Break Up and Divorce 10 Positive Break Up Quotes And What We Can Learn From Them

10 Positive Break Up Quotes And What We Can Learn From Them

Positive Breakup Quotes

EDIT: I've added images of the quotes and also an excellent 11th bonus quote for you.

Just to be clear: this is NOT going to be one of those articles where they list sad break up quotes that make you cry and wallow in self-pity.

No. I wouldn’t be much of a breakup expert if I did that.

This is all about positive break up quotes that will inspire you and make you realize that there’s more to this experience than just excruciating pain.

Quotes that will actually help you, provoke positive thinking and further your recovery.

There’s a reason why they put quotes at the beginning of each chapter in almost every self-help book out there (mine included).

They summarize universal truths so beautifully in one sentence that we intuitively understand.

They help us to realize that we are not alone out there. People have suffered from broken hearts all through the history of humanity.

Loss is an essential part of us.

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One of the main implications of breakups is that we feel overwhelming loneliness. Knowing that other people have had this problem too, and survived, gives us comfort and strength to endure what’s coming.

Also, it's always helpful to see another angle.

Artists especially seem to have a different view of the world and life – their gift is to surface the unaware. They help us to understand what we may already know intellectually but resist to believe in our hearts.

That’s why I’ve collected the 10 most inspiring break up quotes for you. Quotes which not only sound good but can actually make you feel better and more confident about the future.

Going through a break up right now? These are for you:

The 10 most positive and inspiring breakup quotes:

Let's start with a very popular one, controversial, especially after a recent split.

Positive Quote #1:

It is better to have loved and lost

“‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”

—Alfred Lord Tennyson

Everyone who has suffered from a broken heart at any time has heard this quote. Unfortunately, it does not give comfort at the beginning, only years later will you realize its profoundness and value.

When you understand its true meaning, then you'll know that you've overcome your break up or divorce.

It is one of my favorite break up quotes.

Positive Quote #2:

If you really love something set it free

“If you really love something set it free. If it comes back it's yours, if not it wasn't meant to be.”


I heard this the first time in the movie Indecent Proposal. It illustrates the necessity of detachment, of “letting go” after a breakup.

If you can let go, you will receive.

Positive Quote #3:

You have to forgive to forget

“You have to forgive to forget, and forget, to feel again.”


There is no moving on without forgiveness, and more importantly: there is no new beginning while carrying “old emotional baggage.”

Positive Quote #4:

Those who do not know how to weep...

“Those who do not know how to weep with their whole heart do not know how to laugh either.”

—Golda Meir

Try to look beyond the pain and acknowledge to yourself that you have loved and you’ve been loved back. That’s one of the greatest gifts you can ever receive.

There is no light without darkness, there is no love without the feeling of loss. One of the toughest lessons of life we’ll ever learn.

All you can do is learn, move on, and when you're ready, start anew.

Positive Quote #5:

Relationships are like glass

“Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.”


Sometimes relationships can't be fixed. Sometimes it's better to move on. Sad, but very often true.

Positive Quote #6:

Letting go makes one strong

“Some people think that it's holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it's letting go.”


Only when you can completely detach yourself, you can you be free.

After a breakup, and elsewhere in life. Be a leaf floating in a river, not knowing where it might take you. This is true freedom.

Positive Quote #7:

Don't change yourself so other people will like you

”Don't change yourself, so other people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will like you.”


Most breakups come with an identity loss. That's why it is our duty to use this opportunity to re-connect with ourselves again. To be the person, we truly are.

If you change yourself for the slim chance that your Ex will love you again, if you try to become who they want you to be, you will lose yourself.

Until you forget who you really are.

Be the person you are destined to be, and you will attract the right partner without even trying.

Positive Quote #8:

I'm going to smile and make you think I'm happy

“I'm going to smile and make you think I'm happy, I'm going to laugh, so you don't see me cry, I'm going to let you go in style, and even if it kills me – I'm going to smile.”

—Lone Star

This is actually some great break up advice in two ways: first, you are not needy in front of your Ex. You demonstrate strength and your Ex may wonder if s/he has made the right decision.

Also, constant smiling is a great way “to trick” your mind, despite the fact that you feel terrible. By smiling, the body sends signals to the mind that you are happy, even if you are not. Eventually, the mind WILL accept the state of the body.

This is simple neuro-linguistic programming.

Positive Quote #9:

Pain is inevitable suffering is optional

“Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”

—M. Kathleen Casey

This is a great one.

It means that you have the choice to accept the pain and not allow it to turn into suffering.

One of the main reasons that mental pain turns into suffering is the continual mental reasoning. We can break that vicious cycle by learning to control our thoughts.

Positive Quote #10:

I don't miss him

“I don't miss him, I miss who I thought he was.”


It is a great accomplishment to realize that we loved a concept, a picture we had in our minds, rather than the person himself. When we break up, it's this idea we miss, and what causes the pain is the failure of the same.

The minute we realize this, we can kick our Exes from the pedestal.

Bonus Positive Quote #11:

The next chapter of your life

”You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.”


You cannot try to stay in the now and constantly relive your past at the same time. You will prevent yourself from attracting new partners.

Or even worse: you are sabotaging your current relationship.


These are some of the best inspirational break up quotes you can find, and I hope you've enjoyed them.

They teach us about detachment, the necessity to forgive and let go. How to live life to the fullest with all its dark sides, acceptance, neuro-linguistic programming and mental control.

All virtues for overcoming a breakup.

For that arduous task, I wish you all the best.

