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Years ago, I received a life-changing email. I don’t know who forwarded it to me, but it was one of those that you take a short look at and then delete it immediately.

Luckily for me, I took a closer look.

It was about a man who suddenly died from a heart attack and left a caring wife behind. They had such beautiful plans for their lives, experiences they wanted to make, places they hoped to visit. Now none of this was possible ever again.

The passage from this email that I remember most was, “Take out your sterling cutlery and use it NOW.  Don’t save it for ‘special occasions’, because the best time is NOW”.

This sentence symbolizes one of the most profound truths of life: Life is happening NOW, not tomorrow.  Be happy NOW, not sometime in the future.

Why is understanding this truth so essential for our own happiness?

Because all of our unhappiness, and every negative thought and emotion that we associate with it, exists only in the nonexistent past or future.

Think about it.

What really causes your unhappiness? Click to continue »

The concept of no-contact after a relationship break up is very similar to the main concept of alcohol or drug rehab, which is to avoid the very thing that you are addicted to.

In our case this means – get your butt as far away from your Ex as you can.

I’m sure you are having a pretty rough time with this. I certainly did.

There are times when you miss your Ex so much that it literally hurts. Picking up the phone and calling them would be so easy, wouldn’t it?

But would it also ease your pain?

No, it won’t.

Trust me, it won’t. On the contrary.

I can tell you something. There is NOTHING that your Ex can say to you that would abate your pain. They can only make it worse.

You really don’t want to know how they are doing, (it is really more than you can handle), and nothing that you are doing is going to impress or endear them to you.

Period. Click to continue »

Considering the growing number of daily comments on this site and the need to interact and connect with each other I’ve implemented a new comment system called “Disqus” (you’ve probably noticed that post comments don’t look quite the same as they previously did).

It is now much easier to reply to people, mark the comments you like (by clicking on the “like” button) and a whole bunch of other new things.

You can still post comments in the same manner as before by simply providing your name and email address (email address will still NEVER be revealed)

However, the new comment system has many new additional advantages for you:

• You can now easily log in via Facebook Connect, Yahoo!, Twitter or OpenID and also SHARE your comments
• You can sort comments, at your option, by Newest First, Oldest First, Popular Now and Best Rating
• We have now threaded comments and replies so that you can respond to other readers, indenting them under that comment
• You get notifications of new comments (as before) but you can now reply directly by email
• You can also easily subscribe to all comments without logging in, either by email or RSS feed
  (Important: If you have subscribed before, the notifications might not work any more, please subscribe again by checking. “Subscribe to all comments by email” under the comments box.)
• You can now edit your own comments

The best thing is (for me and for you) that IF you have a verified account (means you login via Facebook, Twitter, OpenID, Yahoo! or Disqus) you don’t have to wait that I approve your comment. It will appear immediately. Click to continue »

“Is he into me or is he not?”

This may be one of the most asked questions in the dating game.

Especially for women it sometimes can seem almost impossible to tell whether a guy is interested or not. You can spend so much time trying to figure out ‘is he or isn’t he’ that the whole evening is spoiled and you still have no idea what the real answer is.

Luckily, there is something that can give you a clue whether a man likes you or not. It’s called “body language flirting“.

Body language flirting actually reveals all the answers you will ever want to know.

All you have to do is look for the following six signs. They are very clear, subconscious indications of male attraction, which most men have no control over, so they are very accurate.

One on its own will be a hint in the right direction, but if you see three or more then you should definitely take note!

The first sign is something that seems to be very obvious, but it will give you a good idea of his attraction towards you: Click to continue »

The no-contact rule.

An outstanding concept in theory, yet so difficult to put into action. No other rule shapes the outcome of our recovery more than this one, the rule is a precondition for our survival.

But why is it so hard to follow? Why do we come up with excuses NOT to follow it, even if we know how important it is?

The addiction to one person is not easy to overcome. It takes determination, strength and foremost -the insight on a deeper level that we cannot go on like this any more, without losing ourself completely.

The following success story from AJ is about following and NOT following the no-contact rule, and how important a support system can be: Click to continue »