your Ex as you can.
I’m sure you are having a pretty rough time with this. I certainly did.
There are times when you miss your Ex so much that it literally hurts. Picking up the phone and calling them would be so easy, wouldn’t it?
But would it also ease your pain?
No, it won’t.
Trust me, it won’t. On the contrary.
I can tell you something. There is NOTHING that your Ex can say to you that would abate your pain. They can only make it worse.
You really don’t want to know how they are doing, (it is really more than you can handle), and nothing that you are doing is going to impress or endear them to you.
What does No-Contact mean?
No-Contact means absolutely NO CONTACT with your Ex, either personally, by phone, email or short message. It means NO Facebook/MySpace-Stalking, NO Phone-Harassing and NO parking/driving by in front of their house, (more on this in my free newsletter).
Big NO, NO, NO to any of that.
But what should you do when it’s getting really tough, when missing your Ex is so unbearable that you are about to call them?
There are 3 proven methods that work in such a situation:
The human brain can only concentrate on one thing at a time. So, if you are about to contact your Ex, have a list of prepared distractions ready which you can put in action immediately. Best are things where your brain is involved, where it has to figure out something, like research on a certain topic, quizzes, puzzles, etc.
The more work your brain has to do, the better the distraction.
2. Call A Friend
When you are close to calling your Ex, call a close friend or relative instead. They will talk you out of doing so.
3. Post HERE!
Let ME be your No-Contact Buddy.
Post in the comment section below:
- Your No-Contact Count (in days)
- Everything you want to say to your Ex, just yell it out! (No profanities please)
DO NOT CONTACT that Ex – put it all here! Unload all your anger and longing.
By sharing your No-Contact struggle with the LovesAGame Community, two things will happen:
- You will find that the need for contacting your Ex will be much less
- The replies of other readers will give you hope and strength
Having said that, now it’s your turn. Post below and let’s help each other.
Your No-Contact Buddy,
EDIT 02-05-2011: I had to close this comment thread, over 2830!!! comments caused the page to load extremely slow, please continue posting here: No-Contact Help: How To Fight The Urge To Contact Your Ex – Part 2