Have you been honest in admitting to your addiction to the past? We must face it head on with knowledge and understanding. We should also be patient and understanding with those who are facing this addiction lovingly reminding them: “Keep driving. Don’t stop. We aren’t there yet”.
The urge to get your ex back is strong. Very strong. Almost throughout the whole recovery. I remember back after my own breakup when I felt that getting her back would put everything in order again. Restore my perfect world, heal my terrible pain instantly.
Years ago, I received a life-changing email. I don’t know who forwarded it to me, but it was one of those that you take a short look at and then delete it immediately. Luckily for me, I took a closer look.
“It’s Christmas time, there’s no need to be afraid”. We all know this line from the song. It sounds good, and of course there is no reason to be afraid of “the most wonderful time of the year” is there? Unless you are alone, suffering from a recent break-up or divorce, facing your first holidays alone.
Months or even years after a relationship break up we often fully realize the fatal mistakes we’ve made right after it. Especially the panic controlled actions made us appear as a different person – often we don’t recognize ourselves any more. It can bring out the worst of us.
“Are you real?” Throughout all of my articles, I have revealed more and more about my past. Hence, why would someone ask the question of whether or not I was a real person? This is when I decided to write some more about my personal story and my life.
I must have heard this often used consolation phrase a thousand times back then. In fact, I heard it so often that it made me sick every time. Why? Because it did not offer me any comfort. It just gave me a small peak into an uncertain future.
It seems to be a complete mystery. Something we cannot understand. And yet it happens every day all around us: People who used to love each other madly suddenly fall out of love, just like that. What are the reasons?
He always had the feeling he was coerced into a relationship he didn’t want, and was putting up resistance whenever he could. He was subconsciously sabotaging the relationship. Maybe someday, some better girl will come along. Until the break-up happened.
He was caught in the “circle of pain”.
Why are some people obviously dealing better with their breakup than others? Why were some getting over it and starting a new life within a month, while others grieve and suffer for several years, and may never even be the same again? What is their secret?