Do you know quotes that might fit into this category? Please list them in the comments below. (Remember: they must be positive, inspiring and help with your recovery.)

Your friend,
Eddie Corbano

  • Rajob Ali says:

    My gf has been married recently …I have let her go …but after her marriage I am suffering a lot…..

  • Alok Kaintura says:

    “Pain is also a Feeling”

  • Awesome site for letting go.

  • Broken Heart says:

    My bf of 8 years just walked out and never came back. He was married with 4 kids and left his wife because she had taken him to court over some domestic issues. He was told to leave their home and stay away from his wife and children, when I met him he was at his lowest and we sort of clicked because I was also dumped by my husband. We stayed on and have 2 children – 7 and 3 years old. He just left without a word, no phone call or message and am left with so much heartache. what could have happened, everything was going so well, its been 4 days and am missing him so much, I cry everyday when my kids ask for their dad. What more could I say but filled with tears I have learnt to hide them from my children. I tried calling his number, it rings but he is not asnwering. I am left to go on this journey alone, I loved him so much, and I am so shattered, he may have gone back to his wife, but could he have done the right thing and talked it over with me? Please help, I need some advise and encouragement, I know I can do it myself, but for him to have some respect for my life too. 8 years has been a long time, we have been so used to have a man in our house, now I am so helpless.

    • Spiritual Guy says:

      Dont worry, you are not weak
      Prople are messed up because of the mixture of work and family amd other responsibilities.
      Just remember ,your children have their super mom.
      Dont confuse yourself and under estimate your worth.

  • crazy lee says:

    I have been with my boyfriend ova three years,he showed me how good is love and to be loved;so lately we have been fighting n arguing a lot ,our communication has been limited I have to start every day to ask how he is doing n his day;some times when he is free from work I ask him how abt we go outdoors and have fun at the park;movies, walk ;but he will tell me how broke he is ;month ends he used to gv m some spending to spoil myself ;so when I lost my job he gave me cold shoulders and don’t gv m anything at all ;he always complain and don’t appreciate in everything I do for him and I tried speaking to him about how I feel ;but still I feel worse ;and he aims that he loves me and don’t want loose me ;but when I told him it’s over it jst said ok and cutter our lovely photo frame picture; it’s been a week but I miss him already;but I can call nor text him cz I want show him how much he need a n so he learns how to accept m n appreciate my presents in him life.;

  • Broken Girl says:

    I have dated my ex for the last six years. For the first two years, we had a good relationship and things were really okay between us. Then two years ago, out of the blue, he said he wanted us to be friends. i was very devastated. I sought Ed for help. I tried the no contact rule for like a week. He found ways to sabotage my recovery period back then and even asked me back. I still loved him so I agreed. Last year, I fell pregnant with his child. Although he was not overly excited with the thought of a baby, he accepted the pregnancy and said he would support the child once it was born. During the period I was pregnant, i could get mixed feelings and reactions from him. At one point, he would say he wanted us to move in together and the raise the child and would text me the following day saying he was not ready to take that big step. He could one day agree to visit my parents and the next day decide not to. I finally gave birth early this year but unfortunately, for reasons I would not like to go into details, I lost my child. I was also hospitalized for more than two weeks following the ordeal. Although he supported me financially, he was never physically there for me. he visited me in the hospital once for about 20 minutes and then left.
    After i was discharged, he never came to visit me at home. he always wrote text saying he would come on the weekend and never showed. When I asked him, why he couldn’t have told me he could not come, he would say he forgot about it. A month later after the death of my child- our child, he said he wanted time to think if we still had a future. At that time I was still in pain after the loss of my first born, i can say for a fact that that has been the most heart drenching moments of my life. I am still not over the loss but I am a Christian and so I pray for courage to face each day.
    back to my ex, he then said that he wanted me and was ready for us and wanted us to talk. When we finally met, the story was different, he is not ready to commit. Those were his exact words.
    some part of me did not want the relationship to end because after the loss of my child, i could not think I could suffer another loss 3 months later. Especially losing the person I have loved for the last six years. But I know that after 6 years, a child together and no commitment is not the kind of life I want for myself. I have resolved to work on myself. Today will be my first day of no-contact. I told him earlier today that I would be cutting all communications with him. He said ok, like he never cared. I have a good reason to believe that he is seeing a girl he met last year while I was pregnant and liked- he told me about her when we met but he insist that there’s nothing between them. I dint believe him. I know he has already moved on. Today I have resolved to work on myself. I know in my heart that I cannot stay in such a relationship. I deserve better. I believe if God has seen me through the last four months after I the loss of my child (I am in a better place emotionally than I was then-) I will be able to overcome the urge of wanting my ex back or even the urge to contact him.

  • Hey guys i know how you feel but sonetime we boys lie just to keep you happy just not to bother you. I know we boys dont epress our feeelings much but trust me we love you more than our lives. No guy would be with a girl for 2 or more years he loves thats why he spent that much time with you.

    • The guy I was with was seeing someone else he broke my heart. When it got found out he said he wanted a break. He walked away and left me with the pain of his lies. Why do men have to lie ?

  • I’ve been on and off with one of my ex bf for over 6 years now. I feel when I am not good enough anymore for hI’m any more or he has the desire to go out and find better he leaves me. Then about 3-6 months later he will try and pick it back up like nothing ever happend. As the years go on its getting more difficult because I feel I will never be good enough and need to completely remove him from my life. Yet that will be the most difficult thing because I have created such a vivid future with him in my mind which I truly know would never work but at the same time I am so foolish to letting him back in. Which in my mind I know if it was true love he would stay which just hurts even more.

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