In part 1 we talked about how to know when we are consumed by anger, what anger really is and why it can be fatal to “stew” in it.
Today, I want to show you some ways for you to express your anger, and how to get rid of it without harming others or yourself.
First of all, I want you to realize that feelings of anger and hate after a break up or divorce are very human. We committed ourselves emotionally to one person, renounced many other things which were important for us just to be with him/her, hoping it would last forever.
Then the beloved person leaves. All our hopes and dreams were shattered. Who wouldn’t be angry or even hateful?
Please don’t condemn yourself for feeling this anger. It’s normal and understandable.
You have the right to be angry!
Allow yourself to feel this anger but forbid yourself to express the anger in harmful violent ways.
Remember: you alone are responsible for your feelings and not your Ex. They’ve decided to leave, but it’s your responsibility to free yourself from all negative emotions.
If you cannot express your negative feelings and try keeping them inside, you will postpone the healing process and even worse: the negative emotions will lead to depression and physical discomforts.
Let’s get rid of them, shall we?